| 3/2/2010 10:51:34 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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1hellofaguy
Cleveland, OH
age: 24
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Just curious to what everybody thinks,is it really better to have loved someone and lost that love rather than being in love at all...me personally,I rather not,or should I say wish I hadnt fell in love because speaking from experience,it f**kin sucks haveing something so good,losing it and then tryin to find something that good again...
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| 3/2/2010 10:56:20 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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watscookin
Shelley, ID
age: 47
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I say yes! With each experience in life we grow!!
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| 3/2/2010 12:08:40 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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lucas510
Wadsworth, OH
age: 26
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comparing an old love to a new one is not good. If you do this you will never be satisfied with what is right in front of you. Each person has their strengths about them. How you capitalize on them is up to you. Good luck man. I found someone on here and loving her to death. hang in there. Your first two coments are from people who have found someone through DH.
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| 3/2/2010 12:29:56 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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ohiosunshine48
Newton Falls, OH
age: 48
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I say yes! With each experience in life we grow!!
Have to agree with Cookin!! although it may hurt so much when we lose the one we love, we grow and find new things in ourselves we never knew was there
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| 3/2/2010 1:03:42 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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watscookin
Shelley, ID
age: 47
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Thanks sunshine! Yes it hurts, but we heal . . . we learn . . . life goes on!! The "journey" that brought me to here is ever changing, and what I bench marked as "the beginning" was a series of events that caused me to think my whole world was crumbling. A divorce was only part of that hell . . . In retrospect, all of the doom and gloom back then has turned into a good thing. I've grown to appreciate derby in ways I never appreciated a man before as well as other aspects of life!!
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| 3/2/2010 1:55:03 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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somewhatcoolguy
Akron, OH
age: 64
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Life is a learning experience...... I don't regret past loves but try not to repeat past mistakes..........
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| 3/2/2010 2:16:59 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
age: 49
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Oh,MOST certainly! I LOVE to LOVE and dont often get it back,but,I still do it and I feel better for having done so,remember the "good book" says"Those that dont know love ,do not know God,for God is love" and that's the TRUTH(for those of you too young to remember Edith Ann from Laugh In...well,sorry bout yer luck!)
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| 3/2/2010 2:39:05 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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iamtam
Pemberville, OH
age: 53
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Sometimes, I think we look too hard to find a love that's like the love we lost. We forget, or don't realize, that each love is different, and you never find one that's like the one you had. But that's okay, because you really don't want the same love you had, you want love that lasts!  Love is good, even when it hurts, and it's always worth having, even if it's only for awhile.
Hang in there. In time, you'll find the love that you won't lose, and that will make all the pain worthwhile.
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| 3/2/2010 3:56:13 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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gentlebear1949
Wooster, OH
age: 60
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The problem in looking back at most lost loves,is we tend to only remember the good times and forget the rest....... .. ..
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| 3/2/2010 9:45:59 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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hellokitty701
Lorain, OH
age: 40
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Have to agree with Cookin!! although it may hurt so much when we lose the one we love, we grow and find new things in ourselves we never knew was there
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| 3/4/2010 12:25:00 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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sheenamarie23
Sidney, OH
age: 23
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id personally rather have never been in love. too much hurting involved whether intentional or not.
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| 3/4/2010 1:44:05 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
age: 49
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 Oh,little girl I used to tell my ex-gf,ANYONE can f--- you,I make LOVE to you and ,believe me,there is a WORLD of difference!She must have agreed,she kept me around for 5 years....course she just HAD to test the theory,so I left and aint looked back!
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| 3/8/2010 11:12:41 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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sourphinh
Ragley, LA
age: 27
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I really don't know. I have only been in love once and I didn't know what to do with it when I had it and now that we're not together I want him back and it's not working out the way that I want it to. The bad thing about it is it's been a while since we've been a couple and the pain still feels fresh. Being in love was the best feeling and the worst feeling I've ever had all in one. And the worst part about this whole thing is in trying to move on everyone that I seem to be interested in reminds me of him in some way, and I don't do it on purpose. I can't even move on...........I really got it bad. I'm glad that I knew what love felt like but I'm hesitant to let someone else in because I never want to feel like this again. Sorry so long but I really was feel'in this subject.
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| 3/9/2010 6:36:58 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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phina1
Walton, KY
age: 49
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Life is a learning experience...... I don't regret past loves but try not to repeat past mistakes..........
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| 3/9/2010 8:48:56 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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lucas510
Wadsworth, OH
age: 26
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here is an oldy for everyone.
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| 3/10/2010 10:56:08 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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tazzerio
Dayton, OH
age: 39
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I suppose it is if you let go of what you had. I still want to feel what I felt with the first love of my life. I know I won't find it exactly, but I mean that feeling of love being mutual. I want to feel what I felt in my heart... and that hurts because i have not found it again.
