| 10/14/2012 1:56:33 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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So as a dude youre in a bar and you strike the interest of a beautiful woman (to your standards..which ever they may be) you can play it one of three ways .. (1.) You think shes the most amazing chick you seen in a while and you get her number and probably walk her to her car or taxi and open the door hoping you have left a good impression on her to maybe start something beautiful with her.
Now for the most realistic two scenarios. (2.) You are just trying to get i to her pants so you tell her she is most definitely gods gift to earth with the hopes that she goes home with you or perhaps helps your chances for another day with her (while she thinks you really do feel that way and so the lying and games began) or my personal favorite (3) you straight up tell her what your intentions are (in a polite manner not explicit way you tell her you want to take her home do dirty things with her all night)
Ladies from 2&3(the more realistic) wich would you prefer? Does there need to be extensive effort to get to the same point. Is going straight for the kill a turn off.. its mostly to prove a point among my peers which disagree with me.. maybe i am wrong but its 3 for me 
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| 10/14/2012 2:05:17 AM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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Chances are if a guy is straight up with me I'll walk away. Lol. I'd rather him bring me home or wherever and go in for the kiss and go from there. Lol. But most likely I wouldn't even leave a bar with a guy I just meet. Lol.
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| 10/14/2012 2:07:01 AM |
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heloggjjzvvhg
Sylva, NC
43, joined Sep. 2012
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Ladies thinking about s*** me with the games....wach this
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| 10/14/2012 2:17:40 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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I understand what youre saying and very few respect it more than i do. Im not too proud to say I have been turned down some times. Hell even slapped a few. But here is my logic to it. Chances are i wont ever see those women again ..no harm done. The other way it may lead to a dead end relationship which will eventually lead to someone hatting me or me hatting them.. but i can totally see it your way too because appearances do matter wether we like yo admit it or not..
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| 10/14/2012 2:20:38 AM |
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bryb89
Foxton Beach
New Zealand
26, joined Sep. 2011
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I'd rather have a guy straight up tell me what he wants from the interaction. Why put on a show when in the end it's all just a frickin game?
You give me honesty, and you'll get it right back.
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| 10/14/2012 2:23:20 AM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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Id rather it end up a dead end relationship than know it was a one night stand. One might stands make me feel trashy. Lol. I mean I can see where being straight forward I'd the honest way but Id rather the 2nd one in this matter. At least then it'd be showing us a sweet side to the guy. Lol.
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| 10/14/2012 2:25:38 AM |
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sportsfanmia
Miami, FL
34, joined Jun. 2012
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I think it comes down to basic talk followed by drinks and the rest will follow in order. Those 3 scenarios won't work unless the broad wants the d*ck which in that case she probably got one reserved already.
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| 10/14/2012 2:28:28 AM |
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bryb89
Foxton Beach
New Zealand
26, joined Sep. 2011
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I don't want sweet if it's fake.
While one night stands may be considered trashy. Going into something blind only to be lied to and used is much more unappealing to me.
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| 10/14/2012 2:29:27 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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I guess we could bump heads on this all night and if thats how you feel than youre most definitely right because with the 2nd one at least there is hope that it might be a 1. But i guess the question was more towards the girls who go to bars with the intention of getting some.... wait women do that?... heck yeah they do lol
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| 10/14/2012 2:31:26 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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I don't want sweet if it's fake.
While one night stands may be considered trashy. Going into something blind only to be lied to and used is much more unappealing to me.
there is one!
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| 10/14/2012 2:40:37 AM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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I don't go to the bars to meet new ppl. But now I COMPLETLY understand where you are coming from. Lol. Yea if I was at a bar to fun someone to sleep with then sure go for the third one. Lol.
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| 10/14/2012 2:46:15 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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Welm there its settled we agree to disagree lol
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| 10/14/2012 2:58:19 AM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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I guess so
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| 10/14/2012 3:05:29 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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Where is vidor tx anyways lol im from hunstville and ive never heard of that town
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| 10/14/2012 3:06:40 AM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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It's in the middle of Beaumont and Orange. Lol.
