| 8/23/2009 9:44:55 PM |
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jer555
Huntley, IL
87, joined May. 2009
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I did on a date....".she said put it in a drawer".....I said no, I will wear it on my right hand ring finger on a date.......this ring represents 51 years of love.
Had worn it so long that I forgot it was still on my hand after all those years, it is a part of me
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| 8/23/2009 11:43:49 PM |
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aliveankickinto
Tucson, AZ
84, joined Jul. 2008
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Jer, I don't think there is anything wrong with wearing your wedding ring. She is gone but still part of you. The ring is just comforting. I wear my husbands and my ring on a chain around my neck. 
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| 8/24/2009 12:58:14 AM |
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gloriajune
Waterford, CA
80, joined Nov. 2008
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If the ring is a comfort to you. Wear it.
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| 8/24/2009 6:53:01 AM |
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altje
Kernersville, NC
75, joined Jun. 2008
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This is a personal decision that no one else should make for you. I no longer wear my wedding ring, but do wear my engagement ring on my right hand sometimes.
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| 8/24/2009 10:47:08 AM |
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waltaz
Coolidge, AZ
86, joined May. 2009
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A painful subject, literally. My ring got caught between a hot wire and ground. Got hot in a hurry. I had to cut it off. A month to heal. Very painful. My wife bought me a new one but I never wore it.
Her rings went to my two daughters.
 
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| 8/24/2009 11:32:47 AM |
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jer555
Huntley, IL
87, joined May. 2009
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Yes ...it can be a very touchy subject, I remember when my Jean was sick and on prednisone a steroid , which will put weight on you fast.... I had to cut her wedding ring off she burst into tears...... we both had a good cry over it .....had it repaired .....a material thing but a strong symbol of love 
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| 8/24/2009 12:23:01 PM |
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idphionix
Boise, ID
76, joined Aug. 2009
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I believe that is a personal choise of the individual. I didn't have a wedding band from my first marriage So when Kathy was killed I didn't have to make that decision. My second marriage I had it covered to a cross lapel pin. I still have it in a box.
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| 8/24/2009 3:00:45 PM |
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cactusbaby
Fredonia, TX
80, joined Jul. 2009
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Absolutely, if you want to. I would not fault a widower for wearing his wedding ring. I'd see that as a sure sign of his loyalty and not any kind of comment on us as a couple. I'd marry the man if he asked and would encourage him to wear his wedding ring on his right hand after we were married. How could you expect someone to forget a loved mate just because they died? Shouldn't be done.
Jerr, did you get the knee replacement ?
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| 8/24/2009 3:10:13 PM |
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arkielady
Austin, AR
78, joined May. 2008
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I say wear your ring if you like. If someone wants to fuss about something, that is as good of a thing as any to fuss about. (Smile)
I had trouble with accepting the fact that a man I met prominently displayed a sculpture of his ex-wife’s belly, from the belly button to within a couple of inches of the crotch.
It made it hard to take him seriously.
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| 8/24/2009 3:35:02 PM |
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kitty2u
Clay City, IN
74, joined Dec. 2008
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You won't believe this, but my cat batted mine in the trash. I never did find it, and it had several diamonds in it. I hated it, but what could I do? He knocks everything off the wet bar, so it is empty now. I also moved the trash container.
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| 8/24/2009 6:01:07 PM |
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ggranny21
Huntington, IN
85, joined Feb. 2009
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I wore mine for over 60 years...two years after my husband passed... my daughter suggested I put it away for awhile.Soon be 5 years and I still haven't dated.All the older men I know still have partners.
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| 8/25/2009 7:47:47 AM |
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cactusbaby
Fredonia, TX
80, joined Jul. 2009
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You won't believe this, but my cat batted mine in the trash. I never did find it, and it had several diamonds in it. I hated it, but what could I do? He knocks everything off the wet bar, so it is empty now. I also moved the trash container.
Kitty, if that ring was not in the trash can, you might want to take off the p trap under that wet bar sink. I'd bet it's there.
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| 8/26/2009 7:57:17 AM |
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jer555
Huntley, IL
87, joined May. 2009
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Correct Cactus, My Dad lost the diamond out of his ring doing dishes....I removed the trap shook out the coffee grounds and there it was sparkling threw the grounds, Big smile and hug from Dad.. 
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| 8/26/2009 9:30:40 AM |
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seattleborn
Lewiston, ID
74, joined Jan. 2009
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I took mine off over three years ago, still can't get that green stain off my finger.
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| 8/26/2009 9:40:12 AM |
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fisherman76
Aurora, MO
83, joined May. 2009
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For the first year after I lost my lovely, loving wife Mavis in 2008 I continued to wear my wedding ring on third finger left hand , Later I switched to right hand , & for a short period removed it for a piece of costume jewelry from dollar store , but since July of this year it's back on the left hand 3rd finger to stay till they cremate me .Proud to know majority approve of continuing wearing of wedding ring after loved ones have departed .
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| 8/26/2009 12:45:29 PM |
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aliveankickinto
Tucson, AZ
84, joined Jul. 2008
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Wear your ring where you want. It shows you were a loving husband, and the lady who gets you will also be loved.
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| 8/26/2009 3:40:00 PM |
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jer555
Huntley, IL
87, joined May. 2009
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The stain was left to remind you of your Seattle........Your a good man fisherman
Thanks alive&kickin
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| 8/26/2009 3:51:14 PM |
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cactusbaby
Fredonia, TX
80, joined Jul. 2009
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It occurs to me that denying someone you think you might have a relataionships with, ro that you already love, somethng so much a part of them is just throwing away a vital part of him/her. A person whose spouse has died still carries memories of them and the way they hancle their life after the death in the way of loyalty to the dead spouse tells a whole lot about what kind of person you are dealing with. I can't see how anyone can see a threat an insult in the wearing of a wedding ring which has been on a finger for so many years. I suppose it just boils down to how different peaople feel.
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| 8/27/2009 4:08:25 PM |
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rebel_rose37
San Marcos, TX
78, joined Aug. 2009
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I say NO....
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| 10/8/2009 8:36:18 PM |
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bluberry73
Duluth, MN
80, joined Oct. 2009
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Hey, Rebel, I kind of agree with you. But to each his own. My own husband died in 2008 after 53 years of marriage. I lost my best friend and soulmate. When and if I do meet someone that is interesting I will always check his left hand for a wedding ring. If there is one there I would back off. Just like I would have wanted a single women to do in the past with my husband. 
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| 10/8/2009 8:43:26 PM |
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gloriajune
Waterford, CA
80, joined Nov. 2008
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After a proper amount of time I feel your rig should be put away with all your great memories, or given to children , just don't wear the ring forever. If you need to feel dressed, purchase a regular ring to wear . It will let the ladies who respect what the ring represents know if they are trespassing or not. I gave mine to my daughter and her fathers to. They mean something to her. And my memories are all I need. Just my thoughts on it. gj
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| 10/10/2009 11:22:53 PM |
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rebel_rose37
San Marcos, TX
78, joined Aug. 2009
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Thanks Blue and gloria,,,,one of my exhusbands wore his ring until our wedding day, he proceeded to the cememtery and took his band off and poked it into the dirt of his wife;s grave...
That was fine with both of us....
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