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| 6/7/2008 5:45:07 AM |
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mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 41
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As I have posted a few times, I never once introduced myself to the crowd (that's what's having ADHD can do to someone). My name's Scott, and I moved to Chattanooga, Tennessee from the greater Indianapolis, Indiana area in June 2007. Been about a year now, and I've settled in nicely. My past experiences with disability related issues are varied. I grew up being diagnosed because I was "different" than a lot of other children. The doctors, gen. practitioners, and specialists told my mom that I had everything from mental retardation to cerebral palsy to being mentally slow. Little did anyone know that Asperger's Syndrome would not be listed in the APA's DSM-IV until the 1990's and when it would become better known to the world.
I developed epilepsy in early 1977. Back in December 1976 just before the Christmas Break, I had just climbed to the top of the stairs of a slide. Instead of going down the slide, I fell off from the top of it and landed head first on ice on the ground. I blacked out, and remember waking up in my mom's car. To this day, I have no recollection of what took place when I blacked out. I consider myself very fortunate that I am like a cat and must have "nine lives". I think I have used four of them already. I had my first seizure in January 1977. My last full blown seizure in which I lost consciousness occurred over 10 years ago (that was a scary experience in itself).
ADHD I've had my entire life. Just like AS, I wasn't diagnosed offically until last year by my last girlfriend, who is a licensed physician. After I felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me, she chose to end the relationship. At the time I couldn't understand why she made the decision. I figured that she wanted to work with me on this. However, I went into some very dark days and weeks that soon followed. Although I have compensated greatly in my life, I no longer need to hide behind anything - my epilepsy, AS, and ADHD. I am who I am, because "it is what it is". I have been on a journey with AS and ADHD last year, and have grown to accept and love myself completely.
Just recently, I began dating again. I've been on a few first dates in the past six weeks. Nothing came of those in the form of a second date, but I consider these dates individual victories in my own mind. I feel that even dating is coming back to me more naturally, and I don't need to compensate or hide behind anything in being completely honest with people I'm getting to know or on a date. It feels good to me, because I know one day I will go on a first date with someone, which will result in more dates and then the time when I eventually "fall in love" with that individual and go from there. I am EXCITED about the day when I finally meet that "special someone" for my life. No gloom and doom here.
I am very positive about my life, and know the best years are ahead of me. As I have begun intergrating myself into the non-AS world more and more, I am an assistant organizer of a local MeetUp group here, am on the Church Council board of my local congregation, write sustainability articles for my congregation's newsletter, and enjoy getting out and about in the community. If wanting to know more about me, please read my profile and either respond to here, send me a wink, or better yet, send me an email sharing why you found what I've written here, or any of my posts, or my profile interesting in gathering your interest to write with me. I would look forward in sharing with you more about my journey. I'm seeking to make new friends here on DH, so please don't hestitate to contact me. I look forward to hearing from you.
Scott, an all-around good/funny guy who's done a lot of "inner work" in my life, is proud of it, and is very excited about my future (having AS/ADHD/epilepsy to me is only a part of whom I am... they do not define me as a person - I create my own realities in life, living in the present and aiming for the future)
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| 6/7/2008 11:43:27 AM |
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iamnumber5
Saint Augustine, FL
age: 48
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Well Scott, Welcome to DH
I see you will have no problem chatting
and joining the forums. You seem very well
educated and you have a very nice outlook.
Again Welcome.
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| 6/7/2008 11:53:53 AM |
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mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 41
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Thank you. I am quite chatty, as you can see  Looking forward to "stirring the pot"! I like to think the events of my past have allowed me to reflect and use those in the present to aim for the future. Thanks for the rose.
Scott
Well Scott, Welcome to DH
I see you will have no problem chatting
and joining the forums. You seem very well
educated and you have a very nice outlook.
Again Welcome.
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| 6/7/2008 11:55:32 AM |
New to the "Singles with Disabilities" forum..... |
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mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 41
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Oh btw, life never gets boring for me. I'm the kind of person that could have endless numbers of conversations going at the same time, shooting all over the place.
Scott
Thank you. I am quite chatty, as you can see Looking forward to "stirring the pot"! I like to think the events of my past have allowed me to reflect and use those in the present to aim for the future. Thanks for the rose.
Scott
Well Scott, Welcome to DH
I see you will have no problem chatting
and joining the forums. You seem very well
educated and you have a very nice outlook.
Again Welcome.
