latenitenla
Bossier City, LA
age: 26
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I am a single mom of two. Almost five years ago, the father of my kids passed away unexpectedly, and then a bunch of other things happened within 6 months of that. Needless to say I had a lot of things to "get over" and get my life straightened out. I just recently decided I was tired of being alone and wanted to get my toes wet in the dating world.
Ive met a few guys on here that I talk to on a regular if not daily basis. I have plans to hang out but nothing set in stone yet. I dont want to give any of them up right now. I dont know if its because I have been alone for so long, I like the attention, or what. But I dont want to dismiss anyone yet either because you never really know what will happen and if he possibly could be the one and I gave up on him too soon.
I dont have any plans as of yet to bring them around my kids. I think I need to have the one-on-one with them first before I get that deep into it. I dont want my kids to get heartbroken again over losing that father figure. (Just to clarify-Im not looking for a replacement daddy. They have one eventho he isnt with us anymore. But whoever I end up with would have to be comfortable and accepting of treating my girls as their own!!)
I know this is long, and Im sorry. There is a lot involved, but wanted to hit a few key points. I would like opinions on how long you think would be considered too long and taking advantage of the situation and stringing someone along. Any comments would be appreciated!!!! 
[Edited 3/26/2010 7:18:54 AM ]
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iaminohio
Cleveland, OH
age: 59
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Take your time. The way I see it, as long as you only hanging out with them, you can date as many as you want. Once it gets serious though, then it's only one. This is for you to decide. Hope this answers your question. 
[Edited 3/26/2010 11:15:10 AM ]
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 51
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Yep, that's the answer. Take your time.......enjoy every minute with your kids while *dating*.
If anyone to rush you.....and, you're NOT comfortable.......back away! Um, since this is Women's world.....if I may add couple of more personal things? Just a precautionary steps.......You have two things you must watch out for: Children to be protected at all times and your financial assets stay in your and your children names alone, Always! Take my suggestion seriously. 
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titanicrose
Schaumburg, IL
age: 45
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You are not stringing them along if you tell the truth of your feelings and your situation. If you continue to see them without telling them the truth and they are thinking differently than you, then you are stringing them along. Don't string people, tell them the truth and then maybe your friendships will turn into something special. I agree do not show them to your kids unless you feel your kids are ready. Good Luck!
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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You've gotten some good advice.
It's not stringing them along if you're honest about it. Most people understand that when you're in a 'getting to know you' phase, it's just that, getting to know you. And that you might be getting to know others, too. You'll know when you want it to become more, and you'll know which of the people you're talking to, you want to know better.
You're right in keeping your kids out of it until it's at a point where you need to see how you'll all interact and whether or not he can accept and love the responsibility that comes along as a step-parent. And how the kids act with him.
Sounds like you have a pretty handle on it all.
and don't worry about if you think you're just enjoying the attention. Why not? There is nothing at all wrong with that.
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