"my kids are my life"

You pretty much answered your own question then.

You are falling into the trap that most single or divorced moms fall into - You wrapped your world around your kids. There is NOTHING wrong with being a good mother or parent, and making sure that your kids grow up healthy and loved. But unfortunately, most of you forgot that the 'natural pecking order' put kids "SECOND" in the family tree....mom and dad were supposed to be each OTHER'S lives...and then the kids came next. The sad part is, that as soon as 'new age' mothers started making their kids 'FIRST', they stopped being partners to their men...only to wonder why the man stopped being a partner to YOU.

The pecking order for most single or divorced women now is:

-kids first
-her second
-her job or career third
-her girlfriends fourth
-her blood family fifth
and then....somewhere....if she has time.....a man....if he does EVERYTHING SHE TELLS HIM TO DO...will come....

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(you can interchange the actual order according to your own particular 'value system'...but primarily, the kids HAVE become your 'surrogate mates'......while the man is just always DEAD LAST....)

Do you REALLY, in your heart of hearts, believe that any man worth his weight in 'a good heart'...will just hang around and wait until you've taken care of everybody else first?? For him to constantly be told that he is "LAST" in virtually all the MOST important decisions that involve a 'couple'?? From a simple DATE...to being told his needs don't count if he's paying the RENT?? Do you REALLY???

I know that this is NOT the answer you WANTED to hear....but you DID ask the question....

I've seen it all too often......For every woman who has ever said the magic words, "my kids come first"....or "my kids are my WORLD".....there is an ex husband who found that out the hard way.

Sorry...but too many mothers are teaching the wrong spelling.....it was 'SON'....not 'SUN'....the world does NOT revolve around THEM....

If you need further advice on how to finally correct this way of thinking, I always recommend that people visit a website called johnrosemond.com...... He's a family therapist...rather old school...but DEAD ON as to the mistakes single mothers are making by putting their kids "FIRST"..... It's called a generation of 'spoiled brats'..... Please look for his 'Children's Bill of Rights'...and put it up on the 'fridge' with one of those cute little magnets.....

AND....if you are REALLY serious about wanting a man....I might suggest "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura. I already KNOW that most 'new age women' like to CRINGE at her name....but the simple fact is.....it's you new age single or divorced moms who are asking why no man wants to date you. So, since YOUR way of thinking isn't exactly WORKING....why not opt for trying something DIFFERENT.....the FIRST step, might be to actually admit that some of you are just DEAD WRONG!!!

thanks...