| 1/14/2011 10:34:53 PM |
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ladyog
The Dalles, OR
age: 55
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I'm not looking but there is always hope cause in the morning I'm going to the local recycling center...
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| 1/14/2011 10:36:06 PM |
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linsieleigh1977
Redding, CA
age: 33
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LMAO! Sorry I just found that to be funny
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| 1/14/2011 10:36:42 PM |
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jammil
Valdosta, GA
age: 27
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I don't think women try until they're older and men try too hard until they get older.
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| 1/14/2011 10:49:33 PM |
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2wheelpilot
Blackshear, GA
age: 42
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i am always looking, but i am real relaxed about it.
if i meet someone that interests me or i interest them, i take them out. no preconceived notions about what will be or the future, just the now.
i like to live in the moment and not stress about finding someone or them finding me. i am very comfortable with my life right now, but there is always room for someone to enjoy it with.
have fun, relax, this really doesn't have to be like work.
-chip
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| 1/14/2011 11:16:06 PM |
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stylish_guy
Pawtucket, RI
age: 32
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Men look harder if they don't let go. Men look harder if women don't let go.
Women, they look harder if they let go...due the the availability of time from letting go.
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| 1/14/2011 11:16:57 PM |
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joeydelli
New Hyde Park, NY
age: 56 online now!
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 Hi from Joe, after reading all of everyones answer, the way I like 2 put it is simple, its like going 2 atlantic city or vegas, If U hit the jackpot, your happy and no one will see U on D.H. anymore, if U don't U keep trying on D.H. or some other computer dating service, and there is nothing wrong with taking a break from it either, Its just ashame that society 2day has 2 find someone through a computer, what happened 2 the days when someone introduced U 2 their girl friends, gir friends or boy friends, boy friends, gone WITH THE WIND !!!, thanks joe 
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| 1/14/2011 11:43:48 PM |
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stylish_guy
Pawtucket, RI
age: 32
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Hi from Joe, after reading all of everyones answer, the way I like 2 put it is simple, its like going 2 atlantic city or vegas, If U hit the jackpot, your happy and no one will see U on D.H. anymore, if U don't U keep trying on D.H. or some other computer dating service, and there is nothing wrong with taking a break from it either, Its just ashame that society 2day has 2 find someone through a computer, what happened 2 the days when someone introduced U 2 their girl friends, gir friends or boy friends, boy friends, gone WITH THE WIND !!!, thanks joe
...when someone introduced you to their girl friends, girl friends or boy friends, boy friends ???? I never heard of that bit. That's a funny bit.
Oh wait a minute....ok, you're thinking the 60's, woodstock, acid flower power....well, I never thought I hear someone reminiscing the 60's....but ok for sake of conversavtion whatever happened to the 60's, mudbath orgies, and general all around nudity on acid....
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| 1/14/2011 11:45:12 PM |
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lookin4ones
Los Angeles, CA
age: 35
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I don't think women try until they're older and men try too hard until they get older.
Well said.
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| 1/14/2011 11:56:15 PM |
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das74
Santa Maria, CA
age: 36 online now!
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hmmm.I think we all have the same goal in mind..
to find a connection and to not compramise who we are while we are at it..
I feel from experience that while we think we may have found the one? It is sticky..
This is why I put my pro on invisible..I am done for right now.. and I feel I am on the right track..>)
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| 1/15/2011 12:07:52 AM |
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ladyvirtue1955
Redding, CA
age: 55
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I don't even feel like I'm looking anymore... or more like... I'm feeling like I can't be bothered.
I'd say, one out of every 10 emails gets more than a delete from me.
My scope is narrowing by the minute.
When I used to consider someone from a couple of hours away, I now don't. No reason, just too much bother.
When I used to consider someone 5'10"... I now don't. (They've ALL lied at the 5'10" height... all of them... and that's my minimum so... no more)
I could go on and on, and as I'm typing this, I'm realizing that it's time (again) to take a break. Go invisible. It's not fair to the guys. I'm not bitter, I'm just "indifferent".
So!! Nutshell answer.... NO!!! 
I agree with you Binder. I've experienced pretty much the same as you have. I found that I was lowering my standards just to meet a man and go out and try to have a good time. I thought that perhaps my check list was too narrow..but, I now realize that I need that check list and will not waiver from it again..too many disappointments..I also don't consider long distance relationships any more as I've tried it and it's too difficult..not being able to be with the one you care about very often due to the miles in between is frustrating to say the least..I've also discovered that the men I dated from online who stated they were 5'9 to 5'10 were eye level to me and I'm 5'6! One man was actually 4'10!
