... and really don't appreciate 'sarcasm' and downright rudeness nor should I have to.
Actually, if you're going to hang out in the forums of this site, you do.
If I choose not to see hateful comments, it really should be my choice.
It is your choice. But, if you come into these forums you're choosing to see them.
As far as Jesus goes, I'm never ashamed to admit that I'm a Christian.
You seem to need to learn the difference between "admit" and "proclaim". People who TELL me what good Christians they are make my radar ping. Self-proclaimed Christians are some of the MOST unsavory people I've ever had the misfortune to meet. "You will know them by their works" is my guideline.
But again, I have the right to state my preferences since this is the USA, the last I checked.
Of course you have the right to state your preferences. Doing so on the WORLD WIDE WEB means everyone else on it has the right to disagree, and take issue, with those preferences. Welcome to equality, Princess.
So as the saying goes in the old school days - if you have nothing nice and polite to say - just don't say it.
"As the saying goes 'in the old school days'; 'Women should be barefoot, broke and pregnant."
Both attitudes come from the same era. Are you advocating a return to those "old school days"? If so, shut-up and get your a** in the kitchen, woman! I'm hungry.
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maricella20
Overland Park, KS
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I've written profiles in so many ways but am not attracting the type of responses or type of men that I would actually be interested in meeting in real life. I want someone that has class and respect as well as can be down to earth. I am very much more an intellectual, logical person vs a dingbat. But I'm truly affectionate within a relationship, supportive and generally happy and smiling most of the time.
I've added multiple photos with different looks so that there's an overall snapshot of how I am on different days.
I get mostly scammers or men from out of town - none of which are going to work out for me. I have family obligations here plus a good job that provides health insurance so I'm not able to re-locate. Just reality at this point in my life. Or I get men that are only looking for a hookup - even though I have specifically stated that is not what I am looking for. I have purposely tried to put ordinary, everyday kind of pictures because I'm not into the casual scene. Could some REAL men help me out here?
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12/25/2014 7:22:12 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Have you tried other sites like POF or OK Cupid?
Your profile the way it is written talks about general qualities in people. I don't see anything that would start a conversation like....I love to ride my motorcycle though the fields. You might want to add some things you like to do.
I looked over the pictures you have posted. You do have quite a few pictures of you in dresses which seems a little bit different then how you describe your everyday comfort in your about me section. I found it odd to be chilling on the couch posed in such a way in a dress...oh and with shoes on the furniture! That was a in my house growing up and still is. I don't think I would date someone that puts their shoes on my or their furniture...just a respect issue for me. But hey everyone is different, I just never met anyone that likes shoes on furniture.
Why do you feel the need to write about endless emails in your profile? If you are getting endless emails and not meeting then why not just end it...you just say I have a one week of emails limit and then we have coffee. Easy...they don't show and make excuses then it is over and you move on.
You have 2 friends attached to your profile and have a pile of gifts. Someone a little interested in you might pass you by after they see their competition, flowers and candy! You might want to delete or hide them if you are not actively chatting or dating!
Best wishes!
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12/25/2014 7:32:44 PM |
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maricella20
Overland Park, KS
55, joined Apr. 2014
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It's really confusing on what to write. I dress like this everyday for work. I am comfortable in dresses and heels so everyone is different. But I do have a picture in jeans. I'm not able to get pictures of myself very often unless my grandson happens to be here. As far as the shoes thing go, we normally take our shoes off in the house and there was a brown towel underneath. I don't think most guys would care about that.
I didn't even realize there were gifts to me because I haven't really talked with anyone on here. I have fixed that but how do you hide friends or delete them because they were set up to only talk with friends so have no idea how to unfriend them.
POF is a joke and OKCupid is ok as far as getting responses from men but all just wanting a hookup. Nothing serious. I appreciate your input and will try to figure out how to unfriend someone. I'd really like to know what the guys think since they're they ones I'm trying to attract.
Have you tried other sites like POF or OK Cupid?
Your profile the way it is written talks about general qualities in people. I don't see anything that would start a conversation like....I love to ride my motorcycle though the fields. You might want to add some things you like to do.
I looked over the pictures you have posted. You do have quite a few pictures of you in dresses which seems a little bit different then how you describe your everyday comfort in your about me section. I found it odd to be chilling on the couch posed in such a way in a dress...oh and with shoes on the furniture! That was a in my house growing up and still is. I don't think I would date someone that puts their shoes on my or their furniture...just a respect issue for me. But hey everyone is different, I just never met anyone that likes shoes on furniture.
Why do you feel the need to write about endless emails in your profile? If you are getting endless emails and not meeting then why not just end it...you just say I have a one week of emails limit and then we have coffee. Easy...they don't show and make excuses then it is over and you move on.
You have 2 friends attached to your profile and have a pile of gifts. Someone a little interested in you might pass you by after they see their competition, flowers and candy! You might want to delete or hide them if you are not actively chatting or dating!