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| 10/14/2012 3:29:17 AM |
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rdeffley
San Jose, CA
34, joined Sep. 2009
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I am having a bit of experience with this very type of situation right now. A little over a month ago, I had a bad break up, and I am putting a lot more focus into my career. So I have no desire to put any effort into planning dates or starting an actual relationship with anyone. However, the need for sex is still there. So just as an experiment, i decided to be direct as humanly possible with woman on POF who wrote me that I found sexually attractive. I did not sugarcoat at all. I mentioned that I found them sexually attractve, but due to a bad break up and being busy with work, all I wanted to pursue was a purely sexual relationship. Five women responded positively and these were all women who said they wanted relationships on their profiles. Now obviously I have no intention of sleeping with five women at once. However, the direct approach does work. The main complaint a lot of women have is that men deceive them by pretending they want more than sex. So if you are completely honest, they may not go through with it, but they will at least respect your honesty.
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| 10/14/2012 3:46:48 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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M-rav..Oh i know kinda where youre talking about.. im actually from bedias tx.. however the population is less than 1000 so when people ask i just say houston so they dont end up with the face of concussion lol
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| 10/14/2012 3:52:16 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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but they will at least respect your honesty. |
| 10/14/2012 3:54:22 AM |
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dudefreed
Portland, OR
42, joined Sep. 2012
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isn't there a famous butt rock song about pourin' suga on me...is that what this thread is about? yeah didnt like that song either
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| 10/14/2012 4:02:00 AM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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Lol funny you should mention that.. on the motto run in bootcamp(a day before graduation we ran around the depot and our waiting families repeating motivational cadents our drill instructers would sing.. when it came time for our "killhat" (the name says it all) to sing his part we all (having previously planned this the day before) sung "pour some sugar on me " ... it was comical the expression on his face lol
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| 10/14/2012 4:03:43 AM |
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akindler
Salem, OR
63, joined Feb. 2012
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I prefer to lick my eyebrows, make her want me, and let her take it from there. She can do the work of getting me, letting me know what she wants, etc, and then I can make us both happy...by making her happy. Sometime's words are not necessary.
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| 10/14/2012 5:33:31 AM |
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euroguy88
Charlotte, NC
27, joined Oct. 2012
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M-Ran, can u please stop being smartass on here lol.. its funny ur only 19 and u act like u know everything, not jsut in here in other threads...
I tell ya what tho, u always have to sugarcoat the chick cuz she dont know u bro, she would be confused if u be like hey my name is blah blah blah and i want to have sex with u.. i mean put ur self in that position... Now what i mean sugarcoat u have to do it but u can tell her before u have sex u can be straight up with her tell her i dont want relationship. thats what i do always, SOME HATES U SOME LOVES U..
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| 10/14/2012 9:59:49 AM |
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e_lizabeth
Jacksonville Beach, FL
43, joined Apr. 2012
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Any one of those approaches will work on any given woman at just the right time with the right circumstances, and repel that same woman under other circumstances. I would say a successful "ladies man" is a master at reading women and conforming his approach to fit the situation
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| 10/14/2012 10:02:02 AM |
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damhan18
Jacksonville, FL
21, joined Jun. 2012
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If a hot guy walks up to me with a deep voices and whispers in my ear what he wants to do to me. Imma go home with him. Actually he will go home with me and the b*tch better be out of my house before I wake up.
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| 10/14/2012 10:19:49 AM |
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no5spogr
Leavenworth, KS
45, joined Aug. 2012
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It depends on your goal....if you want a relationship or solely to get laid. I'm not here for dating do 3 would be my choice.
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| 10/14/2012 10:37:40 AM |
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italia2803
Salt Lake City, UT
28, joined Oct. 2012
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I think it should be straight forward
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| 10/14/2012 10:43:46 AM |
Sex should be straight forward or sugarcoated? |
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mrsweetie
Cincinnati, OH
42, joined Jul. 2009
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Straight foward and no games, mind games are a waste of time and energy.....pointless!
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| 10/14/2012 11:01:34 AM |
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sweetbuffy
Beaver Falls, PA
42, joined Sep. 2012
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i'd rather have a guy tell me what he wants from me, i hate liars and game players
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| 10/14/2012 11:04:38 AM |
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bluehope518
Prague
Czech Republic
42, joined Jul. 2012
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i'm not reading all that...