Still... I don't think I every want to forget that feeling. To know love is truly awesome.
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| 3/11/2010 3:52:17 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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lovely2meet
Cleveland, OH
age: 28
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I really don't know. I have only been in love once and I didn't know what to do with it when I had it and now that we're not together I want him back and it's not working out the way that I want it to. The bad thing about it is it's been a while since we've been a couple and the pain still feels fresh. Being in love was the best feeling and the worst feeling I've ever had all in one. And the worst part about this whole thing is in trying to move on everyone that I seem to be interested in reminds me of him in some way, and I don't do it on purpose. I can't even move on...........I really got it bad. I'm glad that I knew what love felt like but I'm hesitant to let someone else in because I never want to feel like this again. Sorry so long but I really was feel'in this subject. 
[Edited 3/11/2010 3:53:36 PM ]
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| 3/29/2010 11:23:09 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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d14me
Cleveland, OH
age: 45
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YES  I think that once you really love someone, I mean really love them, you never stop loving them  I think real love is forever. People who have never been in love need to experience it for the trip between pain and pleasure. Its like the ultimate roller coaster ride        
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| 5/10/2010 4:34:24 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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waitingnolonger
Elyria, OH
age: 39
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It hurts to lose love, but to never have the experience, to never feel that joy and pain, is to have not lived. I've always regretted the chances I never took much more than the ones that blew up in my face!
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| 5/20/2010 6:09:46 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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dlynn7619
Middletown, OH
age: 33
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oh for sure....Love is all those things..wonderful, silly, makes your heart bigger...and breaks into peices....
but you cant close yourself off...because you may just miss something even better...
plus you learn from being in love..your mistakes, thier mistakes...
Im not really big into country but that one rascal flats song ..god bless the broken road..I really love that song...I wouldnt take back any relationship...even the ones that hurt really bad...because they are part of me and I really do believe things...everything happens for a reason...even when it hurts and we dont understand,
have a great day!! 
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| 5/23/2010 1:20:45 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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iaminohio
Cleveland, OH
age: 59
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Just curious to what everybody thinks, is it really better to have loved someone and lost that love rather than being in love at all...me personally, I'd rather not, or should I say wish I hadn't fell in love because speaking from experience, it sucks having something so good,losing it and then trying to find something that good again...
No matter what you think hun, you'll end up there anyway, trust me. Been there, done that. 
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| 5/31/2010 2:47:16 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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catieliz
Columbus, OH
age: 46
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It does suck, but you have to get up and keep going. I am glad to say I have been in love 3 times. One guy died, One guy was a moma's boy and he mom was going to cut him off if he continued with me, the last ran off with another woman, later wanted to come back, but the bridge was burned.
I am glad for the experiences even though it hurt. I am out looking again. Love is there somewhere.
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| 5/31/2010 11:54:21 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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ktknt19
Cleveland, OH
age: 19
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Oh I totally understand how you feel but at the same time I would never take back falling in love with the person I did. Why live life with regrets because it's just going to make you unhappy. Think of loving someone as a step in life that just needs to happen order to understand other things in life. Without love life to me is meaningless and no matter how many times I get hurt I will always love.
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| 6/1/2010 1:51:06 PM |
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sikkkmaine
Indianapolis, IN
age: 29
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Loving and then loosing means you know how to love. Its called experience under ones belt.
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| 6/1/2010 3:46:10 PM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
age: 49
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Loving and then loosing means you know how to love. Its called experience under ones belt.
You bet ,my friend!And ,mostly that is where it IS "under one's belt" 
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| 6/1/2010 3:56:11 PM |
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goods61
Buckhead, GA
age: 49
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I couldn't imagine not having fallen in love. As much as it hurt when it was over, it was still a experience that i will always treasure and hope to find again.
How miserable life would be if one was too scared/afraid of experiencing that again. I'd also pity the partner those folks end up with
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| 6/1/2010 3:59:37 PM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
age: 49
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How miserable life would be if one was too scared/afraid of experiencing that again. I'd also pity the partner those folks end up with
 That would be ME!
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| 6/1/2010 4:03:18 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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goods61
Buckhead, GA
age: 49
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Ahmmm nobs which part of that statement is you?
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| 6/1/2010 4:13:57 PM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
age: 49
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The one they end up with,I have this horrible habit of trying to make people smile and be happy ,even if just for a little while. I'm SUCH an idiot that way....
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| 6/1/2010 4:21:57 PM |
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goods61
Buckhead, GA
age: 49
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Yeah I have a slight problem with that also, it sucks but oh well
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| 6/1/2010 9:01:38 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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dlynn7619
Middletown, OH
age: 33
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thats a good thing...even when people don't appreciate it..still good
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| 6/3/2010 1:07:45 PM |
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smilingbob63
Barberton, OH
age: 46
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you know its love when the one you love farts in bed and you say "That's what we had for lunch...now I remember." 
