| 3/14/2008 5:00:45 PM |
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jsteen1
Berne, IN
age: 40
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being alone after 18 years of marriage sucks i know she cheated, i know I deserve better I know I n eed to let her go.but how do I do the lonely thing
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| 3/14/2008 5:06:12 PM |
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jeffest1478
Saint Augustine, FL
age: 29
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I know what you mean, was married for 1 yr, but she left for someone else. Lonely days make time slow and the mind ache, best thing to do is stay active, go out with friends, family, or just yourself. I have my daughter, she keeps me going all the time, but its still lonely with out someone to share my time with. Keep searching I am sure you will find someone.
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| 3/14/2008 5:08:31 PM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 37 online now!
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your going to need a stack of playboys and big bottle of organic hand lotion. lol j/k
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| 3/14/2008 5:10:43 PM |
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l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 44
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Get a hobby or stay close to family. Talking to them helps. I don't think the friend thing helps too much because most of them are probably married. Just learn to enjoy the quiet and being able to watch what you want on TV,going to bed when you want,eating what you want.Just learn to love yourself again. Someone will come along when the time is right.
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| 3/14/2008 5:17:08 PM |
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brneyes74
Loves Park, IL
age: 33
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I try to keep myself busy. If I am lonely I will call my friends, spend time with my daughters or if they are all gone for the evening, I try to find other things to occupy my time. Taking walks, looking around. I've meet some nice new neighbors by just taking walks and talking to random people. I try to smile as much as possible even if I dont feel like it, because soon enough I am talking to someone and forgetting my troubles. I've actually learned to like living without a partner. Think of simple or off the wall things that you would like to try, and do it!
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| 3/14/2008 7:44:54 PM |
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winesong
Bend, OR
age: 60
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May I offer that you hang out on the DH forums and groups...
it really does help pass the time and you develop friends and acquaintances.
You can voice your thoughts, or strike an idea and start your own subject line.
Either way, people will get to know you, and include you on DH. It sure beats watching the TV by yourself...
Stay tuned for a new chapter...
there are things here to share, and value, and others things to make you shake your head...
take what you need and can use, and delete the rest...
Wine
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| 3/14/2008 7:47:25 PM |
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adelinesmother
Fremont, NE
age: 37
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Think of it as a time to get to know yourself. You are your own cheerleader..get yourself back up and on your feet. Remind yourself how you deserve the best and how you will get it someday. Plus hang out with some really cool people on a site called DH. They will help you out, lots of cool people out here.
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| 3/14/2008 7:49:55 PM |
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darrelslookn4u
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
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Personally I just try to keep laughing
they say it's the best medicine
but, (REAL) love, is better!
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| 3/14/2008 7:52:10 PM |
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lin37
Comstock Park, MI
age: 37
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I don't see being alone and being lonely. I've found it hard to get back into a relationship because I like my "me time". Is that weird?
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| 3/14/2008 7:55:46 PM |
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wizeguy1984
Brandon, FL
age: 23
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hey dude go to home depot go to the hardware section and u will get nailed
and lin having me time is good but its also good to stay busy
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| 3/14/2008 7:55:56 PM |
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darrelslookn4u
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
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I guess that depends on how much ME time you have endured
Too much for ME!
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| 3/15/2008 4:44:34 AM |
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babygirl63
Holden, MO
age: 44 online now!
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you got friends here, and we won't cheat on ya. hang in there, you'll see the light
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| 3/15/2008 4:46:43 AM |
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britishandy
Charlottesville, VA
age: 26
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get a bunch of my best chums around and cook a nice meal, something itailian with chicken hmm and a nice bottle of vintage red..
or get the fire lit and get a good book or movie out
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| 3/15/2008 4:53:01 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I spend all night talking to a DH friend on the phone, then spend all morning and afternoon speaking to another DH friend, and then the semi-evening shift with Alaska DH...and so on and so on and shoobie doobie doobie doobie
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| 3/15/2008 6:32:56 AM |
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rythmnnromance
Oviedo, FL
age: 47
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I don't mean to get philosophical here, but perhaps that is part of who I am. Anyway, I have always taught my children (and btw, they are successful and young adults and pursuiing their own careers and happiness).
I have always taught them that:
"If you make being alone less your enemy then you will be able to decifer who is right and good to be in your life, because desperation lessens your choices".( personal quote)
Now, is the time to cultivate yourself, find the things that interest you,and do those things,you enjoy and to expand on your own being. Television, and drinking with the boys gets old and you will easily fallen into feeling more sorry for yourself, and you can blame yourself, your circumstances, and whoever.. but it's time to take charge of your life and to be responsible for the outcomes.
Ask yourself; what direction you see yourself going, and if this is the avenue you want pursue this.., if not change it.
They say; If you think the same way you have always thought, you will always get what you always got"..... Or a better clearer way of saying that is;
"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result".
Do something different, change the way you think, take responsiblity for who you are right now and cultivate yourself and above all be positive in everything you do.
We are all looking for that one indescible person to come waltzing in our life, but that can only happen when your energy is positive; positve energy draws you to positive people,. Right, so therefore everyone wants to be around happy positive people.
People shy away from sad, negative and gloomy and you will find yourself surrounded by negative energy all the time....
Things will change when YOU decide to may that happen. May the universe bless you with countless positive energy!!
Starroski ~
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