| 5/2/2008 12:34:27 AM |
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alaskanpirate
Denali National Park, AK
age: 41
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The last woman in my life was 19yrs old and a dam site more mature than the previous one at 39yrs old. I date women I like and whom I feel a connection with and vice versa (I hope) regardless of age. You wouldn't not date someone (if you were attracted to them) because of the color of their skin or their religion. Yet even if we are attracted to someone younger or older than ourselves(lets say in excess of ten years)we think twice or question it because of the constraints that society puts us under......(My mother is 60yrs and her husband is 79yrs)....Taking legality as a given....Would age stop you dating someone and why?
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| 5/2/2008 6:08:53 AM |
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iamhere1970
Trenton, NJ
age: 38
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The only time age is a problem for me is when the guy is closer to my sons age.....I feel that he is a child....because my son is 18.
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| 5/2/2008 9:03:08 AM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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I just responded to a similar question on another thread. I have dated a man that was 12 years older than myself (i was 25 and he was 37) not too long ago. I have found that in my experience, someone far outside of my age preference is not on the same "page" as myself. While I am barely finishing up with college and working on starting my career, meanwhile, many of the men that i meet, who are much older, have already finished school, are well established in their careers, own a home and are wanting to settle down or have already even had a failed marriage. I myself am not quite ready yet to settle down. I still want to enjoy my youth yet feel pressured to move in certain directions from older men. I would not completely eliminate older men or even younger men from my dating pool but simply based on my experience, it just hasn't worked for me with them.
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| 5/2/2008 9:24:37 AM |
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miscue
Bloomington, IL
age: 36
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if age was meant to be a factor we would all be walking around with born on dates tattooed on our (well somewhere) but we are not i was married to someone who was 12 years my senior and am now dating someone 10 years younger than i am, you can't judge a book by it's cover or the year it was written!
we should all judge people by the manner in which they represent themselves
but one of my favorite sayings--------- if you ain't 21 you may as well be 12--------
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| 5/2/2008 10:09:09 AM |
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curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
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we all have different lines we draw, body type, color of skin, religion, and yes of course age. one don't have to get over anything they don't want to, we set up certain standards for whatever reasons we have, why would one want to do what another thinks we should do, when it's not what we want for ourselves, i have nothing against people who don't want to date others because of various reasons. we are all individually different, and want and need mates who fit our individual wants and needs, what's the big deal. Some will think ill will on us for the limits we all have set for ourselves, but who gives a shit, we are the ones that have to be with that other person. I have limits on age, body types, RELIGION a biggie, and a few other things. And so do you.
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| 5/2/2008 7:23:01 PM |
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alaskanpirate
Denali National Park, AK
age: 41
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Thanks for the honest answers.I understand that we all put constraints on our potential suitors; this is the first time I have been on a dating web site, it takes a little getting used to. I usually find that my personality, sense of humor and body language take a great part in my efforts to find a mate. But on a dating website it seems to be a lot different....to be knocked back by women who haven't given me a chance to communicate with them,just because I may be a year or two outside their selected are range,seems a little short sighted. I suppose I will have to thicken my skin a little.
Just came as a surprise, and reminded me that people can be very narrow minded all over the world. As I said I am new to the site, if someone was to email me with a welcome I would reply no matter who they were, what they looked like, or what age they were.
Anyway, best of luck to all.
I am still smilin'
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| 5/2/2008 7:25:16 PM |
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tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
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Only if they looked it. Age doesn't matter to me but if your profile says 48 and you look 65 hell no don't want to date my dad. There is no attraction to my dad!!! Sorry I know it kinda sounds shallow.
[Edited 5/2/2008 7:25:36 PM]
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| 5/2/2008 7:28:52 PM |
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classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
age: 57
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You're just fine Tlc, I wouldn't want to date my Mom either. 
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| 5/2/2008 7:32:38 PM |
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bamadixiegal
Guntersville, AL
age: 38
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age really is a number.but i wouldn't date a younger man.but this is only my opinion.
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| 5/2/2008 7:32:58 PM |
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alaskanpirate
Denali National Park, AK
age: 41
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Hey TLC ...are you saying I look 65...LOL It just the beard (honest)which; by the way, fell off this morning (its spring in Alaska after all)...Now I look handsome and debonair...
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| 5/2/2008 7:34:52 PM |
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tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
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I wasn't talking about you just in general. I went on a date with a guy who was 57 pict looked good I was attracted, then when we actually met, he looked like 10 years older. No attraction!
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| 5/2/2008 7:38:44 PM |
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ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
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Well, I am 41 and my ex is 57. I never felt the age difference between us as a man and woman. I never thought of him as older or me younger..it was like we were the same age..except when it came to things like my children. He was raised a different era and my way of thinking and raising my children was a little less "walk the line".
I really don't see a problem with dating younger or older, but having said that, I could not, nor would I ever date a 19 year old at my age for several reasons: My son is 21, I want a man who can at contribute more to the household than minimum wage can offer, and..when my boobs finally reach my knees..I don't want my man to look like Adonis! Even if it means he will have hair growing out of his ears...ok well, I think that might be pushing it a little..but, I guess I couldn't be too picky if my boobs were banging my knees now could I?
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| 5/2/2008 7:39:27 PM |
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classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
age: 57
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Speaking of showing up and the guy looked 10 years older; this happened to a friend of mine. She said he was at least 10 years older and about 120 heavier. Then she said he was mad because she wasn't attracted to him. DUH...... 
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| 5/2/2008 7:41:06 PM |
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classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
age: 57
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Well Paris, we could get those back up there where they belong, when the time came. JMO
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| 5/2/2008 7:44:59 PM |
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ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
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Tee hee hee hee... Yes, If they ever got to hanging that low...I'd fold them up and go to the plastic surgeon, but I still wouldn't date a 19 year old.
A man could..because they are typically the major bread winner, AND men get more distinguished looking as they age, women, well...we just get old and our stuff sags. Argh!
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