So, I am not looking..I feel that the right man will come along when I least expect it. so, for now I will play in the forums with the rest..
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| 1/15/2011 7:04:03 AM |
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ladydi780
West New York, NJ
age: 51
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Hi from Joe, after reading all of everyones answer, the way I like 2 put it is simple, its like going 2 atlantic city or vegas, If U hit the jackpot, your happy and no one will see U on D.H. anymore, if U don't U keep trying on D.H. or some other computer dating service, and there is nothing wrong with taking a break from it either, Its just ashame that society 2day has 2 find someone through a computer, what happened 2 the days when someone introduced U 2 their girl friends, gir friends or boy friends, boy friends, gone WITH THE WIND !!!, thanks joe
You are right but times have really changed ... Please I remember going out with girls to a club meeting up with guys and just have fun dancing the night away !! Having dates on Saturday night it was simple then... LOL the good old day,s no cell phone ,no texting wait people called and talked to each other too ...
[Edited 1/15/2011 7:06:09 AM ]
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| 1/15/2011 7:10:40 AM |
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xxjewelz4uxx
Alexandria, LA
age: 30
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Well...I just got here! Where are the hot men?
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| 1/15/2011 7:25:21 AM |
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dasnixter
O Kean, AR
age: 50
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Look in the mirror...
mustangwriter
48 years old
Boerne, TX
636 miles away
xxjewelz4uxx
30 years old
Alexandria, LA
351 miles away
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| 1/15/2011 7:27:04 AM |
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xxjewelz4uxx
Alexandria, LA
age: 30
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How'd you know?
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| 1/15/2011 7:27:24 AM |
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stylish_guy
Pawtucket, RI
age: 32
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hmmm.I think we all have the same goal in mind..
to find a connection and to not compramise who we are while we are at it..
I feel from experience that while we think we may have found the one? It is sticky..
This is why I put my pro on invisible..I am done for right now.. and I feel I am on the right track..>)
Congratulations for being done and getting it. Do come back and let us know if he is still doing you in three months or if you are looking for others to do you. 
I love success stories.
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| 1/15/2011 7:45:49 AM |
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rd_dude
Mesquite, TX
age: 54
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Found her...just trying to work on the details
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| 1/15/2011 8:12:01 AM |
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robert0222
Nashua, NH
age: 64
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don't think we are looking too hard, need to look to find someone.
I think we are being lulled into thinking mr or ms perfect is out there waiting for us to find them. Internet dating has promoted that idea because they make it sound so easy to find the "right" one. like we are doing right now
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| 1/15/2011 8:17:18 AM |
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frgprnce
Baltimore, MD
age: 46
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I'm looking "to" get hard...is that the same thing? Ugh...did I just say that? Must be all the frog and turtle pics this morning!
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| 1/15/2011 8:36:05 AM |
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dasnixter
O Kean, AR
age: 50
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I suppose looking too hard is preferable to looking over your shoulder.
We tend to be spoiled and addicted to instant gratification.
You know the tune; I want it all, I want it now.
Plus it's drilled in out heads that if first we don't succeed try, try again.
Not reaching a goal can bring agitation and, being our own worst critic, we tend to apply more elbow grease as the catch-all solution for fixing the perceived problem.
Maybe the key is to maintain a healthy outlook, accepting your present station in life, all the while keeping an eye peeled to opportunity that would add to your overall happiness.
I can't stress the importance enough of holding/sharing/projecting a positive outlook.
You will have to bide your time, yet patience is a virtue for a reason...
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| 1/15/2011 9:09:48 AM |
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imjustavg
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 60
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It seems every time I stop looking, that is when they find me!
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| 1/15/2011 10:55:29 AM |
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without_wax
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 37
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i was actually thinkin on this;
If people fall in love, tell the other one they have never felt this way before; they are the one etc.
For some of you spiritual people out there; why do you get to demand true love if there was only one God made for you?
Why would you treat true love like something you can go to walmart and pick up on special?
I have not found my one, when i thought i had, they convinced me i hadnt and i treated it horribly! they are now on their way to being married and i am happy for them.
However, i do not blame God, Fate or Odds of men vs women....
one day, i will find my one and i wont treat it like a two for one sale!
I am patient, i am made for someone else,
but not everyone HAS to be the one!
Don't delude yourself!
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| 1/15/2011 11:07:10 AM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
age: 43
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Gimmie a break. Women dont HAVE to look. Men have vagina GPS! All women have to do is stop moving and WAIT.
