| 4/15/2008 2:48:56 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Great old 38 Special song...and no - you freaking juvies don't ask - you're technologically advanced go U-tube it!
Everybody's done it
and regretted it.
We see a lot of postings on here about people coming on too strong
being too needy, too clingy, too desperate
or not interested enough....
How many times do you need to hear - "he's/she's NOT that into you?!"
Do you have the tendency to hold too tightly and lose control
or hold too loosely and let the good one go?
And if you KNOW you do this - what are you actively doing to reverse your trend?
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| 4/15/2008 2:51:08 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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epiphany4me
Mohave Valley, AZ
age: 47
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| 4/15/2008 2:55:18 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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jonmjk6
Frankenmuth, MI
age: 36
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I used to hold on WAAAAAAY to tightly.
Now I barely have a finger tip grasp on the a woman I am activly seeking.
This sounds concieted, but I tend to let them come to me now.
Not that I don't show intrest, I just try to make them make more "first moves", or put in more effort. Once they do, then I reciprocate, because I know that they really are interested.
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| 4/15/2008 3:37:32 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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davewave1
Ann Arbor, MI
age: 61
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I have no interest in having control or holding too tightly.
I desire to hold only enough, for her to feel her true desire to hold me back in return. I want her to feel she can leave and return for love at any time, for any reason, on any whim she may have.
If you truly love the most beautiful butterfly, you will not hold it tightly.... you will let it go........ You will let it go to be free to fly wherever its Spirit leads it, and to come back to you if it so chooses, of its' own Free Will, to share the sweet nectar of love with you again.
[Edited 4/15/2008 4:38:07 PM]
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| 4/15/2008 3:46:36 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I feel that I've become so accustomed to being on my own and not being attentive or actively enthusiastic about a man that occasionally I sort of drop the ball in making my feelings/preferences known...
I also don't really express what I'm thinking or feeling very quickly.
For example on DH - and the threads, I may notice someone who interests me, as a "significant person of interest"
[that means someone I might want to establish communicating with ont he premise of maybe a relationship or friendship of some kind]
I will take note of them and watch for MONTHS and not say anything at all...
or I'll spot someone and say something immediately - but I generally still won't be very clear and upfront about stating "this is what I want"
I tend to lay low and play slow...
but maybe too much so?
I am also very private so who I flirt with on the threads may or may not be who I'm thinking about...you just never know and I like it that way!
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| 4/15/2008 3:58:04 PM |
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simplman4right1
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
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The line is "Hold on loosely... but don't let it go"
Here lately I'm beginning to think the line should be "give them enough rope to hang themselves"
I'm one of the least controlling people you could ever meet but I keep hitting stops in relationships.... forming or continuing.
I'm beginning to think I should act like I do at work.
I tell people what to do... I point out potential problems and demand the "issues" be satisfied immediately and at the end of the day everybody is happy and all the better for it.
Yeah, yeah, yeah... I know that would flush like a 3 pound brick in a relationship.
But maybe it's time for a cool change??
Or could it be time for me to fly??
We could all wish for green grass and high tides forver.
Am I living high (on borrowed time)?
Or do I have too much time on my hands??
SOMEBODY STOP ME!!!
(gawd... I could do so many more)
disclaimer; no classic rock bands were injured in the process of creating this post
edited...just to be crude... babe... don't you mean ya like to lay slow and play low??
[Edited 4/15/2008 4:02:22 PM]
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| 4/15/2008 4:10:51 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I'm comfortable on the "down" low!
Thanks simple - you rock my world!
Thanks for,
taking it to the streets,
but when the sun comes up on a sleepy little town
you're still the one, who can scratch my itch
don't give up on us baby
cuz breaking up is hard to do
and by now we've driven the teenies and juvies out of their freaking minds.....
Damn I like "cool change!"
where's LimeWire....?!!!!
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| 4/15/2008 4:18:28 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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Balance is the best denominator. Gotta know when to hold and give space.
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| 4/15/2008 4:23:19 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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is it possible to hold on tightly, yet, still let them go? 
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| 4/15/2008 4:26:25 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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wanna try?
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| 4/15/2008 5:02:44 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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yup!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 4/15/2008 5:03:55 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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simplman4right1
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
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Drummer.... I would suggest letting them go as SOON as they start turning blue
bad bad bad bad bad joke..... but it was just a joke!!
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| 4/15/2008 5:04:33 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
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| 4/15/2008 5:16:04 PM |
Hold on loosely....if you cling too tightly to her... |
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simplman4right1
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
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Alex.... hope you're laffing at/with me....
Lord knows we need as many people with warped sense of humors as we can get
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| 4/15/2008 5:17:04 PM |
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alex4u
West Monroe, LA
age: 36
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Hey simplman......I knew I was in the right place!!!
Thanks for clearing that up for me....
Now where is Harley....speaking of warped?????
[Edited 4/15/2008 5:20:52 PM]
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