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| 10/14/2012 12:03:15 PM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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M-rav..Oh i know kinda where youre talking about.. im actually from bedias tx.. however the population is less than 1000 so when people ask i just say houston so they dont end up with the face of concussion lol
Yea I was confused when I seen that too. Lol. I do the same thing sometimes. I just tell ppl I'm from Beaumont or Silsbee area. I live closer to Silsbee than Beaumont. But I don't think a lot of ppl know of Silsbee so I just tell em Beaumont.
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| 10/14/2012 7:37:08 PM |
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sbsearch
El Centro, CA
31, joined Aug. 2012
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I'd rather my time not be wasted either so please tell me what u want. Its that easy.
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| 10/14/2012 7:45:08 PM |
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nb954
Jacksonville, FL
28, joined Jul. 2011
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Be straight up
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| 10/14/2012 7:55:00 PM |
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snarrky
Americana
Brazil
41, joined Jun. 2012
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Give me option 3. I'm a grown woman and I have needs as well. I think I'd respect the honesty. And I'm one who has come out and said I only want to take you home for sex. But when there is chemistry and you know you're at a place in your life where you can't be relationship material (rebound) why bull shit the person and end up hurting them.
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| 10/14/2012 8:11:34 PM |
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billmahy
Channelview, TX
47, joined Nov. 2011
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Yea I was confused when I seen that too. Lol. I do the same thing sometimes. I just tell ppl I'm from Beaumont or Silsbee area. I live closer to Silsbee than Beaumont. But I don't think a lot of ppl know of Silsbee so I just tell em Beaumont.
Vidor Texas.
On HWY 12 northeast of Beaumont and west of Deweyville.
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| 10/14/2012 8:25:03 PM |
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hnhthe1st
Puyallup, WA
46, joined May. 2012
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i like the straight up and honest approach...doesnt mean Iam gonna go home and f**k u though but i do appreciate the honesty you never know u could catch me on a night where iam weak and give in
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| 10/14/2012 9:32:29 PM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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Vidor Texas.
On HWY 12 northeast of Beaumont and west of Deweyville.
Yea but you can google map that. Lol.
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| 10/14/2012 11:03:09 PM |
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mrgatorman
Miami, FL
40, joined Sep. 2012
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 Welcome to dh
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| 10/15/2012 12:19:21 PM |
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perro2001
Oceanside, CA
28, joined Sep. 2012
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Yea but you can google map that. Lol.
lol true that ive done that before when talking to some chick .. google things so that it seems like I know what im talking about lol and dont know if you noticed but i think option 3 is pretty popular lol
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| 10/16/2012 5:50:03 AM |
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m_ran
Vidor, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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Yea yea. Lol. Everyone has their own ways. Lol
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| 10/16/2012 6:07:01 AM |
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pass_the_corn
Cheyenne, WY
47, joined Oct. 2012
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I think most women respond better when it happens naturally. I may be a nerd, but I actually do okay with women. I think it's because I don't have game, and they like that. lol
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| 10/16/2012 6:50:53 AM |
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igotcrnack
Bedford, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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If your having sex with someone I sure hope youve gotten past sugarcoating and immaturity, sex with someone SHOULD be one of the most real, true and straightforward acts we engage in because its part of our human nature.
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| 10/16/2012 7:52:32 AM |
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butterflyforeve
Dallas, TX
45, joined Apr. 2012
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I will respect an honest man every time. And if your trying your trying to.pick me up than its about getting in my panties so don't play games. I will never go home with you but if you come at me with bullshit your gonna be getting bullshit right back.
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| 10/16/2012 7:59:09 AM |
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igotcrnack
Bedford, TX
22, joined Sep. 2012
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Its not an option im getting in your damn panties..and youll like it, im not someone who sugarcoates, im gonna be real with you, il romance you and make you feel like a respected woman as you deserve, also il pull your hair amd spank you like the bad little girl you are but the main thing we want is a connection of complete honesty and realness. And thats what I want to share sexually.
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