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2/19/2011 6:39:46 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mbpa
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36


Can you really be with someone that's still close friends with their ex
Should people just leave the past in the past and move on, or is there nothing wrong with it.
Now a days I find that I meet more and more women that say their still cool with ex's
Me, I feel that once you start a real relationship with someone new that if you ever had sex with a person then the friendship is over.
I guess that's just my way of respecting the new person
What do you all think

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2/19/2011 6:40:37 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

honestami
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,006)
Ravenna, OH
age: 55


I am secure enough that I could care less. After all,there is a reason they are the EX?

2/19/2011 6:44:22 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mbpa
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36


But if there's a reason that their the EX then what's the reason to keep a friendship?

2/19/2011 6:45:00 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

ashadeofred
Over 1,000 Posts (1,167)
Lansing, MI
age: 60


It depends if children are involved. If there are, then staying on good terms is important. If there are no children, then the "friendliness" should be cut back, for respect for the new love interest.

2/19/2011 6:46:54 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mbpa
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36


And don't get me wrong I'm not a insecure guy, I guess its more about respecting the new person
And understanding that you can't try and start something new with one person while your still trying to hold on the something with the old person

2/19/2011 6:48:30 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

libertine666
West Springfield, MA
age: 45


Once I make a break,it's a clean break. Life is about moving forward,not looking back. be seeing you.

2/19/2011 6:49:56 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

crankygeezer
Coram, NY
age: 52


I like and respect the fact that a woman stays friendly wih her ex. Especially if their are children involved. In fact, one of the last things I want to hear on a date is about how her ex is lying low life scum bag and everything crappy in her life (and even stuff that has nothing to do with her like the national debt) is his fault.

Your OP reeks of insecurity and control issues.

2/19/2011 6:51:38 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

testnthwtr65
Wildwood, NJ
age: 45 online now!


Yeah, the whole kids thing is a big reason. All my ex's have been ex's for so long i can barely remember what happened. (only 1 ex wife!) So i guess if i ran into one of them we would be friendly. I know i would be. I can appreciate you handling it your way out of respect for your "new" woman. That's thoughtful. Possibly unnecessary but thoughtful.



[Edited 2/19/2011 6:53:30 AM ]

2/19/2011 6:54:04 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

_settee
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,224)
Flower Mound, TX
age: 57


I agree, Cranky...everyone has a past...anyone who can still remain friendly with an ex is someone who has respect for others..

I don't date scum bags..

2/19/2011 6:54:50 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

custislong
Over 2,000 Posts (2,829)
Riddle, OR
age: 52


Quote from mbpa:
Can you really be with someone that's still close friends with their ex
Should people just leave the past in the past and move on, or is there nothing wrong with it.
Now a days I find that I meet more and more women that say their still cool with ex's
Me, I feel that once you start a real relationship with someone new that if you ever had sex with a person then the friendship is over.
I guess that's just my way of respecting the new person
What do you all think



As other people have repeatedly said, exes are exes for a reason. I am on friendly terms with my ex-wife, hell, we share children. But I do not hang out with her or go on dates with her.

2/19/2011 6:56:26 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mbpa
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36


wow you couldn't be more off base
Its not about insecurity and control issues
I'm sure that if I started a relationship with a woman that she's not going to want me hanging out with other women that I've been with before her.
If you have kids with the other person then I can understand that to a point
But if I have a new woman then I can't think of too many reasons to still be holding on to my ex

2/19/2011 7:00:53 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

crankygeezer
Coram, NY
age: 52


Quote from mbpa:
wow you couldn't be more off base
Its not about insecurity and control issues
I'm sure that if I started a relationship with a woman that she's not going to want me hanging out with other women that I've been with before her.
If you have kids with the other person then I can understand that to a point
But if I have a new woman then I can't think of too many reasons to still be holding on to my ex



Bullshit. Insecurity control and jealousy all go together. Tell yourself whatever you want. You asked for opinions not validation.

2/19/2011 7:02:16 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

yajusneverkno
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,947)
Oxford, AL
age: 43


Quote from crankygeezer:


Your OP reeks of insecurity and control issues.