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| 6/3/2010 2:12:23 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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goods61
Buckhead, GA
age: 49
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is that right after the covers are pulled over their head?
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| 6/3/2010 2:23:43 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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smilingbob63
Barberton, OH
age: 46
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I would have to say ......yes without a doubt
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| 6/7/2010 9:21:38 PM |
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catieliz
Columbus, OH
age: 46
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It happens often especially when in the middle of an intimate moment, and they are behind you and don't stop a good rhythm. If you know what I mean. That is love or either it feel to good to notice.
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| 6/8/2010 7:18:21 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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captainjul1
Columbus, OH
age: 51 online now!
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yes i agree
if we can sit there without talking and be comfertable thats a good start on love
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| 6/9/2010 2:19:37 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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smilingbob63
Barberton, OH
age: 46
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sooooooooooo.....if I read this right.....the silent awkward moment would be a sign of love??!! Really
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| 6/9/2010 3:46:08 PM |
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musclecarmania
Franklin, OH
age: 51
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ok now, lets try to work a little class into this discussion 
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| 6/9/2010 8:07:22 PM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
age: 49
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ok now, lets try to work a little class into this discussion
I WAS gonna say something like,it was starting to stink,but(T),I thought I'd better not...Hee,hee,hee, I gotta get some sleep....
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| 6/9/2010 8:13:04 PM |
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musclecarmania
Franklin, OH
age: 51
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Going to bed nobs? sweet dreams
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| 6/10/2010 1:11:59 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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captainjul1
Columbus, OH
age: 51 online now!
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as the sating goes,
its better to have loved and lost then never to have been loved at all,
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| 6/10/2010 5:01:49 PM |
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sweet_tweety
Columbus, OH
age: 32
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It really is better to be loved and lost it than to never been loved before.
 
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| 7/10/2010 10:54:41 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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tazzerio
Dayton, OH
age: 39
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Well... obviously I posted a response then forgot I had done so. That's unusual for me because I like to write even if it is only a reply to a forum post.
So the general consensus is that it sucks to love and lose, but it is a necessity. It makes us grow and learn what love is in the first place.
I had made up my mind on this subject before noticing that I had posted this question. I wouldn't trade the experience for anything in the world. I was young and stupid and wasted it, but had I not done so I would never have wanted to find love again. I also wasted a lot of time trying to recreate that love before realizing that it isn't possible. It is possible to love again, but it will never be exactly as it was before because the person you fall in love with isn't the same.
Now I am just trying to be. I figure love will find me someday and in the mean time I might discover a great friendship. That's what brought me to this site, but so far... nothing. Then again, I rarely check it.
[Edited 7/10/2010 10:56:14 PM ]
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| 7/11/2010 5:30:08 AM |
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catieliz
Columbus, OH
age: 46
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I agree, go for the friendship first, then love may find you again. It is a growing thing with me. If time is taken, shown, quality, then I can grow in love. I rarely fall into anything head over heels. I know I am a person who has to see the logic in something. The whys and where fores. Like if someone says they love me, then why do they love me. Do they love me as a friend, sister, lover, a child of God? There are many different types of Love. Maybe I am to intellectual and think too much. My mother tells me that often. I am her only child out of 4 who has not married and given her grandchildren.
I have been in love, right now I have a couple good friendships. The guys don't have traits I want for marrying. I hate to say this economy does not help because both are unemployed. One is on unemployment the other is waiting on disability. I need a man to have an income. I can't support us by myself.
Love and financial security sort of go together for me.
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| 7/12/2010 4:43:34 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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izzy2004
Toledo, OH
age: 34
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your singing my song
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| 7/12/2010 5:51:30 PM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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mulligan1031
Lakewood, OH
age: 52
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For me, it is better to have loved and lost. Having known love, and knowing there must be some that may never know...my answer is absolutely yes, pain and all.
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| 7/13/2010 4:27:47 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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goods61
Buckhead, GA
age: 49
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In my eyes yes it is absolutely better. Love is a feeling that can not be matched or explained really and having experienced that is well worth the pain if you loose it. I can't imagine staying with someone for convinience or out of fear, there has to be love.
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| 7/13/2010 4:54:12 AM |
Is it REALLY better to love and lost rather than never been in love??? |
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imagoodone4sure
Xenia, OH
age: 50
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Most definitely better. I know that one day I will have that feeling again. There is one man that truly has my heart but sadly you can't make someone love you back no matter how badly you may want that. We have a lot of history together but when I left Florida to move here to Ohio I think that was the end for us even though he kept promising me he would move to be with me. All I can say is I do miss him terribly but in the end it is his loss.
One day I will find love again......
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