| 5/4/2008 11:45:28 AM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
st82thepoint
Mahopac, NY
age: 27
|
Ok so before I give you my story and opinion, I want to here yours. First how long do you need to be with someone before getting married? Second cann you be truley in love with someone and not want to be mmarried to them? Than you.
|
| 5/4/2008 11:50:26 AM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
|
Well i wouldn't think there would be a time limit on such a thing, personally i'd think at least 1-2 years, and yes you can truly be in love with someone and not want to marry them, MOST definitly.
|
| 5/4/2008 2:36:02 PM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
waterstar
San Francisco, CA
age: 33
|
I think it really depends on how you both feel. I don't really think there is a time limit. And yes, you can be truly in love with someone and not feel you have to marry them. Hope this helps!
|
| 5/4/2008 8:57:54 PM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
lilreba27
Atlanta, GA
age: 48
|
time is a concept that we use to organize our lifes 
u'll kno when its right 4 u 
& yes u can b truely in love with someone & not want 2 marry them
thats usually a sign that its not right yet
Reba
|
| 5/5/2008 8:25:06 AM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
st82thepoint
Mahopac, NY
age: 27
|
Well it seems that I got all the same answers so thank you it must be good advise. So as I said, I will share my story... the peson i am with is not ready for some of the things i am. Settling down if you will. I mean we live together and have been for over a year and a half we have been together for two. We have a joint checking account wich both our paychecks go into. So to me we are pretty much married right lol. So lately I have been thinking when would be the right time to ask. I feel as though I want to but, I think she isn't ready. So I asked her the other day and she said she wouldn't right now. So that made me think...... Thats all thank you ladies.
|
| 5/5/2008 8:30:36 AM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
sweetiepie1977
Jacksonville, FL
age: 30 online now!
|
Well I personally was in a 6 yr relationship once, and decided NOT to get married.
I also was in a "friendship" type of marriage for 8 yrs....UMMM that didn't work out.
I would say each relationship is different....but personally, I think if you click and have lots in common and also have some diversity in the relationship that you should wait at least 1 1/2 yrs (living together as well)...then if you feel it in your heart that you are ready and willing to sex only that 1 special person for the rest of your life, then you should ask for her hand in marriage.
Then wait another year to plan the wedding, by this time, you should be MORE than sure!
|
| 5/5/2008 8:44:55 AM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
blueyedbobbie
Poultney, VT
age: 36
|
whatever you do don't try to rush someone that is not ready. it will happen for you when it is meant to happen. good luck to you!
|
| 5/5/2008 8:48:43 AM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
st82thepoint
Mahopac, NY
age: 27
|
I am sure its her that isn't so my question was more that could she care for me and truley love me but not want to get married. Further more what happens if it gets to the point where I don't want to wait. Will she ever am I wasting my time, I dont mean waste guys I enjoy our time together but in a sence it would be a waste if we don't want the same things.
|
| 5/5/2008 9:49:28 AM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
gr8stwoman
Napa, CA
age: 41
|
If you are sure she is the one, how could it ever be a waste of time? I understand that the two of you might want different things right now, but isn't it possible just to be content with what you have and not be in a rush to get married? (just a question, not a judgment)... When things are positive in a relationship, it is normal to want more. Just be careful not to apply pressure where the "wants" are. 
If someone wanted to marry me, I would need him to give me a lot of time and not feel that I was holding him back from what he wants. It would be a turn-off to me if he were in a rush for something I consider to be a huge decision. JMO
|
| 5/5/2008 12:58:32 PM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
lova_girl
Albany, GA
age: 30
|
I think that you can have a great life with the one you love without that peace of paper, most people I have talk with say that they had a great relationship until they got married and then it went to hell in a hand bag. As far as the time well no one can really tell you when its right or wrong to get married you need to search your heart and think of how much time you need before you make that leap. What ever the sitituation may be I wish you all the luck cause sounds to me you have met someone that you really have feelings for.
|
| 5/5/2008 1:21:58 PM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
st82thepoint
Mahopac, NY
age: 27
|
It's not that I NEED to be married. I would enoy it. I would aso like to have a child in the next two years as well and she wouldn't do that with out being married. But enough on the subject I pretty much got the answers I already knew just needed to read it thank you all.
|
| 5/6/2008 5:37:05 PM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
lilreba27
Atlanta, GA
age: 48
|
Damn man haven't u ever heard of Babies Momma LOL Wait thats WAY 2 MUCH DRAMA  4get i said that
No really u r basiclly married whats a slip of paper ????
sometimes that paper can turn things south. 
Move slow & just keep letting her kno how u feel, if she doesn't come around within the next yr i would say u might want 2 reevaluate the relationship
Good luck 2 u 
Reba
|
| 5/6/2008 5:54:21 PM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
sjjsc
Modesto, CA
age: 46
|
Get to know the person for at least a good year or so....maybe even live with them.....people are very different when you are around them 24/7. An d yes I do believe you can be in love with someone and not be married....there is a saying that goes Just because 2 people love each other doesn't mean they can live together....do to several things such as different interests, life goals, expectations.....hope that helped.
|
| 5/6/2008 6:15:03 PM |
Ladies I need your opinion! |
|
paradise16
Rockford, IL
age: 48
|
ask her how she feels about marriage
|