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| 1/15/2011 11:14:34 AM |
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without_wax
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 37
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Gimmie a break. Women dont HAVE to look. Men have vagina GPS! All women have to do is stop moving and WAIT.
i dont think she was discussing ASS,
that is easy to find;
i believe the OP is talking about her long term 'mate'.
you are not compatible with everyone, and THE ONE isn't supposed to just be easy.
It takes time, lots of failures usually and hope;
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| 1/15/2011 11:45:51 AM |
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northphxhiker
Phoenix, AZ
age: 49
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i thought this was a totally different topic
nevermind
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| 1/15/2011 11:55:06 AM |
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prophecygirl97
Northborough, MA
age: 24
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I'm the queen of finding failures. It seems that I am like fly paper for morons. I am tempted to stop looking and see what happens. However, I have tried that method before and you know what happened? I was single for not months but years. So in my opinion that method didn't work for me. Who knows maybe it was just bad timing. All I know is I'm sick of looking, and I'm sick of dating guys just to realize they have more then a few bolts loose. I'd like to find "the one" for me.
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| 1/15/2011 12:01:10 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49 online now!
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I suppose looking too hard is preferable to looking over your shoulder.
We tend to be spoiled and addicted to instant gratification.
You know the tune; I want it all, I want it now.
Plus it's drilled in out heads that if first we don't succeed try, try again.
Not reaching a goal can bring agitation and, being our own worst critic, we tend to apply more elbow grease as the catch-all solution for fixing the perceived problem.
Maybe the key is to maintain a healthy outlook, accepting your present station in life, all the while keeping an eye peeled to opportunity that would add to your overall happiness.
I can't stress the importance enough of holding/sharing/projecting a positive outlook.
You will have to bide your time, yet patience is a virtue for a reason...
My search has always been for what I offer, but when I can't offer what it is I seek, it's time to re-assess. (I sound like leftfooted there!!)
Breaks don't always mean that you've been trying too hard, or that you're giving up. It's healthy to take time to self analyze... if more people did it we wouldn't have so many "poor me" threads!!
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| 1/15/2011 12:13:00 PM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
age: 43
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i dont think she was discussing ASS,
that is easy to find;
i believe the OP is talking about her long term 'mate'.
you are not compatible with everyone, and THE ONE isn't supposed to just be easy.
It takes time, lots of failures usually and hope;
Thats my POINT! Ass IS easy to find...for YOU! You women will NEVER understand how much you take that for granted! You think its just as easy for us guys, because you know a FEW charmers who make it LOOK easy. They are the exception, NOT the rule.
But what i am trying to tell you is this: As women, you need your SEX in order to draw men in to FIND OUT if they are "the ONE". Dont you see?
the FIRST step, NUMBER ONE, in finding youir perfect partner is to create a POOL of potential partners! And for THAT, you women need do nothing more than sit back and wait. Suitors will just COME to you, because of SEX. Thats life.
Normal men have to hunt like Hell just to find PROSPECTS, let alone finding the right one!
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| 1/15/2011 12:29:03 PM |
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stylish_guy
Pawtucket, RI
age: 32
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Thats my POINT! Ass IS easy to find...for YOU!
At the end of the day I sit down. Works for me.
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| 1/15/2011 12:41:12 PM |
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snowbird02s
Florence
Italy
age: 46
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I can honestly say that, I don't go out to hunt for a mate/ bf... Much less, a soul mate.
I prefer to just go out & let nature take it's course.. I believe that is the best way too..
I think the more someOne looks' for a bf/partner, the less likely it is to happen. IMHO
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| 1/15/2011 1:57:36 PM |
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indianadave1951
Elkhart, IN
age: 59
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I'm not looking but there is always hope cause in the morning I'm going to the local recycling center...
You look for dates at a recycling center? 
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| 1/15/2011 2:15:36 PM |
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2shacks
Mooresville, NC
age: 47 online now!
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I think I'm window shopping until something jumps out and wants me to try it on. I believe in keeping your eyes & heart open but don't constantly look for it. Sometimes, it's the last one you'd think.
If I just went up & pulled him by the belt loop, would I get arrested? Then again, there is a cop I'm attracted to.
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| 1/15/2011 4:06:37 PM |
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herewegoagain5
Denison, TX
age: 57
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"My house has heat"!
LOL!!!
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| 1/15/2011 4:25:42 PM |
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walkaholic
Kent, WA
age: 39
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found him, just the wrong time for both of us.
Replace the word "him" with "her" for me.
I am one who is always looking, but not too hard. This is of course before I was seeing this lady I am currently.
