A lot of people in the dating world, and many happen to be women, say they are attracted to someone who exudes an attitude of not giving a damn about anything. Frankly, I don't find that attractive in the least. I see on a regular basis the effect this kind of mentality has in other areas of life, and it's never positive. When looking for someone to date, I not only think of the short-term dating experience, but also the long-term possibility of the person I choose to date becoming a significant other or even a wife. I could never imagine myself being with someone with such an attitude.

My question is twofold: What makes a person with an "I don't care" attitude attractive, and how can being with such a person bring about anything positive in the long run?

Please keep it civil and if you don't like the thread for whatever reason, don't participate in it.

I don't care "might" mean,

1. they really don't care because they are not really that into the girl they are dating.

2. They do care but in the appropriate amount for the time they've been dating versus a man who is bending over backwards and giving up all his power, ie: desperate and needy.

3. they care a lot but are trying to be cool.

Op, you are always polite and thoughtful. From reading your threads I believe that you may be one of the guys that winds up in the dreaded "friend zone". Don't be the guy who listens to all of a girl's "guy" problems and is always be the shoulder she cries on thinking she'll eventually have an epiphany and realize you've been there all along. It rarely works out that way.

You are still young but your: hair, beard and wire glasses make you look much older. Have you considered shaving the beard, contacts or new glasses and either pulling your hair back in a ponytail or cutting it? I think there may be a nice looking guy underneath all that hair.

@op- I apologize. I didn't mean to offend.