1angel_baby36
Lenoir City, TN
age: 36
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ok ive been single for 7 months, i was married for 11yrs and we were together for 13yrs. im not sure how to even go about this dating thing, ive talked to a few people and they either make excuses why we cant meet or they are married (yes i said married) or they just want sex and nuthin more. i mean come on. am i doin sumthin wrong? i just cant seem to figure it out. guys say they want u to b yourself but i have to wonder if thats what they really want or if they want u to b the "yourself" they want u to b. can sumone please help me out here, i feel like im drowning in frustration.  
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wannaplaytag
Maryville, TN
age: 37
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dating can be a highly frustrating thing, especially after being in a relationship for quite some time. and face it with this age group there come other events, like for me personally, i'm a single divorced dad with custody of my son. so alas real time duties do interfere.
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appleguybruce
Mount Juliet, TN
age: 40
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It's going on a year for me too since I got divorced (no kids,thank the great maker).I left Mississippi(I call it self exiled for good,lol)and all the old.I just do not want a piece of a** ladies(sorry for being rude and direct) even though I wont refuse like many men here.I'm a man of Quality not quantity.I think that makes it hard on me and maybe,that's what you desire?Hang in there girl!I know it is a bumpy ride but,sooner or,later your prince charming will come along! 
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meeklibrarian
Martin, TN
age: 54
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I have never been accused of being the most empathetic person on the planet. I am not really sure what you need help with - I guess what you are saying is you want to meet someone who is perfect for you but you also have additional baggage from a relatively long term relationship. A friend of mine told me that it will take at least two years to get over a divorce if you were together for more than ten years. So I say patience is definitely a virtue at this point in life.
Remember that your life is more complicated and the people you are meeting have multiple demands and concerns - yes there are people out there that are looking for what I call "mutual amusement" - nothing wrong with that if that is what you are looking for. I guess what I do is figure that if I just keep communicating with people - on line and in person - I may find someone to share - to be there - if I don't don't then I retain the idea that I have tried and it is not meant to be.
I study Zen and one of the concepts - a difficult one - is that every event that happens to you is the best thing that could have happened to you - a personal example - when I was 13 I was playing little league baseball and badly injured my knee - I thought it was the worst thing that ever happened to me - it ended my "serious" sports playing - and had other negative impacts in my immediate life - however years later when I was drafted by the military I had a bad knee and could not be drafted and so I did not have to go to Vietnam - the knee injury was the best thing that could have happened to me that day so many years ago.
So try to understand the reason people are doing/sending inappropriate messages - accept the communications as positive steps in the process you have undertaken - maybe learn to read between the lines - some guys may feel it is important to write certain things to let you know that they are physically capable of "performing." I can't really say because I have not read the emails (nor do I want to.) I am just saying stay positive I know in my case I spent the 1st 26 years of my life looking for someone to spend my life with. I hope it doesn't take that long this time around but I know I have a desire to be with someone - to make her laugh and smile - to hold and love - and yes to fondle and caress - if I find that person then I will progress and if I don't I will continue to look and hope - reading empty words on a monitor is poor company but some nights that is all there is - I have accepted it.
I hope my meandering has helped - if not I apologize - if so - you are more than welcome - I am out nothing but a little bit of time -
Jim
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hengy77203
Lewisburg, TN
age: 53
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Just keep being your self the right one will come along if all he wants is sex what does that really tell you what kind of guy is he? and if he is married would he be one you could trust anyway? so don't be in a big hurry take your time you pick your chioce you are worth the wait.
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