| 1/18/2009 8:54:25 AM |
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bbw46reader
Frederick, MD
age: 46
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Any ladies willing to IM chat regarding experiences with guys 15-20 years younger than you? Re: Am I nuts? What to be wary of?
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| 1/18/2009 9:05:28 AM |
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23hiaf
Williams, IN
age: 49
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Are you talking about chatting with guys 15+? You know a lot of younger guys are looking for oldeer women. "Cougars" are the going thing now. They are looking for women to take care of them like younger women looking for older men. If you like that....go for it!
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| 1/18/2009 9:08:56 AM |
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bbw46reader
Frederick, MD
age: 46
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I mean 15 or more years younger than me. Specifically a 27 yr old and a 25 yr old, one on this site and one elsewhere.
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| 1/18/2009 9:09:55 AM |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 56
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No experience, but I would consider it now that I have met a couple who were interested.
(nothing to IM about as you are looking for experience, which I don't have...yet)
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| 1/18/2009 11:50:22 AM |
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mssojournldy
Indianapolis, IN
age: 68
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Most of my relationships since I was 50, have been with men 15-20 years younger than me. None of them were looking for a woman to take care of them. I actually get along better with younger men. Of course, what works for me may not for some. When I was younger, I wouldn't even date a man 5 years younger. But, as we age, sometimes it seems the men we're attracted to, and who can keep up with us, tend to be much younger.
Some women are afraid to try it.I was! I tried it, liked it, so I do it.
But as for chat, I don't do that with any age. Only enough to decide if we want to take it further, to emails, phone calls, etc, to see if we want to meet.
[Edited 1/18/2009 11:53:40 AM PST]
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| 1/18/2009 2:19:50 PM |
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alicekathleen
Sacramento, CA
age: 63
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Be ye aware of the danger.... of falling in love! My neighbor had a love affair with a guy 18 when she was 31, and
it was fun for both of them, until she fell in love. If you can keep a distance, enjoy the cute young things!
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| 1/18/2009 2:27:44 PM |
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dyezah
North Little Rock, AR
age: 37
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Keep emotional distance if you do. It's fun, but maturity levels are a whole different ballgame. 
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| 1/18/2009 8:25:12 PM |
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indie07
Bloomington, IN
age: 38
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I agree with the ladies. If you want them young, don't expect a meaningful relationship. I have only met a few mature ones in their 30's or 40's.
What gets me. Why do women in their 30's and older look better than men in the 30's or older? So I can see why some women want them still in their mid or late 20's or early 30's. I have to remind myself they are too young and I won't get anything out of it maybe selfish needs that I need to feed.
Right now I am not looking for that...I might change my mind when my hormones are ready to explode...but it is in control for now.
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| 1/19/2009 6:37:19 AM |
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mssojournldy
Indianapolis, IN
age: 68
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I disagree about not being able to have a meaningful relationship with a younger man. At 31, I would never have dated an 18 year old. That's a child. However, since the only men I've ever dated were mature, I wouldn't know about how an 18 year old would be.
Guess it would depend on what one means by meaningful. I always let men know I'm not getting married again. We go in with our eyes wide open. So, no one gets hurt. You can fall in love, as long as you both know the limitations.
I speak from experience. Unless you've tried it, it's kind of premature to judge what you can and can't do in that type of relationship.
I don't seek out younger men, and I have not dated any from dating sites. But, when you meet someone, and there is a mutual attraction, I see no need to pass that by just because of an age difference. It took me 50 years to decide that. But I'm glad I did. Once you get into a relationship, age is not an issue. At least, in my experience.
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| 1/19/2009 11:57:34 AM |
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indie07
Bloomington, IN
age: 38
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Yes, it depends on the person. I'm at the age that I want to grow with someone who is mature and understanding but I don't want to be with anybody. I don't have time to tutor a young man to meet my needs. If I want just sex, damnn, I can easily get that. No problem. But when people jump into relationships, it is an excuse to bumpity bump. That is easy to do. But if his head isn't on tight when he comes to me, I will not have any interest young or old. I am tired of using the word "ex". I would like to have "dating someone" on my social network profiles.
But what I consider young is 28 years and younger. I have dated mostly younger men when I hit the age 30 but now, I can't do it. The age gap has to be a little closer for me.
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| 1/19/2009 7:15:55 PM |
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alicekathleen
Sacramento, CA
age: 63
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I knew the "boy" quite well, and he was not a child. He was from a rural area, and he could fish, hunt, train a dog,
stay out in the woods all night alone, as few city men can do. He had a beard, and I figure if he could serve
in the armed forces and vote, he is man enough to have a love affair. Other times, other places. PS Both my
x husband and the man I am now with were/are a few years younger. The ones my age looks and act so
dang old! I like a man who is very physically active. I don't see myself with an "older" man at this age!
[Edited 1/19/2009 7:19:32 PM PST]
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| 1/24/2009 4:12:45 PM |
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nancylynn1956
Elkins Park, PA
age: 52
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When I seperated and then divorced I was 51 and feeling low...my self-esteem was in the toilet.
I met a guy who was 25 and became friends, then lovers. I knew the relationship would be fleeting, because he has his whole life ahead of him...he eventually wants marriage and children.
This situation helped me to feel desirable again, and to want to get out there and find someone for my own long-term relationship.
I don't regret the short time I spent with this young guy...it was good for both of us. Just make sure you are both on the same page regarding expectations.
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| 1/24/2009 6:01:46 PM |
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whitelillies
Tuscaloosa, AL
age: 54
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The only man my age i ever dated was my first husband! After that, it was one thirteen years younger than me i married. We had a blast for years. I've had one serious relationship with a guy twenty years younger than me. I never sought them out. It just happened that way, because number one, i always looked much younger, and number two, i never learned what "act your age" really meant!
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