| 3/13/2008 12:37:47 PM |
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proudlysa
Soweto
South Africa
age: 32
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I have this 25 year old woman who has two kids and I have none. The first child is 7 years and the other one is 1 year.
She always wants me to be around her because she says "She feels bored when she is without me" is it love? I feel that she uses me emotionally, please advice. I feel confined in this relationship.
She and I have been dating for 9 months and now it seems I am going to be stuck with her for the rest of my life because she is clinging on me.
Honest answers please.
[Edited 3/13/2008 2:13:36 PM]
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| 3/13/2008 1:01:26 PM |
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sd_rob
Winchester, KY
age: 41
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that's tough. she wants you around because she is bored without you?? personally, i dont want someone who can simply live with me, i want to find someone who cant live without me.
is there more to her feelings?
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| 3/13/2008 1:32:00 PM |
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proudlysa
Soweto
South Africa
age: 32
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In most cases, she would call me and say please come honey, I am bored. If I don't show up on time she would even withhold affection. I just told her that I need some space and I asked her to kindly give me some time to sort some issues out and now she even estimate that I should be available this Saturday. She even controls my time.
I think she is emotional dependent on me. She does not feel complete without me.
[Edited 3/13/2008 1:33:40 PM]
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| 3/13/2008 1:38:26 PM |
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jaxflorida
Jacksonville, FL
age: 54
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Think I need more info about the relationship. How long have you known her or spent time with her? How old are her kids?
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| 3/13/2008 1:44:28 PM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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I don't know I can entertain myself.....I would want someone around because I enjoy their company not because I'm bored.
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| 3/13/2008 2:22:41 PM |
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tinasdream
Katy, TX
age: 31
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if you dont wanna be with her let her find some1 who does
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| 3/13/2008 3:08:36 PM |
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gr8stwoman
Napa, CA
age: 41
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It doesn't sound like you want to be in this relationship and in that case, you shouldn't be. (It is very sweet that you are considering her and her kids so heavily, but don't forget yourself in the equation; really, you come first). It isn't your job to entertain her and unfortunately at 25 some (NOT ALL) women and men can be juvenile. Without knowing all the particulars, it just sounds like you aren't happy and therefore, should move on.
Best wishes to you in whatever you decide!!! 
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| 3/13/2008 3:18:51 PM |
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nab5055
Medford, NJ
age: 43
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She sounds way too controlling. I was married to someone like that for 22 years. If you think you feel trapped now, long term..........you will want to hang yourself. I stayed for my kids, he was their father. I got to the point in my life where it had to be about me and I needed to feel happy.
If you love her, then of course it is your decision but weigh the facts heavily before you decide to spend the rest of your life with her.
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| 3/13/2008 3:24:55 PM |
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tfortexas
Big Sandy, TX
age: 56
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I think your right she's useing you
You are only a stand by for her when she feels the need.
She is also a controlling person so my advise is to run hard run fast don't look back just run.
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| 3/13/2008 5:23:20 PM |
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singleagain50
Greenville, SC
age: 50
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If you feel "confined" and say you're afraid that you"re "stuck" with her, then take your own advice and get out....
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| 3/14/2008 4:37:18 PM |
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zathras
Fairfax, VA
age: 48
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Zathras say using. Or is that your definition of love?
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| 3/14/2008 4:55:49 PM |
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collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
age: 48
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Pray it over with The Good Lord, and the Truth will set you free. hang in there buddy!
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