Kinda vague too. Are they texting all the time and hanging out on Fri. nights watching movies at his place, or stop and speak to each other in the mall

2/19/2011 7:03:15 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

_settee
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,224)
Flower Mound, TX
age: 57


OP, your fear would be what? That she's still got an interest in the ex? What if they found they were much better friends than lovers?

You know about the friend zone, right?



[Edited 2/19/2011 7:04:10 AM ]

2/19/2011 7:04:31 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

honestami
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,006)
Ravenna, OH
age: 55


Quote from mbpa:
But if there's a reason that their the EX then what's the reason to keep a friendship?
Most of the time it is children,,but if no children are involved then always remember"Resentments Rot The Container They Are Housed In"



[Edited 2/19/2011 7:05:35 AM ]

2/19/2011 7:05:08 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mbpa
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36


No its not Bull shit
Its a thing call don't be in a relationship and live like your single and don't be single and live like your in a relationship
If your single then cool be friends with whoever, sleep with whoever, etc....
But once you start a relationship then yes alot has to change, its called respecting the other person
And doing to them as you would want done to you
Focus on your new relationship instead of looking back trying to hold on to parts of the old one, its called moving on
And ladies your crazy and lying if you say that you don't mind your man still hanging out with his ex

2/19/2011 7:07:35 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

jerseyjon
Mount Holly, NJ
age: 41


NO! Do you make it a common practice to stay friends with people who screw you over?

2/19/2011 7:08:41 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

yajusneverkno
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,947)
Oxford, AL
age: 43


Quote from mbpa:

Its a thing call don't be in a relationship and live like your single and don't be single and live like your in a relationship
I'm single and live like I'm married. Work all the d@mn time and never get laid

2/19/2011 7:09:40 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

neo52
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,377)
Marathon, FL
age: 54


Quote from norababe1:
Well I believe TRUST is something that builds over time.... And for some it takes longer because they have a bad experience.....These days you just cant trust a person over night.



Something to think about OP ..^^^
Do you have TRUST issues ...?

2/19/2011 7:10:40 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

_settee
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,224)
Flower Mound, TX
age: 57


Quote from mbpa:
And ladies your crazy and lying if you say that you don't mind your man still hanging out with his ex


I beg your pardon..

This just isn't true..the only way it would be a factor is if he tried to hide his exes..or lied about them..

2/19/2011 7:10:46 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

honestami
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,006)
Ravenna, OH
age: 55


Quote from jerseyjon:
NO! Do you make it a common practice to stay friends with people who screw you over?
Thats a really ignorant statement,,how do you know who screwed who over?

2/19/2011 7:12:38 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mindovermatter6
Over 2,000 Posts (3,820)
Waterford, MI
age: 50


If the guy I am dating has children - he better be nice to his ex!

2/19/2011 7:14:00 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

jerseyjon
Mount Holly, NJ
age: 41


Quote from honestami:
Thats a really ignorant statement,,how do you know who screwed who over?


usually its mutual honestsalami



[Edited 2/19/2011 7:17:01 AM ]

2/19/2011 7:16:07 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mbpa
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36


You all can say what you want
It has nothing to do with insecurity and control issues, or trust issues
I have nothing against having friends male or female
But once I start a relationship, then if its somoene that you've had sex with then yes I'd have a problem with there being a frienship and out of respect for her I woudn't keep those friendships with women that I"ve had sex with either.
My focus is on my new woman, not my old women

2/19/2011 7:20:45 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

imjustavg
Over 1,000 Posts (1,410)
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 60


Personally, I like a woman that can at least be civil to an ex! And if there are children involved then it should be more than just civil, for the sake of the kids!

I never said anything bad about my daughters mother in front of her, and never even told her why it didn't work out until she asked me directly at the age of 32. My ex did not use the same technic, and would talk bad about me in front of her. BUT that worked out good for me, since now my daughter moved to Colorado to be closer to me.

2/19/2011 7:23:07 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

pdforone
Over 2,000 Posts (3,048)
Litchfield, OH
age: 59


Quote from _settee:
I agree, Cranky...everyone has a past...anyone who can still remain friendly with an ex is someone who has respect for others..