I am a believer that you never know who you're going to come across, so I am always looking.
The current lady I am dating, I used to work with. We both worked late one night, and I was going to dinner, and asked her platonically as co-workers asked her if she wanted to join me as late as it was, and had ZERO intentions.
Our conversation went great and it made both of us curious about the other, but both told the other since we work together we couldn't date.
We just talked as co workers for about a month and she wanted to find new things to do. I invited her to a ballgame, and we had a blast and both said the next day we wanted to get to know the other.
We've had some rocky times, but I am not giving up on her, and don't think she wants to either.
My point is, love usually happens when you least expect it!!!! So quit trying so hard for it!!!
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| 1/15/2011 8:25:30 PM |
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ladydi780
West New York, NJ
age: 51
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I think I'm window shopping until something jumps out and wants me to try it on. I believe in keeping your eyes & heart open but don't constantly look for it. Sometimes, it's the last one you'd think.
If I just went up & pulled him by the belt loop, would I get arrested? Then again, there is a cop I'm attracted to.
Go for it let us know where we have to send the bail money !!! LOL
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| 1/15/2011 8:29:32 PM |
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lookin4ones
Los Angeles, CA
age: 35
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Live life as normal. If it should happen it will. Sometimes just by walking down the street.
Make sure he is not homeless. 
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| 1/15/2011 8:40:15 PM |
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stigertails
McKinney, TX
age: 51
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not even looking . Just holding out hope for one that can not deside if and when she ever wants to date or get into any relationship with anyone. Been almost 5 years so what is another 5 or six years of waiting.
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| 1/15/2011 8:42:17 PM |
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oscarruitt
Tacoma, WA
age: 42
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Not even looking? Bro, you're on the wrong site.
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| 1/15/2011 9:13:30 PM |
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jadebop
Sartell, MN
age: 32
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i think when we try too hard to do anything in life we end up disappointed in the results...it's my opinion that for the purpose of finding "the one" it just has to happen on it's own
"you can't go forcing something if it's just not right"-Green Day, When I Come Around
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| 1/15/2011 11:50:22 PM |
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das74
Santa Maria, CA
age: 36 online now!
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lol...it is not about being done..and yes I took myself off of invisible I realized not all "friends" that contacted me could not see my profile until they brought it to my attention...but yes..he seems okay
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| 1/16/2011 11:30:54 AM |
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okbassman
Lahoma, OK
age: 55
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For the right one, our soul mate, the love of our lives ... If we try letting go will we find it?
I gave up looking YEARS ago. Why look for something you will never find? Letting go hasn't worked as of now either.
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| 1/16/2011 2:30:24 PM |
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without_wax
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 37
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Thats my POINT! Ass IS easy to find...for YOU! You women will NEVER understand how much you take that for granted! You think its just as easy for us guys, because you know a FEW charmers who make it LOOK easy. They are the exception, NOT the rule.
But what i am trying to tell you is this: As women, you need your SEX in order to draw men in to FIND OUT if they are "the ONE". Dont you see?
the FIRST step, NUMBER ONE, in finding youir perfect partner is to create a POOL of potential partners! And for THAT, you women need do nothing more than sit back and wait. Suitors will just COME to you, because of SEX. Thats life.
Normal men have to hunt like Hell just to find PROSPECTS, let alone finding the right one!
please take the time to read this;
female; gets her legs shaved, showers, puts on something HOT and goes to lets say 'a bar'.
She walks in, looks around and WONDERS; hmm, who am i going to lay tonight?
Male; gets his trimmers out, showers, puts on what he thinks he is spiffy in and goes out to same bar.
He walks in, looks around and HOPES, who will give me some ass?
HOWEVER;
guy gets girl to say yes! YAY! He KNOWS he is going to have an orgasm.
girl gets guy to say yes! Not even surprised! She HOPES she is going to have an orgasm!
pfft; i call us EVEN BABE! wish i were kidding!
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| 1/16/2011 3:24:10 PM |
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wonderwoman137
Beaver Dam, WI
age: 37
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Sometimes I think that I didn't get the memo on how to find a good single guy. I have many friends that go from being in a relationship, it ends, and then they are right back into another relationship. And here I am almost six years after my divorce and I have spent the majority of it single. I get so sick of people saying that it will happen when I least expect it or that I should not try so hard to make something happen. I have found that the only people who say that are the people who are in relationships. I don't mind being single and I don't want to be in a relationship to be in a relationship but somehow I think I am defective when it comes to dating. Does anyone have a copy of a dating manual?
