Forgiveness, A Sign Of Strength or Weakness?

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ontheloose69 online now!	8/15/2014 6:46:13 AM weakness.
lil_miss_jinxy	8/15/2014 7:08:04 AM Strength...forgiveness doesn't always mean we let that person back in our lives. Sometimes forgiving someone is simply understanding they will never get it and forgive to let go of any negative feelings that have been eating you up. I have seen ppl forgive others for things I don't know if I could or not. Like a drunk driver who has killed someone's child. It shows strength and makes me realize I still have much to learn. Always be open to observing n learning. There truly are amazing things that happen which makes us reflect.
karenlicious	8/15/2014 7:20:23 AM Forgiveness is a strength that sets you free. You forgive someone and then you can let go of all of tha anger and bitterness that can take over your mind an heart. Forgiving someone takes away the control they have to make you feel miserable.
zimzane2	8/15/2014 7:46:21 AM Forgiveness is good for those who will not take advantage of you.
dark_gable0585	8/15/2014 8:21:33 AM It is strength to ask forgiveness because you wanted the same with someone else that you have hurt. But it takes the strength to forgive and never forget
faiery	8/15/2014 8:52:13 AM Hi gamer, so nice to see ya! Forgiveness..it is a strength...and takes a strong person. Holding onto negativity only hurts you.
tatinou7bb7	8/15/2014 9:06:54 AM Gamer, what a treat to see you around again. Welcome back young man. For me to be able to forgive..I have to feel it in my heart..It's not strength or weekness to me.. It depends on how deep the hurt was and to truly forgive and forget I have to feel it deep inside.
ap3xvip3r	8/15/2014 10:43:44 AM A old friend with a great question. Depending on who or what you forgive for. The strength of forgiveness can be you Achilles heel or be the strength to move on. I was just reminisce this question myself between two friends and I who had bad agruement a couple days ago. Should I forgive them what they put me through? Have they learned there lesson of me blocking me? Maybe not yet... one must understand one mistake of what they put me through. I look at one that she got realized that what my friend put is not my fault and has deal with that situation of truth has come out and live on instead getting so upset all time and should mellow out for once. I am guy who just want post what he like to post and she should over shadow me for that. Then I turn my head to my other friend and which he got realize what everything it seems is not become. He should stop focusing me but instead focusing on his family that needs him. Also he has to stop the whole boss situation and Knowledge me as a friend once before. Did these two friends served there punishment of me blocking them for there silly ways? Maybe not yet with because of there stubborn ways. So why should I forgive them yet?
rose1206	8/15/2014 10:45:44 AM If forgiveness makes me weak then I'm guilty as charged. Holding grudges isn't my thing. There's someone in my family who's mistreated many over the yrs, I forgive him but also keep my distance and boundaries now.
elvissong	8/15/2014 11:14:36 AM Ole retired drug counselor here Gamer - forgiving is for the strong - holding on to what others may or may not have done to you is really a weakness as it keeps you stuck in past. Doesn't mean I want to go out to lunch with them anytime soon but I stop ruminating about them by forgiving
gamerman17	8/15/2014 7:37:40 PM @ loose, that's interesting but to each his own. @ jinxy That where I ersonally see it as well. I also take that as you being the bigger erson in the matter and let bygones be bygones. But it understandable how people may see it as different. @ karen Forgiveness is indeed something that you liberate yourself from in terms of psyche of mind. All of that negativity within mind doesn't bode well for character and makes you toxic to be around.....gamer
gamerman17	8/15/2014 7:46:00 PM @ zim , very good point. One of my friends who pointed that forgiveness as a weakness mentioned this and I could help but to concur. I guess this would take into consideration the parties involved in this ordeal. @ tat how are you. I've been busy with college and starting my career as of late so I haven't been on as much. As for your post, I do agree that it does depend. given the situation that a person is asked to forgive can be difficult so context definitively comes into play. @ apex good seeing you again too. Been too damn busy truthfully. As for your post, that in essence is the reason why I personally started this blog. Because the circumstances involving forgiveness has so much gray area that you're unsure of yourself. And this debate I'm having with my friends and your post exemplify this point exactly.....gamer
gamerman17	8/15/2014 7:54:07 PM @ fairy , nice to see you as well. Forgiveness in indeed strength on character, but in my opinion only in certain situations. If someone has done something to challenge my integrity and character, it would take some serious soul searching and open mindedness to see a way to forgive that person. But to each his or her own. @ gable , that interesting. I truthfully never thought of it from that angle. @ rose very good point. I personally don't hold grudges myself so I see where you're coming from. I try to see the good in people but if it comes that point where I cant be around them, then Ill promptly keep my distance......gamer
gamerman17	8/15/2014 7:57:53 PM @ elvis , excellent point. Grudges does keep my in the past and doesn't let you evolve as a person. But the only concern with that for me is the context and situation in which this is applying. Your premise I full concur with and accept, but will it apply in all of the gray situations.....gamer
peachy1954	8/16/2014 3:36:23 PM I think forgiving someone so you can move on is just popular psyhcho-babble because I do not have to forgive someone who I see do something to others or me to forget them and live my life. People can chose to be a survivor rather than a victim but I do not see forgiving some actions in even the smallest way. Why should I give some one grace they have not earned by at least acknowledging the damage they have done and asking for forgiveness. Attempting amends. At the very minimum accepting whatever punishment is metered out. Too many people count on forgiveness and laugh it off as weakness. Personal strength is about not running away from truth but facing it head on. I will call a bully an/or a criminal just that and not be bothered one bit about it.