| 10/15/2007 1:40:26 PM |
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descartes22
Silver Spring, MD
age: 58
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I was married for 30 years and divorced 8. Any relationship that I now get into the women wants to move too fast and too deep. From the beginning I try to tell them that I want to take it slow and may not want to get married again. They agree that this is the best way to go about developing a relationship but in no time they tell me "we need to talk" and I know what's coming. I'm not into them as much as they are into me. How can you deal with this short of being a bad guy that seems uncaring?
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| 10/15/2007 1:47:38 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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It's all in the stage of life that you are in and what you are seeking. Finding one who is on the same path as you are at this moment is not as easy as it sounds. Just keep looking until you find that.
I have a great friend who is the stage that you are. I am on another path.. but we hang out together alot and it works great for us both.. Neither one of us has a problem with what the other is searching for. It's simply accepting what the other has to offer.. even if it isn't exactly what you are seeking. I wouldn't trade his friendship for anything
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| 10/15/2007 1:52:02 PM |
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thepkk
Springfield, MO
age: 52
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I would have to agree with Tru your just not on the same path. I think woman our age are thinking more about the future and not wanting to be alone as we grow older. That may be why they seem in more of a hurry than you are.
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| 10/15/2007 1:56:08 PM |
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descartes22
Silver Spring, MD
age: 58
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I do have a couple close woman friends that tell me that most women want more of my attention and affection regardless of what they tell me. Is it that they are not honest with themselve and their feelings and will pretend to be what the man wants them to be be hopes to capture his heart later?
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| 10/15/2007 2:03:37 PM |
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butterfly58
Arcadia, MO
age: 58
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That's exactly right! Women our age don't want to waste too much time on a man who doesn't want a long term one woman relationship. Sure we may go with the flow for awhile but remember we're still looking too and you'll miss out on something good in your life. You can always find the good time boys---it's the staying kind that are hard to find.
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| 10/15/2007 2:06:13 PM |
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onlyforyou44
Helena, MT
age: 62
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They just don't want to sound so hungry for a relationship but every woman i have met so far said they wanted to take it slow. But after only a few weeks they start with all the i love you's and i want to be married. i don't want to be alone for the rest of my either but i want it to be the best it can be and that takes time.
[Edited 10/15/2007 2:07:30 PM]
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| 10/15/2007 2:13:13 PM |
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onlyforyou44
Helena, MT
age: 62
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I know we don't have time to waist but why be in a hurry when you plan on spending the rest of your life with that person anyway, if they are the one. I don't want to spend the rest of my life in turmoil and not be happy because i was in a hurry.
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| 10/15/2007 2:23:48 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I have been single 16 years.. I'm not in a rush to get married ( although someday I do want to remarry). I think that just because some of us are looking for a life partner doesn't mean we are rushing into anything. We are just focused JMO as usual lol Trish
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| 10/15/2007 3:01:59 PM |
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butterfly58
Arcadia, MO
age: 58
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God no---there's nothing in my future that says marriage I don't think. I just feel I'm too mature to be a groupie to a line of "fun" girlfriends. Don't want anyone to give up anything except I do expect to receive all his extra time and not share. If I give him everything I got, I expect the same from him or we're not on the same page and it's time for me to move on. Just my opinion here---sorry
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| 10/15/2007 4:20:51 PM |
Taking a relationship slow after 55 yet having fun |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I loved being married.. just not to who I was married to.
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| 10/15/2007 7:02:43 PM |
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onlyforyou44
Helena, MT
age: 62
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I agree Tru: i loved being married and i stayed married 7 years longer than i should have.
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| 10/15/2007 7:04:33 PM |
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sassy_lassy
Kingston, TN
age: 65
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oh, butterfly58, such wisdom, yeah , we are after the staying kind. been all the other routes , too much wasted time. why beat around the bush, say what you want and go for it.
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| 10/15/2007 7:06:39 PM |
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sassy_lassy
Kingston, TN
age: 65
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hi only, I bet when you do find the right one, it will be you that is in a hurry. you never know.
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| 10/15/2007 10:42:03 PM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 61
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As I have stated do not think I want to remarry and not even sure want to live with someone. Would like that duplex so I could go home when I want and not answer the door if I do not want.
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| 10/15/2007 10:47:44 PM |
Taking a relationship slow after 55 yet having fun |
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thepkk
Springfield, MO
age: 52
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I am not sure I want to marry again either but I would live with a man. I would not want to lose my medical benifits unless getting married made mine better. JMO
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