I don't date scum bags..


I have little or nothing to say to the insane, liars, thieves, or cheats. So I show them the respect they deserve, I avoid contact. If you can`t spot trouble? the least you can do is stay away from it once you realize it?

I could spend years talking to my walls, but if I can`t get a reasonable or logical answer from them what is the point? Mine are exes for cause, there is no logical reason to repeat the same mistakes. I showed mine respect, and got less in return. Fool me once? shame on you! Fool me twice? shame on me?

2/19/2011 7:23:34 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

crankygeezer
Coram, NY
age: 52


Quote from mbpa:
No its not Bull shit of course it is



Its a thing call don't be in a relationship and live like your single and don't be single and live like your in a relationship what does staying friendly with an ex and living like you're single have in common? Answer: nothing, unless it is your insecurity that links them together.


If your single then cool be friends with whoever, sleep with whoever, etc....
But once you start a relationship then yes alot has to change, its called respecting the other person no doubt things change when you're single, but if anyone would ever ask me to give up my friends then guess what I'm going to give up? Hint: It's not my friendships.


And doing to them as you would want done to you Yes, reciprocity is a good thing


Focus on your new relationship instead of looking back trying to hold on to parts of the old one, its called moving on What does staying on friendly terms with an ex have to do with looking back? It's called being an adult. Time to grow up dude.


And ladies your crazy and lying if you say that you don't mind your man still hanging out with his ex Staying friendly with an ex does not mean you two are hanging out. There are levels of friendship. The case you bring up is extreme. Would that bother me? Possibly. However, cutting off someone from friends is a control and insecurity issue. End of story.



2/19/2011 7:25:58 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

yajusneverkno
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,947)
Oxford, AL
age: 43


Well I would hope that in time I would be her best friend and she would want to spend her time with me. I would also hope she had respect for me and showed it, the same as I would her. I'm not gonna teach a grown woman to be respectful, if it doesn't come natural for her, she's not gonna be around long anyway. So I wouldn't insist on the ex being gone. If I wasn't comfortable with her actions, I'd remove myself from the situation.

Like I said before, your post is to vague. Some call saying "hi" to each other being friendly.

2/19/2011 7:27:08 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mbpa
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36


You don't get it
Yeah I understand if they have kids, I have kids and I'm very cool with my kids mom, you have to be for the sake of the kids, now am I going out hanging out having drinks with her no, am I sitting back on the phone with her all the time no, its a relatonship about the kids.
Now what I'm talking about is when you don't have kids
All I hear from you all is "oh yeah its cool to be civil with your ex" etc.....
Why what's the point its a EX, and once you start something new then focus on that
Will you have male/female friends yes of course that's life, but its hard enough being friends with someone that you had a relationship with when your single and even harder once your with someone new
Its called moving on

2/19/2011 7:29:52 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

crankygeezer
Coram, NY
age: 52


Quote from mbpa:
You don't get it
Yeah I understand if they have kids, I have kids and I'm very cool with my kids mom, you have to be for the sake of the kids, now am I going out hanging out having drinks with her no, am I sitting back on the phone with her all the time no, its a relatonship about the kids.
Now what I'm talking about is when you don't have kids
All I hear from you all is "oh yeah its cool to be civil with your ex" etc.....
Why what's the point its a EX, and once you start something new then focus on that
Will you have male/female friends yes of course that's life, but its hard enough being friends with someone that you had a relationship with when your single and even harder once your with someone new
Its called moving on


No, you don''t get it!!! Once again I remind you that you asked for opinions and not validation. This is f**king pointless since you really do not want opinions. You're looking for people to agree with you. Guess what? Looks like quite a few do not. Oh well.

2/19/2011 7:38:11 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

becky_2010
Sevierville, TN
age: 42


I try to be civil with my children's father for their sake only. But by no means are we on a friendly level.

Most relationships with me that end, normally end completely. There have been exceptions but I agree with you about it being a matter of respect for the new person to not continue contact with them.

