| 9/8/2008 8:10:46 PM |
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traveler9040
Adams, WI
age: 42
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Here is my situation. I am single. I have a unique job that has me away from home all week, sometimes for 2 weeks at a time. Then home for 2-4 days till I have to leave again for work. I work all over the US, traveling alot. The dilemma is when I am home, it would be nice to have someone to share my weekends with. Sure I have the normal home projects to deal with,and yard work. But no one to share the rest of the time with. A nice dinner, a day trip around the state, or whatever else someone would like to do. would it be fair to try and develop a relationship with my hectic schedule? Any suggestions?
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| 9/8/2008 9:05:52 PM |
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loving699
Marshfield, WI
age: 89
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Everyone deserves the chance of a relationship.
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| 9/8/2008 11:07:07 PM |
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2tallmoose
Poplar, WI
age: 44
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Ahhh... the same problem I had when I was a trucker. It's very difficult to find someone honest, and faithful, but it is possible. There are some women that want some independance, but a stable relationship also. It just takes a whole lot of looking, and that pesky thing called patience. I feel for you, brother.
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| 9/9/2008 5:25:54 AM |
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wifluffy
Hartland, WI
age: 43
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From a woman's point of view...i myself have never been married and wonder if i would ever be able to for the fact i am use to doing things when i want and no one to tell me differently so a guy like u in my opinion would be perfect....would have the freedom i am use to and no i don't mean the freedom to go date other men but yet i would have someone there on weekends to spend time with and do things with....so i guess what i am saying is mayb a woman who has never been married and would appreciate just a little time with someone special....i always tell people thats what i want is a weekend boyfriend and i am sure there are more women out there like me....good luck on your search!
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| 9/9/2008 3:08:17 PM |
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traveler9040
Adams, WI
age: 42
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I guess it is a more common situation than I first thought. Not that I am against having that long term relationship, or even getting married again. Knowing that there is someone there when I am home and holding down the fort so to speak while I am gone. It would have to be a special person that can realize that I am faithful and hard working. Yet I would want to be attentive to them when I am home. The thought of casual dating doesn't appeal to me. Dating while out on the road is also not an option. Scary world out there...LOL..
So, I guess I am looking for that special someone.
Thanks for the kind words.
James
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| 9/10/2008 6:46:44 PM |
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spedtchr67
Watertown, WI
age: 41
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Hi James,
In response to your post... WOW... a guy that wants some balance in his life - hard work and a relationship. Well, I am impressed! Be patient, I too want the same (I work from home evenings, and like my independence). When I thought I had the chance with someone who was away (pipeline operator)we dated for a couple months- he ran...using work as the excuse, and that he just couldn't find time for a woman in his life. If you want it, and present it, and the girl you find understands it, and is "into you", then you will have it! Good Luck!
Kathy
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| 9/11/2008 7:06:00 AM |
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kroseforpeace
Krakow, WI
age: 31
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i dont think its unfair at all!!! if a woman knows the situation when you two become "involved" and accepts that, which plenty of women will.. then its not unfair at all. i think it would be different if you were together for 5-10 yrs and you had a regular daytime job and then went to this life.. then i think it would be unfair to the female but not knowing upfront!!!!!
and yes, there are a lot of people in this situation! when i lived up north the company i worked for would have to send people FROM OUR COMPANY all around the world to fix machines. and their schedules were very sporatic, when a machine would break down they had to go.. no warning... they would be in different states and countries and not know how long they would be gone. weeks sometimes! we had 5 engineers and i knew 3 wives. 2 of the 3 were very faithful, one.. well.. she was young.. we will go with that! i know from the other 2 wives, (actually, i fibbed, one was a girlfriend, not a wife) they adjusted and just very much valued the time that they had together! when it came to yard work and things around the house. they did team work so it would get done faster and they would have time to be together, they really did have one of the strongest loves i have ever seen! soooooooo....... dont give up... really!!! i think everyone has an issue that they think is unfair to unload on someone else.. but when it comes to "love" sacrafices are made.. all the time!
AND... another thought that entered my head as i was about to close.. if a woman is used to being single.. even though you are not around ALL the time, it would still feel good for her i bet to have someone around when you are there. or to get a phone call from the road saying i miss you, cuz right now, that single woman is not getting any of that!!
theres my thoughts.. hope they helped!!!
