You may not me unrealistic in your search or in your criteria, but most women are turned off by the type of message you give in your profile. It comes across in a very negative manner. I read in one of your posts that you are thinking of retiring from the site.
Yes there are a lot of large women out there. An attractive man in his thirties shouldn't have trouble finding someone. You may have set your bar too high.

Women like to be wooed. They react better to positive messages.
I feel safe in answering you, because I fall WAY out of your interest group.
Don't come across so hard-nosed and maybe you will have better luck.

Drop the baggage of the past and move on to a happier future.

Good luck and I do hope you find whoever you are looking for.

OK- I am going to address this post line by line, because I am tired of people reading my profile and making their own interpretations... My profile was carefully worded to "weed out" any woman that read it and was offended by anything they read. I have had SEVERAL resposes again this weekend saying they admired my straightforward approach. I also still have women that have read my profile respond even though they are outside my range of interests. I have gotten several from other states saying too bad I wasnt closer to them.

My standards are not unrealistic. I have goals and desires in what I am looking for in a woman, and to be true to myself I WILL NOT SETTLE FOR LESS! Men that would do this are the ones who would leave a woman high and dry when something better came along. Not my style, so I wont put myself in that situation. When I said I might retire from this site, it was mainly due to the fact that I meet women in other places, and have the same mixed success there. If you truly read my profile you saw that DH is just one more avenue to find a woman to meet my criteria. Believe me if this was the only outlet I had for meeting women, I would have given up long ago.

If I come across hard nosed, that is because I will not tolerate any BS or games. My hard nosed approach is intentional for this reason. Life is too short for any BS, and I make it quite clear on my profile that I am not tolerant of that.

Again, I did not set my bar too high. That is a comment from someone who couldnt reach it anyways. I know my likes, dislikes, and EXACTLY what I want. No apologies for not being afraid to voice that. I wish that a woman would be so descriptive in their profiles. This would save wasted time on both sides also.

I am 36, and I know that women love to be wooed. I love to woo women, and spoil them, and open doors for them and be a gentleman. This is about finding a woman who is worthy of my time and the effort that I will put into doing this. Again, I do not understand how stating my likes, dislikes and what I want is negative in any way. This is just your opinion. You are entitled to it, and because I posted this forum, you were entitled to respond in kind. Just as I am entitled to discount it and go with the other opinions I have recieved on the subject.

There is no baggage from the past to drop. I am moving on to a better future which is why I insist that no-one bring their baggage into my life. Part of what will make my future better is that I know what I want and will absolutely NOT settle for less than I deserve. Any woman that reads my profile and gets offended at anything that is stated obviously does not meet my criteria, or it would not offend her. The only women who do not like my standards are the ones who do not meet them- Thus the whole point of my profile.

NOW DO YOU GET IT?????