2/19/2011 7:42:51 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

stasisbane
Over 1,000 Posts (1,682)
Irondale, MO
age: 40


It really does come down to trust. If she is friends with an ex, and I fear/think she will sleep with him, I'm not showing her that I trust her. Same goes for her to me.

I'm friends with several of my exes, and several of my fwb's, if she's compatible with me, then she will Trust that she is the only one I have sex with, and vice versa. We either trust each other or not.

Should it turn out she cheats, then she wasn't for me to start with, no biggie.

2/19/2011 7:46:13 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

hotpink36
Over 1,000 Posts (1,283)
Springfield, OR
age: 38


First off how long has it been since they broke up?

If they are still there for each other and texting alot and hanging out I would be careful...... I have been on both sides of this and looking back even though I wanted to date I wasn't ready to let go of my ex yet.
And when it was done to me I tried so hard to be cool about it that I even did her hair only to find out sometimes they were too friendly

So I guess im giving you the other side of why some ex's are still friendly...

I am now friendly and cival to my ex but keep out personal lifes out of out conversation and don't hand out

2/19/2011 8:01:10 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

bitsybon
Over 2,000 Posts (3,373)
Jacksonville, FL
age: 53 online now!


My 2nd divorce was over 10 years ago. She and I spent 10 years fighting.
In the last year she has had breast cancer, a mastectomy, and chemo therapy.
She has needed a friend, not an enemy.
I was tired of the fighting a long tine ago.
Isn't it the "right" thing to do to be a friend, and lend a hand if she need it?
I haven't forgotten why we split up, I just got over it.
I also don't want other than a friendly relationship with her.
If a new lady has a problem with that, it's her problem not mine.
Ex's are ex's for a reason, but if you can remain friends, or become friends again,
I believe both parties, and any children will be better for it.

2/19/2011 8:03:16 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

sherri_
Over 2,000 Posts (2,819)
Erlanger, KY
age: 49


Quote from mbpa:
Can you really be with someone that's still close friends with their ex
Should people just leave the past in the past and move on, or is there nothing wrong with it.
Now a days I find that I meet more and more women that say their still cool with ex's
Me, I feel that once you start a real relationship with someone new that if you ever had sex with a person then the friendship is over.
I guess that's just my way of respecting the new person
What do you all think


Your way of respecting a new person is to throw away the person you respected last?

Um....

2/19/2011 8:06:58 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

lakersrock
Over 2,000 Posts (3,684)
Springville, UT
age: 43


expecting people to dump there friends, leads to resentment, not repsect. JMO

2/19/2011 8:08:21 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

bitsybon
Over 2,000 Posts (3,373)
Jacksonville, FL
age: 53 online now!


I mentioned my 2nd "ex" in my first posting.
My 1st divorce was over 29 years ago.
wouldn't that be carrying a grudge a little too far?
All you're doing is limiting your self.

2/19/2011 8:11:28 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

sherri_
Over 2,000 Posts (2,819)
Erlanger, KY
age: 49


Quote from mbpa:
No its not Bull shit
Its a thing call don't be in a relationship and live like your single and don't be single and live like your in a relationship


Awesome...more rules attempting to be imposed on me by others

<----------nonconformist, amuse me with your rules

2/19/2011 8:15:28 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

ashadeofred
Over 1,000 Posts (1,167)
Lansing, MI
age: 60


I agree with you Op. I understand what you are trying to convey....its about respect and moving on.

It amazes me, how all the different perspectives that can come to light when we are all reading the same original statement.

You Op, are conducting yourself with class in dealing with argumentative people who want to voice their opinions....congrats!

2/19/2011 8:16:30 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

yajusneverkno
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,947)
Oxford, AL
age: 43


Quote from lakersrock:
expecting people to dump there friends, leads to resentment, not repsect. JMO

I think it's wrong to expect anything from someone else. Either accept them as they are, or move on. I think it's stupid to get involved with someone, then get all pissy because they don't live up to expectations

2/19/2011 8:18:23 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

lakersrock
Over 2,000 Posts (3,684)
Springville, UT
age: 43




2/19/2011 8:25:13 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

nunbttr
Over 2,000 Posts (2,384)
Middletown, OH
age: 64


Quote from mbpa:
You all can say what you want
It has nothing to do with insecurity and control issues, or trust issues
I have nothing against having friends male or female
But once I start a relationship, then if its somoene that you've had sex with then yes I'd have a problem with there being a frienship and out of respect for her I woudn't keep those friendships with women that I"ve had sex with either.
My focus is on my new woman, not my old women


If you're looking for validation, you're obviously not going to get it here.
Good luck in your endeavor's.

