It is genetic, thank God. Women have babies. It was in all the papers. They need to know that the make that they choose can feather the nest and take care of business while they take care of furthering the man's clan.

Sure, all meets are not about mating and marriage, but as Savona says, asking what I do is a sign that she is interested in me and at least subliminally "qualifying" me as her Alpha male.

I love it.

The only guys who resent it, are bust outs and losers, any way. We become what ever we are or do for a living, partly, if not solely to attract Savona.

I'm not ashamed of what I do...I want to have a little fun out of life, all work and no play makes for a boring and dull a** person.No one job is more important than another..most provide a service whether it be to a client, or the public.If someone ask me on a first meet...I will tell them!
I'm not going to want to make it a topic of conversation all night about each others job...it best be short and sweet about it with me.I am there to get to know them and see what other qualitys they have to being to the table!
A persons job isn't going to physically or mentally stimulate me in any way.

Because you spend possibly up to 40 hrs a week or more doing something with your life and they thought to ask you?



Nah too logical, right?

They wanna know if you will be able to pay for them. Going out to eat, flowers, jewelry, expensive vacations, movies, entertainment. You can't be working at Taco Bell and pay for these expensive golddiggers.



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What happened to all the nice guys?

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were f**king treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you weren't dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, you passed him by.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an a**hole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've f**ked yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't f**king want you, now.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy

Someone said in another thread what I was was thinking but didn't quite put into words.... a job doesn't define a person!! Thats why I think it should not be the first thing out of someones mouth on a first meet, or date.. unless the conversation gravitates toward the subject in question.

Politically correct response: It's a third of your life, so how is asking that not getting to know you?

Nail on the head response: Yes, every woman is a not very smart gold-digger after your money who can't even come up with one question without revealing her avaricious designs on you., you paranoid misogynist git.

It's an ice breaker...


You guys get sensitive when the first questions ask for particular physical measurements and credit ratings

Then why not just simply ask, do you have a job?

Because women gauge how much you make and decide if you might be worth it or not, the burger flipper versus the lawyer, who do you think is going to win that one?

why, you wanna f**kin date me, f*ggot

If a date asked me whether what I did was legal I'd be kind of creeped out and wondering how often she met with people that said "no" to that question....