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| 1/16/2011 3:37:31 PM |
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riannasky
Edison, NJ
age: 40
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I think I was looking too hard and settling for people that keep hurting me. No more!
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| 1/16/2011 3:42:14 PM |
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jammil
Valdosta, GA
age: 27
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I think I was looking too hard and settling for people that keep hurting me. No more!
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| 1/16/2011 4:06:40 PM |
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josh_p
Los Angeles, CA
age: 24 online now!
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I'm not looking at all.
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| 1/16/2011 4:09:32 PM |
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dasnixter
O Kean, AR
age: 50
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Can we look w/one?
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| 1/16/2011 4:13:29 PM |
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2txgrneyes
Pasadena, TX
age: 48
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Wonderwoman137 - I feel I missed that memo also  Pretty much the same situation here.
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| 1/16/2011 4:18:38 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Stroudsburg, PA
age: 49
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i think when we try too hard to do anything in life we end up disappointed in the results...it's my opinion that for the purpose of finding "the one" it just has to happen on it's own
"you can't go forcing something if it's just not right"-Green Day, When I Come Around
Having expectations can always lead to disappointment. I hate it tho' when others say NOT to expect anything and just let it flow and be. I mean that's such BS too, why then go out at all if you don't have any hopes or expectations that something good might come of it?!
Sometimes I think that I didn't get the memo on how to find a good single guy. I have many friends that go from being in a relationship, it ends, and then they are right back into another relationship. And here I am almost six years after my divorce and I have spent the majority of it single. I get so sick of people saying that it will happen when I least expect it or that I should not try so hard to make something happen. I have found that the only people who say that are the people who are in relationships. I don't mind being single and I don't want to be in a relationship to be in a relationship but somehow I think I am defective when it comes to dating. Does anyone have a copy of a dating manual?
You're NOT alone in thinking and feeling this way WonderWoman, I'm sitting right next to you on this one! If you ever get a hold of this "DATING MANUAL" and "EFFECATIVE PICKING"  send it my way!
I think I was looking too hard and settling for people that keep hurting me. No more!
Thankfully I never was in a physically abusive relationship BUT mentally and emotionally abusive men can do just as much damage. I too think that when you try too hard to achieve a difficult goal sometimes you SETTLE for less than the best.
Right now I'm personally going through an unsettling time in my life and trying to figure out where all the pieces are and how to put them together so I'm pretty much "off the market" and taking a break from 'dating' or even looking for men. Funny thing is that they still keep popping up, uninvited. Wonder IF they'll still be there when I'm willing and ready to start up the picking and meeting again?!
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| 1/16/2011 6:09:48 PM |
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2shacks
Mooresville, NC
age: 47 online now!
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Go for it let us know where we have to send the bail money !!! LOL
If I thought I wouldn't get rejected, I would. 
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| 1/16/2011 6:12:45 PM |
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ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 35
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I'm not holding on to anything.......and I'm still not going to find a "soul mate". Hell, I can't even get a simple smile and hello from most women.
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| 1/17/2011 2:55:54 AM |
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2wheelpilot
Blackshear, GA
age: 42
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please take the time to read this;
female; gets her legs shaved, showers, puts on something HOT and goes to lets say 'a bar'.
She walks in, looks around and WONDERS; hmm, who am i going to lay tonight?
Male; gets his trimmers out, showers, puts on what he thinks he is spiffy in and goes out to same bar.
He walks in, looks around and HOPES, who will give me some ass?
HOWEVER;
guy gets girl to say yes! YAY! He KNOWS he is going to have an orgasm.
girl gets guy to say yes! Not even surprised! She HOPES she is going to have an orgasm!
pfft; i call us EVEN BABE! wish i were kidding!
well i guess that would explain "oh thank god, it has been a while".
-chip
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| 1/17/2011 9:24:26 AM |
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walkaholic
Kent, WA
age: 39
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from LTR "Having expectations can always lead to disappointment. I hate it tho' when others say NOT to expect anything and just let it flow and be. I mean that's such BS too, why then go out at all if you don't have any hopes or expectations that something good might come of it?! "
I agree LTR. I am currently in the midst of dating a lady, and we are going through a rough patch. If it does end, I will take my time to heal, because I really do like her.
When I do heal, there isn't no going with the flow. There will be once I meet her. But if I see someone I am interested in, I am not going to let her come to me. The worst thing that is going to happen is she's not going to be interested and I can say "next".
I learned 2 years ago, life's too short, and we should go out and get what we want, be it women/men, clothes, a car ETC.
So I will always be looking, just not online!!!!
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