2/19/2011 8:38:54 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  
fieldpark
Chicago, IL
age: 45


I wouldn't have a problem with it. I don't want to tell someone whom they can or can't be friends with.

2/19/2011 8:47:07 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

kaybaymarine
Denver, CO
age: 49


the ladys wonthave to wiery about me being bff with ex haha

2/19/2011 8:47:52 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

portlagioia
Holbrook, MA
age: 47 online now!


I originally remained "friendly" with my ex husband for the sake of my kids. But, over the years, we really have become true friends again.

I've known him since I was 14 years old. We share a lot of history, some good, some bad, some of it downright beautiful.

We really don't have any attraction for each other. It's just bond we have.

Gioia

2/19/2011 8:50:43 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

kokopelligal
Mesa, AZ
age: 43


I dated someone that still went to basketball games with his second ex-wife. I got rid of him because he was spending Saturday nights with his ex! FUBAR!

2/19/2011 9:33:22 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

nursereb
Billings, MT
age: 32


I think you can and should be civil with everyone you can.... Does that mean u hang out with an ex if ur in a comitted relationship? NOOOO Out of respect for the person im in a comitted relationship with i break all communication with all exs.... I see it as a respect thing. I would respect my man enough to make him my only man... with the exception of my daughter's father.... thats a link that will never go away... but still... my communication with him would be purely out of the need of our daughter. I would expect the same from my man if we were in a commited relationship. I was married to a guy who kept relationships with all of his exes... would run away into another room to talk on the phone with them, basicly had emotional affairs with them... it was really hurtfull... not willing to go there again. that is my two cents... I dont think it has anything to do with insecurity or control, but a respect issue, and wanting to protect a relationship that meant something more than casual dating. I think people need to protect their relationships that mean something to them more than we generally do.

2/19/2011 9:39:36 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

jerseyjon
Mount Holly, NJ
age: 41


im not playin second fiddle to no ex's.no maam

2/19/2011 10:10:03 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  
sweetlady36
Drumore, PA
age: 47


I agree with you Op that once your in a new relationship then you shouldn't be hanging out with your Ex.

I wouldn't have a problem with any man I was in a relationship with being friendly with an Ex or even doing a favor for her. I am still friends with some of my Ex boyfriends and if I ever need a favor from them they would be here for me. Just because they are a Ex doesn't mean that we don't still care about them. For example, When my dad passed away my car broke down the night before the funeral. My Ex boyfriend called me the day before that and said he heard about my dad and wanted to see how I was. He said if there was anything I needed or if I just wanted to talk I could call him. I was seeing someone at the time and he was working nights. I was planning on going to the funeral with my new boyfriend and my kids (3 son's plus my oldest son's girlfriend) were going to go in my car. I called my Ex boyfriend and asked him if I could borrow his car and he said yes. The guy I was seeing got pissed about it and didn't go to the funeral with me. I didn't see anything wrong with what I did, and for him to not go to the funeral with me because of it showed me that he was only thinking about himself and how he felt.

Even though I am still friends with my Ex and we would always be there for each other if needed, we don't hang out together or call each other just to chat. I do feel that is being disrespectful to a new boyfriend and would never do that.

2/19/2011 10:40:07 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  
lkocher
Over 1,000 Posts (1,715)
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 32


I am friends with my ex husband for the sake of the kids and once in a great while we will meet for lunch to hash out details of visitation, vacations, school problems, any left over business from the divorce, etc. He does call me every day to check up and see how things are going.

He has a girlfriend and I respect those boundaries. She's welcome to come along if she wants to.

Otherwise, we don't hang out.

