| 10/12/2008 8:33:01 AM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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xlibra75x
Gateway, AR
age: 33
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The loss of my wife was truamatizing to say the least,and I've been walking through life in a wierd kind of daze ever since then. I spent this weekend super depressed, making an a** of myself, and even lost a couple of good friends. I've spent the last couple of years living like this and I can't do it anymore. It's destroyed my relationships and almost destroyed me. So, as of now....I'm taking someone's advice and just letting it all go. It's time for some "Tough love" as bthey put it.
Goodbye, Lydia..... 
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| 10/12/2008 8:45:24 AM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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mimi1122
Cedar Rapids, IA
age: 46
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Letting go is not the same as forgetting. Remember the good times.
You'll learn to accept that things won't be the same - but they can be good again.
And then decide what you want that "good" to look like.
Are there things that you enjoy doing that you haven't done for a while? Go do them.
Things that you've wanted to try or explore? Now's the time to take that step.
It's scary - sometimes. And most of all, you have to be kind and gentle to yourself.
Good luck.
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| 10/12/2008 9:46:17 AM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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3crosses
El Paso, TX
age: 52
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Libra, you will be ok. I have read most of your posts and yes, you and only you can say when it is time to finally move FORWARD. I was in a sinking boat before I met my husband and he saved me from myself. I refuse to be in that boat just because he's gone. I know its not what he wanted for me. You can do it.............MOVE FORWARD. Its never too late to say you're sorry to your friends and if they were truely your friends to begin with they will forgive you.
Many Blessings
"A Soldier's Mom"
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| 10/12/2008 10:16:16 AM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 52
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awwww Libra after going through the same thing in my life I know your pain. You don't ever really let go you go on. I know it is hard isn't it but you can do it. I will always know that pain but on the same token I thank God everyday for taking him home so he will never suffer again. And as for me I know what he wants for me and you know what it wanted for you so let it out and set yourself free hon ok Learn to live again
and Libra I wish you life, love, happiness and most of all peace in yourself 
[Edited 10/12/2008 10:19:47 AM]
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| 10/12/2008 10:24:27 AM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 60 online now!
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it is tough and some days are worse, but we have to keep going. the grief counseling tells us to keep a journal of these feelings and thoughts. noone else ever has to read it and later, when things look a little brighter, you will see how far you have come. every day of this new journey is different. please know we are here and will do what we can to help you, as it also helps us.. know there is love in this world and it is waiting for you when you are ready..
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| 10/12/2008 12:09:58 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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Libra....congratulations..you may be done with the grieving process...it's hard and takes some longer than others..but hon, to emerge healed and find that you like yourself at the end makes it all worth it. I think you're a wonderful person...and i'm sure Lydia would want you to be happy in life..so, be happy Jason..that's my wish for you...just to be happy.........ok, rich too 
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| 10/12/2008 12:40:25 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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notlooking51
Sacramento, CA
age: 38
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Somtimes we have to be better to ourselves than we are.... when bad things happen to us we can self distruct. As long as you recognize that and are ready to pick up the pieces your friends will come back to you sweetie.
all my love J....
S
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| 10/12/2008 1:06:55 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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xlibra75x
Gateway, AR
age: 33
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Thanks, folks.....now if I can just keep myself clear of this particular set of forums
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| 10/12/2008 3:49:19 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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nmorris
Freeman, MO
age: 40
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What if we never want to let go?? I have been in a really bad funk the last few days..really missing Kenny...I don't know if I want to let go..I know I don't/can't want to forget...I will always remember what we had..I know that forgetting and letting go are two different things..I get that...I just don't think I will ever let go of all the materialistic things that he had..nor do I want to let go of my grief..sometimes, and it may sound strange...sometimes I think the grief that I go through is the only thing that is helping me to remember...that if I stop grieving, I will forget him...and I don't want that..
Like I said, I have been in a severe funk the last few days...missing him something terrible..actually thinking about wanting to be with him, but can't...
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| 10/12/2008 4:04:05 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 60 online now!
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baby girl, you will never forget. he will always be a part of your life. they teach us in grief counseling that mourning is now , so that you can get all the feelings of hurt and anger out, and just cry whenever it hits. don't worry about what others say. but the grief will be with you all your life because this person was a part of your life. and you will not forget, you just learn to not let it rule your life. they would not want us to stop living, so we have to stay and carry on their wishes. no matter how it hurts. and everyone of us must do this in our own way and time.
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| 10/12/2008 5:24:55 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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bigdog747
Roswell, NM
age: 45
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libra, on ward my brother you have a lot of life to live............
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| 10/12/2008 5:47:01 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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luvinlifetou2
Biddeford, ME
age: 42
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Aww Libra,
Huge Hug....
Its the hardest thing ever...
You are a good man, and I wish you strength, inner peace, and happiness.
It gets better with time....
It really does.
But everyone grieves differently, and no one can know your pain, even someone else who lost in a similiar manner? We are all so different.
Have faith in the support of your friends....
Be kind to yourself...
Remember....This too, shall Pass.
It never ends, but it does get better.
Luvin
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| 10/12/2008 6:03:20 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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pa_x_3
Cadiz, OH
age: 55
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I'm sorry libra. But, its not a matter of letting go. I havent seen how long its been.
Its been 6 years this month for me. I've had some very bad times, as my children have also. I cant explain why, but this past aniversary date was pretty hard. It surprised me. I'd had some dreams about her a couple days prior. So I spent the day with my youngest daughter.
This doesnt help you, but I just dont want you to think its that easy. And have yourself go through bad stuff again and not know why.
It aint easy man!
Really, one day at a time. Sounds like crap, I know!
Being alone is not a good thing.
This site does help some.
Your not really alone.
Try to keep busy!
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| 10/12/2008 8:30:48 PM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 52
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You are not alone, you have many friends including me!!! Hang in there!!!
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| 10/13/2008 7:41:41 AM |
I suppose it's time to let it go. |
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stellablu
Saint Louis, MO
age: 50
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Aww Libra,
Huge Hug....
Its the hardest thing ever...
You are a good man, and I wish you strength, inner peace, and happiness.
It gets better with time....
It really does.
But everyone grieves differently, and no one can know your pain, even someone else who lost in a similiar manner? We are all so different.
Have faith in the support of your friends....
Be kind to yourself...
Remember....This too, shall Pass.
It never ends, but it does get better.
Luvin
I really like that quote, thanks.
Jas...it will be different. Each day is a new one.
Hugs....
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