| 4/29/2008 12:54:56 PM |
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asianr1
Charlotte, NC
age: 38
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about him not skeetin in you..hmmm..i dont know but if it was me and you told me to i would skeet up in you..lol...
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| 4/29/2008 2:04:35 PM |
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oldeschoolcharm
San Diego, CA
age: 46
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On the original question: have you considered suggesting either condoms for extra protection (though I suppose you would not get out of it what you wanted, no pun intended), or that he get a vasectomy if is he adament about not fathering children?
Perhaps the use of a spermicide?
While a single form of contraception still leaves some risk open, combining mechanisms results in a multiplicative safety factor.
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| 4/29/2008 2:08:13 PM |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 49
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He won't perform oral sex on you and you are keeping him???????? He has an issue with exchanging bodily fluids. RED FLAG!!!!!
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| 4/29/2008 2:52:39 PM |
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yankeesweet
Aiken, SC
age: 58
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He is carrying around an awful lot of baggage it seems. You may or may
not ever find out what it is. In the meantime it will be frustrating or
at the very least bother you. It ALREADY does or you would not be
posting it here. Also seems like you are making excuses for him not
doing what you would like?? And on top of that, he won't even discuss it
with you??? Red flags all over here! There are alot of things you two are
NOT sharing. It doesn't sound all that loving either...how can it be with
so many questions? Doesn't make for a happy ending in my
opinion. If he won't talk or get help...I would cut an run....You
deserve to be happy.
Good luck!
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| 4/29/2008 3:00:19 PM |
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123forme
Spokane, WA
age: 39
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ever consider that he has a disease and he's afraid to cumm in you?
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| 4/29/2008 3:07:23 PM |
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thedance75
Shreveport, LA
age: 32
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if that was the case unprotected sex would bring something up and it has not. I have to get tested the other day and nothing.
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| 4/29/2008 3:10:38 PM |
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classicsfan
Charlottetown, PE
age: 51
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I'm like a lot of the others here and seeing red flags.
The abuse thing is possible, but it could also be an extremely conservative upbringing.
This is something that is important to you, and he won't discuss it at all. This is the part that has me concerned. We all have some sort of quirks and he may have some hangups about sex. However, in an honest relationship, at least in my opinion, things that concern one person a great deal need to be discussed.
I'm asking rhetorically here, not prying - more suggesting that you think about these things, but what other facets of your lives are you not able to discuss? Do you really know this man as well as you think? Is he as into this relationship as much as you think he is?
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| 4/29/2008 3:16:16 PM |
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dazed1961
Manchester, NH
age: 46 online now!
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Fixed?????? Is that what its called? Damn I guess I'm fixed too. Okay enough of that... I don't know what the problem is if any... I suggest you try to get him to open up and talk about it.
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| 4/29/2008 3:26:20 PM |
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thedance75
Shreveport, LA
age: 32
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Ok i took most of you advise, I talked to him about it. He is concerned, his sister had her tubes tied and a few years later got pregnant. So he is being cautious. Thanks for all the input everyone 
Told you he was not gay!!!
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| 4/29/2008 3:44:51 PM |
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classicsfan
Charlottetown, PE
age: 51
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Glad to hear it. Red flags appropriately lowered.
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| 4/29/2008 10:20:51 PM |
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slappywag
Des Moines, IA
age: 41
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Don't worry, the boys and me will get him yet!!!!
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| 4/30/2008 12:49:48 AM |
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dmariesweet
Dallas, TX
age: 55
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he's a freek!!! i dated a guy once long time ago and he wouldn't do oral on me but wanted me to do him. hell no!!! it works both ways honey. you men talk about some women just laying there like a fish well that was this guy and then he had the nerve to tell me i was too aggressive! come on, do you want a real woman making love to you or not? he definitely has some hidden issues and if he won't talk to you about them, then don't give him any more sugar. 
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| 4/30/2008 4:45:06 AM |
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countrydancer1
Elmo, UT
age: 32
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I hope you made the thread asking us about the possibilities AFTER discussing these things with him and not the other way around!!!
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| 4/30/2008 5:12:30 AM |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 45
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Thanks everyone - I really do love these threads. I was going to get "fixed" but now I'm thinking maybe not...........
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| 5/2/2008 1:58:22 PM |
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dmariesweet
Dallas, TX
age: 55
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i wish you the best of luck. 
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