I had an ex who even had his ex stay the night! He'd kiss her on the lips. She was welcome to more family functions than I was. Wedding pictures everywhere. They'd hang out and he didn't want me around. It was bad! They'd been divorced for ten years. That took it too far and I was upset about it. But that wasn't what broke us up. I knew he'd cheated on her during their marriage so I kept an eye on him. Sure enough, caught him trying to cheat on me!

2/19/2011 10:45:17 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

backtotheusa
Over 1,000 Posts (1,054)
Phoenix, AZ
age: 49 online now!


I am very good friends with one ex GF, not with either ex wife. A friend of mine once told me that every woman who had ever loved him hated him (Not a surprise since he was a womanizer) I couldn't help but tell him that MOST of the women who had ever loved me still did. There's nothing wrong with being friends with an ex, sometimes it's just a matter of not being able to live together rather than something more sinister that causes a break-up after all.

2/19/2011 11:00:36 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

lanabritt
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,121)
Northridge, CA
age: 32


I am friends with my ex husband.
He's amazing person, wonderful father to our son.
We divorced because I thought we outgrew each other, we got together when we both were very young and were married for a long time.
I wish him all the best, finest things in life.
We are FRIENDS and nothing else,
We also must stay civil and in touch because we have a son together.
Anyone who comes in to my life gets to know this info right away.
If it's not ok with them, they're more then welcome to leave.

P.S. -- it depends what kind of a relationship exs have between them.
If it includes flirt and sex then "friends" is not an appropriate word in this case.
To me friends mean stictly just that - friends. Without any other additions to this meaning.



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2/19/2011 11:13:57 AM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  
fieldpark
Chicago, IL
age: 45


I think some people have the belief that a person who is still friends with ex wants to get back together with the ex. That is not always true. Sometimes a person can get along with an ex very well. But there were some differences in lifestyle or beliefs that caused the LTR not to work out.

2/19/2011 12:15:37 PM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

warrior_gerbil
Omaha, NE
age: 34


There is such a thing as over-friendly with your ex, like "kissing ex on the mouth and letting her spend the night dood" in a previous post. I'm quite sure that not too many people would be okay with THAT kind of "ex" relationship.

If I can't deal with my man being civil or even friends with his ex then it's my problem not his. The ex is only a problem if you make it a problem.

My ex and I get along quite well. Not best friends by any means, but you can tell me till you're blue in the face to cease all contact with him. It's not going to happen.
We made a child together and we're raising her together. We're not making our daughter suffer because of our issues/mistakes.

2/19/2011 12:22:14 PM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

oisin_e
Mountain Home, ID
age: 50


Not really a problem unless they make it one.

2/19/2011 4:07:59 PM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  
akachipmonster
Columbus, OH
age: 49


I'm cool with it. It's much worse if they are sworn enemies and continue fighting, That I'm not cool with

2/19/2011 6:02:35 PM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mischiefmanaged
Bellevue, WA
age: 41


when i date a girl, and i see her with her ex, i dont imagine the two of them f#cking. maybe OP does that?

i dont care if my gf is friends with her ex's. it doesnt bother me in the least because i feel i can give her more. which is probably why she they are ex's and i am not. here's something to think about- how is she supposed to respect me if i tell her who she can and cant see.

youre making excuses for the limitations of your feelings. i dont think you can build a healthy relationship with a habit like that. good luck though.

2/19/2011 6:04:37 PM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

backtotheusa
Over 1,000 Posts (1,054)
Phoenix, AZ
age: 49 online now!


Bottom line is, not all break-ups are venomous. If you can't live with that, it's time to move on or get therapy.

2/19/2011 6:04:39 PM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  

mistymay77
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,302)
Newnan, GA
age: 33


I don't have a problem with it. If I am secure in my relationship, I don't worry about other women.

I am friends with my ex and have been friends with him as long as we dated. We are much better as friends.

2/19/2011 6:20:46 PM How do you feel about he/she being friends with an EX?  
flirty_n_fun67
Belleville, ON
age: 43


My ex and i are still friends with benefits...nothin wrong with that...lol