| 2/24/2008 2:56:38 PM |
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piedmontdad
Cherryville, NC
age: 49
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I'm confused. The original question is: why there is sex talk on the first date to which you were obviously opposed to. But in the very next post you said it would be OK if you were attracted to him, so which is it. maybe, in a poor avenue, he was trying to indicate your attractiveness to him. But according to you, since he wasn't attractive to you, these discussions were unacceptable to you. It's no wonder that we sometimes feel like our heads are spinning like the Exorcist. It's OK if I think YOU are attractive to talk sex on a first date, BUT, if I don't think you're attractive then it's totally unacceptable. Guess I'll just try to read your mind or wait until Sitkarins grabs me.
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| 2/24/2008 3:00:14 PM |
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rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 49
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I think this can happen for several reasons.
1. You are putting a certain "vibe" out there whether it's joking, through sexual connotation, dressing and/or behaving in a flirtatious manner.
and/or
2. your "picker" is broken and you a agreeing to go on dates with men with one thing on their minds.
3. alcohol
I see far too many women joking and writing in a very sexual way on this site.They claim to be liberal and comfortable with themselves. Personally, I think this shows how little they think of themselves. I think people get too comfortable on the sites and share information that is best reserved for a best friend, significant other, spouse or a therapist. How would you feel if your child or employer read your posting.
Keep in mind that what you write remains in cyberspace and can be retrieved, most notably by an employer looking to hire you.
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| 2/24/2008 3:10:33 PM |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 45 online now!
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Once again dutch makes the most sense........
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| 2/24/2008 3:10:58 PM |
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chimike
Chicago, IL
age: 56
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I must be doing something wrong, this hasn't come up anytime I've met someone! Kidding. Don't know all the particulars, maybe you've spoken of or kidded about sex online or on the phone or something? If it comes out of the blue, well then, could be that's all he's after - that I have heard of happening quite often. But, as we're all adults, or are supposed to be, if you're in a situation you don't like - leave, simple as that. Like I did yesterday with some right wing Republican Bush supporter...
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| 2/24/2008 3:11:47 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I think occasionally in the threads we forget - how public they are. A bad day, a feeling of security, frivolity etc., can lead us to say something flippantly that is out of charachter with who we are or what we feel in real life.
This happens and the people on the threads do not know how to judge which woman are you?
And everyone on here judges others,
without knowing until they meet in real life....
and even then perhaps not....
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| 2/24/2008 3:14:32 PM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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damn are y'all born in the bible belt or wtf? its about passion people. if theres a spark between the 2 of you it might be something thats good....not bad. ive had many dates that nothing happened, but ive had some that were wowwwwie!!!!!! just hate it when everyone wants to act all mary poppins and shit.
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| 2/24/2008 3:17:14 PM |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 45 online now!
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Don't bring Mary Poppins into this please...........lol
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| 2/24/2008 3:27:50 PM |
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countrysweet07
Clifton, CO
age: 47
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this is a bit crazy now, for one i didn't act or wear anything out of line or say not one thing sexual he said to me you have very nice clevage i was wearing a sweater...i just wanted to know why it has to happen that a good date turns this way.ok maybe it is chemistry. but can't a man hold back his feelings for the next date why the first?
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| 2/24/2008 3:38:40 PM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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By the time I meet a man in person he already knows something about my personality. My mother always said men will treat you as you act. Please don't take offense to that remark, I don't mean it about anyone specific other than myself. So how I act on that date indicates how he will treat me. I've never had a date go sexual on the first date and always got second, thirds etc unless I cut him loose. I've most certainly told him to hit the road if we are talking online or phone and it turns sexual. I'm not a prude I just have my quirks about the when wheres hows and ifs of sex and dating. A man either treats me as a lady and with respect or he doesn't deserve my company.
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| 2/24/2008 3:50:15 PM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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cause most folks are either too easy, or just want too try and get back at someone for talking too the one they claim they love, yet they don't want anyone talking too them
[Edited 2/24/2008 3:59:26 PM]
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| 2/24/2008 4:01:18 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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you just met a guy that has lots of testosterone working.
1. who knows, he probably hasn't had any in a long time, so his hormones are running wild
2. he probably didn't have a date in a very long time so you are fresh meat and he can't control himself.
I never mention anything about sex etc... during a date. What most men fail to realize that when you don't mention or do anything regarding sex and you show them a splendid time, they usually send signals etc... That's your clue to pick up and if you are really lucky, you may even score on the first date - it happens. everyone has hormones. many women would deny this because of "WHAT SOCIETY SAYS" but trust me, if you been vibing with a female for a while over the phone, and you go out and show her a great evening, your chances increase dramatically. I'm not saying this happens all the time though, it depends on both people.
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| 2/24/2008 4:06:31 PM |
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familyguy58103
Fargo, ND
age: 49
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Cuz I'm just that smooth!!!!   
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| 2/24/2008 4:08:43 PM |
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mindyb
Bloomington, IL
age: 42 online now!
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My dates are sensual and playful but not sexually active until I know what I could be getting myself into. I take care of myself and I certainly am not going to be careless. I think first dates should be exciting crazy fun but no matter how long its been, TRUST me....lol...a woman needs to be lady first and foremost...but no one said we can't be a lot of fun and aid in the imagination. It does seem that the subject of sex does get brought up to me which is never uncomfortable for me to discuss and I never mind because then he knows my values that I have set for myself. I find that men seem to be more interested in me because I do value me and won't go there right away.
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| 2/24/2008 4:09:53 PM |
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metu
Ramona, CA
age: 46
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I think a lot of people are lonely & desparate for that feeling of love....however, I don't believe in "Love at first date".....so, usually it's cuz they're horney. If that's what floats your boat, cool, but I'm worth way more than that.....he's gotta show me the respect first.
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| 2/24/2008 4:11:59 PM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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maybe it colud be cause they want too compare each person they are with, so they can choose who they want
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