Best wishes!
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12/25/2014 7:39:09 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Click home then friends.
Scroll down to bottom and delete or select unfeature
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12/25/2014 7:47:32 PM |
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maricella20
Overland Park, KS
55, joined Apr. 2014
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Thanks, I appreciate it. I've not used this site much so am very unfamiliar with how everything works but got to start somewhere. I've updated my About Me section with some likes. I thought that was what the interests portion was for to eliminate overly wordy profiles since most men don't generally read lengthy profiles. Thanks again!
Click home then friends.
Scroll down to bottom and delete or select unfeature
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12/25/2014 8:41:52 PM |
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doubletrouble77
Crete, IL
37, joined May. 2011
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Take the pic of your grandson off. Not good to have kid photos on here.
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12/25/2014 8:51:34 PM |
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maricella20
Overland Park, KS
55, joined Apr. 2014
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Was trying to go with another person's advice to show another side of my down to earth and just added it. Didn't think about that. Should probably crop him off. Thanks
Take the pic of your grandson off. Not good to have kid photos on here.
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12/26/2014 1:10:26 AM |
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forums_only
Maple Ridge, BC
53, joined Aug. 2010
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The age range is going to signal something more to the younger guys as men your own age will see you're looking for a younger man and pass. To avoid the appearance of a cougar, you could even out the age range and filter messages as they come in. Or - leave it if that's your preference, just be aware of how it appears and don't be surprised at the incoming messages.
The site does have the word 'hookup' in its name, and many of the users here take than literally.
I was a short chunky woman with a teenager when I started with online dating (PoF) and had a great experience there, met a dozen great guys and finally 'the one'. But, I didn't just sit there and wait for them to line up - I actively messaged men I found interesting and had about an 85% response rate. Are you contacting men directly?
My profile did not use negative language - I wasn't writing for the idiots, I was writing for the guy I wanted to meet. Your profile feels almost as if you are angry already.
A shoulders up smiling head shot will work best for a main.
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12/26/2014 2:11:46 AM |
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josfsd06
Sioux Falls, SD
56, joined Mar. 2014
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I hope you find who you're looking for, opie. You surely deserve him.
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12/26/2014 6:30:08 AM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
49, joined Apr. 2013
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I tend to date Hispanics and foreigners a lot because of their respect, intelligence and family values...
I can dance to all music except rock....
Got out of the game.....
I now think your are a catfish....continue on with your changes and foolery!
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12/26/2014 9:06:31 AM |
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maricella20
Overland Park, KS
55, joined Apr. 2014
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Thank you. I appreciate that. I find that the men are sending me their comments directly to me they've been much more positive than women on these boards. I do appreciate the feedback. It does give me some new ways of wording things.
I've cropped out my grandson, which was a smart suggestion and made other changes. Thanks for the ideas.
I hope you find who you're looking for, opie. You surely deserve him.
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12/26/2014 10:22:27 AM |
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iwntarealman74
Spring Valley, CA
46, joined May. 2014
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Good luck, I gave up thinking I may find Mr right online.. if I cant meet him somewhere in my reality .. how can I expect to find him online? That's just my personal take on the matter..
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12/26/2014 1:11:29 PM |
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forums_only
Maple Ridge, BC
53, joined Aug. 2010
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Perhaps if you tried a site that didn't have the word 'hookup' in it's name... but anyway...
OP - (you need to learn to identify sarcasm.) As you've had such negative experiences with at least three of the free adult dating sites, perhaps a paid site would be more suitable? I personally found attitude is more important than almost anything else besides patience. Good luck.
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12/26/2014 2:08:02 PM |
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frank_underwood
Columbia, SC
59, joined Jun. 2013
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OP"s not obese & therefore, not full-figured
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12/26/2014 2:09:44 PM |
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frank_underwood
Columbia, SC
59, joined Jun. 2013
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Drop the JC parts of your profile. Christianity is not trending anymore, or go to Christian Mingle if you're such a freak
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12/26/2014 2:39:12 PM |
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ron10000
Green Bay, WI
68, joined Oct. 2008
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Drop the JC parts of your profile. Christianity is not trending anymore, or go to Christian Mingle if you're such a freak
Frank, that is not only untrue but also totally uncalled for!
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12/26/2014 2:51:41 PM |
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frank_underwood
Columbia, SC
59, joined Jun. 2013
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Having JC on your profile is nothing but a sign of weakness & blatant discrimination, reminiscent of the Dark Ages; it's the 21st century now
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12/26/2014 6:41:46 PM |
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josfsd06
Sioux Falls, SD
56, joined Mar. 2014
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You blocked my2sunshine, opie? Why? Are you too thin skinned to take constructive criticism.
BTW, her posts are still on the thread.
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12/26/2014 6:53:01 PM |
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joe182121
Bourbonnais, IL
63, joined Aug. 2013
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You blocked my2sunshine, opie? Why? Are you too thin skinned to take constructive criticism.