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| 9/11/2008 2:43:03 PM |
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traveler9040
Adams, WI
age: 42
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Very insightful thoughts. I also see it the same way. I'm not away from home because this is the lifestyle I want. I am a working professional, and would hope that a woman would appreciate a hard working man. It would be great to have someone to give a call to while I was away, then having someone to miss and be attentive to when I was home. It is a catch 22 situation right now for me. Not having that someone at home right now, I have jumped on more overtime hours to keep me busy. But all work and no play can be bad also. Just don't want to be one of those that just settles for the situation. I have alot to offer someone than just working all the time.
Thanks again for the kind words. James.
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| 9/11/2008 6:08:22 PM |
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spedtchr67
Watertown, WI
age: 41
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AMEN to the "this (independent) girl aint getting the phone call home while you are away"! You hit the nail on the head! A phone call home, just to let you know that you are thought of...well...REVELATION! What a concept! Something like that CAN be done in a relationship! I am glad you shared your thoughts! Kathy
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| 9/12/2008 9:06:08 AM |
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whitebird58
Kendall, WI
age: 50
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Friends are a great gift to have also..might make a few and let life happen...as far as....
would it be fair to try and develop a relationship with my hectic schedule? Any suggestions? I think the question is are you able to be faithful while apart, if not,
best you can do is be friends.
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| 9/12/2008 4:01:49 PM |
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traveler9040
Adams, WI
age: 42
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I have been a faithful and attentive man my whole life. I don't know what possessed others to betray that trust. Ex went and had an affair for the last 2 years of our marriage. Not in my nature to ever do that to another. Live and learn I guess. I will find the love and relationship I desire and deserve. Thanks for the comments and insight.
James.
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| 9/13/2008 9:39:22 AM |
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reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
age: 51
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Love is friendships that have caught on fire... take some chances in meeting new people and see what happens!
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| 9/14/2008 8:51:24 AM |
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justin03
Wisconsin Rapids, WI
age: 23
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From a woman's point of view...i myself have never been married and wonder if i would ever be able to for the fact i am use to doing things when i want and no one to tell me differently so a guy like u in my opinion would be perfect....would have the freedom i am use to and no i don't mean the freedom to go date other men but yet i would have someone there on weekends to spend time with and do things with....so i guess what i am saying is mayb a woman who has never been married and would appreciate just a little time with someone special....i always tell people thats what i want is a weekend boyfriend and i am sure there are more women out there like me....good luck on your search!
I feel for ya man.. My last relationship was one where i only got to see my girl everyone other week, and it was a nightmare. It turns out she just wanted to keep the relationship that way as long as possible so i could be her security blanket, if you will. She was dating and sleeping with other ppl and all the while i had my suspicions but we had been friends for so long that i didnt think she could or would hurt me so badly. but she did and didnt think twice about it. It was all about her and "doing whatever the F--- she wanted" as she put it. So to hell with her, try and find someone who can travel with you.
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| 9/14/2008 7:07:56 PM |
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indianpolak
Mauston, WI
age: 54
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James. Here's a viewpoint from a Woman who lived that life for 20 yrs. My first Husband traveled all the time for his job ( Boilermaker for over 35yrs). We lived together for 4 yrs b4 we married. To be honest, it was the best relationship I ever had. He would be gone sometimes for weeks or months at a time. I was a single Mom, going to College and working a fulltime job myself, when we met. I enjoyed the relationship. I had my INDEPEDENCE to be who I was, and still be able to balance a relationship, too. There were many times, I went to where he was when he couldn't get home. Sometimes just one or 2 days during the week, and at other times on Fri nights when he couldn't get home for a weekend, I would pack my daughter, or just myself and head out for a weekend/week away from home and still spend time with him after work. The weekends he was home, we enjoyed doing things together, whether that be fixing things around the home, yard work, putting in the gardens, etc. When those tasks were done, we enjoyed evenings out, road trips just to enjoy the scenery, visiting fam and friends. I had the best of both worlds, and I also had the opportunity to see different places I may never have gotten to see. It was after he chose to leave the road, that the marriage ended(we had a private joke between us, that if we actually ever had to live together, we wouldn't make it. Never actually believing that). A relationship such as this has to have a lot of TRUST and COMPROMISE. Would I do it again? YES!, I would,if the opportunity presented its self. Sometimes, that kind of relationship works best for both people. As for me, I was so used to living that lifestyle,then entering into a realtionship where I was with someone on a daily basis, I had a difficult time adjusting.
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| 9/14/2008 9:29:40 PM |
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traveler9040
Adams, WI
age: 42
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I want to thank you all for the comments and stories. I am coming to the realization that we all have the life stories, and are looking for that special one to hopefully come around and spark that old feeling again. We are more wiser, (I hope) and more focused on our real needs and desires. A truly equal relationship can be found, I have to believe it. Got to hit the hay. thanks again.
James
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