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| 6/8/2008 10:06:52 AM |
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ann38
Ellijay, GA
age: 38
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Scott I hope you will allow me to also count myself as one of your friends and if you like I will add you to my friends list on here but I will not add you til I am sure it is ok to do so. By the way I am Angela everyone here knows my user name as ann38
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| 6/8/2008 12:52:32 PM |
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thepkk
Ash Grove, MO
age: 53
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Good luck Scott. So glad after all these years you have it all together so well. You will find that woman soon that will see how far you have come and will want a future with you.
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| 6/8/2008 2:41:21 PM |
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mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 41
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Thanks pkk. Although I have come a long way on my journey, I'm still a work in progress much like everyone else. I've taken the time to know who I am, defined my core values, and have done a lot of "inner work" in my life just to be where I am now. I'm in no hurry to find anyone, or get involved in a relationship with anyone (though like everyone else, would be nice one day to meet someone special). Just that I happen to have AS/ADHD. There's women, who don't want to look past that. Not my loss at all. I know I have a bright future ahead of me, so I'm only interested in developing new friendships at this time. I'm just taking things slowly and at my own pace. If I am to meet someone special, that will happen when its suppose to and such.
Short version: my head's on very straight, and more power to me
Scott
Good luck Scott. So glad after all these years you have it all together so well. You will find that woman soon that will see how far you have come and will want a future with you.
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| 6/9/2008 9:05:03 PM |
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joy617
Scottsboro, AL
age: 45
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Scott as I told you in e-mail having ADHD does not have to limit you. I have ADHD and I would bet that not many of my friends and family know that about me. I have learned to adapt and I do a lot of public speaking helping others.
I have led a full life! I have modeled blue jeans and did runway modeling for Fashion Bug, I was cast for Blue Lagoon to play the double for Brooke Shields. (I have sent a few close friends the pictures of me in a bikini at the ocean. These pics were part of my port folio that got me cast for the role.) I did not accept the contract as I am too modest to do nude scenes. I met the producer and director and read the script. I know all kind of behind the scene things that went on.
I have 9 years of college and was a Pre-med student at Murray State University. ADHD is just a label that doctors use for a medical diagnosis, it is no different than Diabetes, Cancer, etc.
I am hyper, I love to dance to burn the excess energy. Use it in a positive way! I roller skate, bowl, jog, take long walks, work out and exercise, etc. For my age, of 45 most people can't keep up with me. I don't see that as a defect. LOL I have raised 16 children as a Foster Mom and was the Den Mother for Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts. We limit ourself in our own minds. If you strive to achieve you will.
My ex-husband has Asperger's and he leads a normal life as well. Don't let a label from a doctor get you down. Keep pressing on! You are not alone with your "disabilies".
God bless and keep Smiling!
Jan
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| 6/10/2008 5:47:04 PM |
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mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 41
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I'm not limiting myself. I know that God has grand designs on my future. I'm excited about where that will all take me I'm looking forward to eventually getting back into Toastmasters, as I did last year when I first moved to TN.
Thanks for your words of encouragement. Thanks for the rose. Looking forward to having opportunities to influence children who are emotionally and/or physically challenged.
Scott
Scott as I told you in e-mail having ADHD does not have to limit you. I have ADHD and I would bet that not many of my friends and family know that about me. I have learned to adapt and I do a lot of public speaking helping others.
I have led a full life! I have modeled blue jeans and did runway modeling for Fashion Bug, I was cast for Blue Lagoon to play the double for Brooke Shields. (I have sent a few close friends the pictures of me in a bikini at the ocean. These pics were part of my port folio that got me cast for the role.) I did not accept the contract as I am too modest to do nude scenes. I met the producer and director and read the script. I know all kind of behind the scene things that went on.
I have 9 years of college and was a Pre-med student at Murray State University. ADHD is just a label that doctors use for a medical diagnosis, it is no different than Diabetes, Cancer, etc.
I am hyper, I love to dance to burn the excess energy. Use it in a positive way! I roller skate, bowl, jog, take long walks, work out and exercise, etc. For my age, of 45 most people can't keep up with me. I don't see that as a defect. LOL I have raised 16 children as a Foster Mom and was the Den Mother for Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts. We limit ourself in our own minds. If you strive to achieve you will.
My ex-husband has Asperger's and he leads a normal life as well. Don't let a label from a doctor get you down. Keep pressing on! You are not alone with your "disabilies".
God bless and keep Smiling!
Jan
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