BTW, her posts are still on the thread.
You may not know it OP, but blocking is actually intended for those who feel offended, threatened or attacked by the posts from another member. It's fine if you want to use at as you choose to, but all blocking accomplishes is that you and the one you're blocking can't see each others posts any longer. But the posts remain for all other viewers. Just a FYI OP.
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12/26/2014 7:41:29 PM |
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maricella20
Overland Park, KS
55, joined Apr. 2014
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You may not know it OP, but blocking is actually intended for those who feel offended, threatened or attacked by the posts from another member. It's fine if you want to use at as you choose to, but all blocking accomplishes is that you and the one you're blocking can't see each others posts any longer. But the posts remain for all other viewers. Just a FYI OP.
Thank you for sharing such information. With the exception of Doubletrouble and Ron, you're the only one I feel that has offered useful and constructive advice. I don't know what OP means but from the thread, it appears that it is referring to me. I'm not thin-skinned but I also have a right to be respected. I have made no negative comments to anyone on this board and really don't appreciate 'sarcasm' and downright rudeness nor should I have to. If I choose not to see hateful comments, it really should be my choice. I don't find those type of comments constructive. As far as Jesus goes, I'm never ashamed to admit that I'm a Christian. That does not mean that I'm fanatical about it because I don't subscribe to orthodox Christian doctrines either. But again, I have the right to state my preferences since this is the USA, the last I checked. I joined this site because a girlfriend was successful in meeting someone really nice on here. The responses that I've actually received in my inbox have been much more helpful and less condescending. Maybe some of you need to take a good look at the information that you're giving and how you're delivering it. Is being hateful, rude or crude ever lead to anything useful and productive.
So as the saying goes in the old school days - if you have nothing nice and polite to say - just don't say it. There is nothing wrong with constructive criticism. I appreciated doubletrouble's advice. It was something that I had not thought of. It was short, to the point with not a lot of extra added sarcasm or hatefulness added to it. Thank you Ron, doubletrouble and Joe for showing that there are people on these forums that are actually here to help. Your advice has been noted.
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joe182121
Bourbonnais, IL
63, joined Aug. 2013
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Thank you for sharing such information. With the exception of Doubletrouble and Ron, you're the only one I feel that has offered useful and constructive advice. I don't know what OP means but from the thread, it appears that it is referring to me. I'm not thin-skinned but I also have a right to be respected. I have made no negative comments to anyone on this board and really don't appreciate 'sarcasm' and downright rudeness nor should I have to. If I choose not to see hateful comments, it really should be my choice. I don't find those type of comments constructive. As far as Jesus goes, I'm never ashamed to admit that I'm a Christian. That does not mean that I'm fanatical about it because I don't subscribe to orthodox Christian doctrines either. But again, I have the right to state my preferences since this is the USA, the last I checked. I joined this site because a girlfriend was successful in meeting someone really nice on here. The responses that I've actually received in my inbox have been much more helpful and less condescending. Maybe some of you need to take a good look at the information that you're giving and how you're delivering it. Is being hateful, rude or crude ever lead to anything useful and productive.
So as the saying goes in the old school days - if you have nothing nice and polite to say - just don't say it. There is nothing wrong with constructive criticism. I appreciated doubletrouble's advice. It was something that I had not thought of. It was short, to the point with not a lot of extra added sarcasm or hatefulness added to it. Thank you Ron, doubletrouble and Joe for showing that there are people on these forums that are actually here to help. Your advice has been noted.
The term OP means, "Original Poster", and yes, it is you.
You will however have to develop a 'thick skin' as they refer to it, if you are going to be at this site, because like it or not, sarcasm is VERY often used here. Some reviewers seem to have an addiction to it, but in the long run, you should try to take it with a grain of salt and filter out whatever advice is helpful to you.
Ron and Double are very good and there are others I would recommend as well, however there are some I would not, and yet, their comments are going to be here also, so you should get used to them. Good luck with your profile. We'll continue to help if you need it.
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12/26/2014 10:51:54 PM |
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josfsd06
Sioux Falls, SD
56, joined Mar. 2014
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Thank you for sharing such information. With the exception of Doubletrouble and Ron, you're the only one I feel that has offered useful and constructive advice.
Nonsense. All the feedback you've gotten has been useful and constructive. You just don't like how some of it was delivered.
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12/26/2014 11:45:35 PM |
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forums_only
Maple Ridge, BC
53, joined Aug. 2010
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With the exception of Doubletrouble and Ron, you're the only one I feel that has offered useful and constructive advice
So my suggestions on adjusting the age range, losing the negativity and using a more viewable main photo weren't constructive or useful? Oh well, what do I know...
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12/27/2014 12:37:18 AM |
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josfsd06
Sioux Falls, SD
56, joined Mar. 2014
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another newbie who has all the answers, forums.
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