lizn101
Watertown, WI
age: 51
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I have knowen this guy for close to 5 years..we live in a duplex... we are both single..he has a 5 year old son he is raseing alone..over the years we have become very close..and I fell for him Big time..now the odd part.. is like we in a relationship with no sex... we do everything a couple would do..I have tole him I have feelings for him ..but he treats me like a yo-yo..saying he has feelings for me..then that he dose not..we are on a high..or very low..am I being a fool cause I care so much about him?..we have come so close to being imtament but then he says no and pushes me away just to pull me back I need advice here please help..he tells me he is attrectred to me then that he is not as well helpppppppppppppp!!!
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tedric
Anchor Point, AK
age: 67
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Sounds like it might be time to find another apartment...
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kjtweety
North Tonawanda, NY
age: 35
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Girl I have been there...he's just stringing you along...don't fall for it anymore...try ignoring him now...let him realize what he could have...you have to be strong about it...I dated a guy like that for years...but when I finally pushed him away is when he finally wanted to settle down...he's only keeping you around till he finds something better...and you're better than that...start doing less things with him and see how he reacts!
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pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38 online now!
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Tell him how you feel... Then move on. You deserve better and a man that will go all the way with you!
Peace! and Blessings!
P.Win
[Edited 5/3/2008 12:36:06 PM]
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trinagirl
Riverdale, NJ
age: 48
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this is a typical story from the book 'he is just not that interested.' okay, the guy likes your company and friendship but not more. in a way he is doing you a favor by not falling into bed or planning a future. doesnt want to lead you on. he does prob have feelings for you but its on the friendship level.
if you want more than being pals then would suggest to move on. or your gonna frustrate yourself to exhaustion trying to get him more more attracted to you. most people know early on if they feel chemistry and then they have no problem showing it.
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lizn101
Watertown, WI
age: 51
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Thanks for all the good advice all..ya I know inside that he is just playing a game with me but love is so blind...I know I need to move on just doing so is very hard
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connoisseur321
Indialantic, FL
age: 37
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I don’t know the guy so I’ll try to avoid joining in with “throwing him under the bus.”
As a male I must say that sometimes the signals that a woman is sending can be unclear at best. He may think he’s “doing the right thing” by not going further, but then again he is a guy and has desires.
I can’t cut him any slack on telling you he has feelings and then telling you he does not, that’s ridiculous. He either does or he does not! It’s time to be clear! If you are good friends then you should be able to have an open an honest discussion. Tell him exactly how you feel. Remember the conversation isn’t over until you know the correct answer. Ask yes/no questions. Not what, where, why and how open-ended questions. Love requited is very difficult, but prolonging something that will continue to only bring you pain is worse! God Bless!
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47 online now!
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Cut the strings you've placed on this relationship and move on. Unless the yo yo appeals to you.
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lizn101
Watertown, WI
age: 51
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Again ty you all..for some sound advice...and I did talk with him last night...and he told me he is not ready for a relationship..but that he dose care for me..I told him I am sick of being a yo yo..and that 5 yeras is more time than anyone needs to make up there mind..he then said if I am not willing to wait till he is ready, then I need to move on..so I told him then I am moving on...I just can't take the roller coster ride anymore it is to painful...peace and light to all.. all I know is I feel the most sorry for his Son since I am the olny "Mom" he has ever knowen Liz
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