| 7/17/2011 8:54:49 PM |
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takhisis
Shawnee, OK
38, joined Jun. 2011
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So a few friends and I have been talking about this topic today, just wondering what others here would think. Some of the questions were, can you honestly feel you love someone you have not met and spent time with? Can you honestly feel you love someone without having had sex with them? If you do love someone before theres sex would say "bad sex" change that love? Also it was brought up if your loving someone you have not met, would sex with someone else be cheating? I had a real good laugh hearing what my friends had to say about all this. What do you think??
p.s. there where three men and four women. all single and only two trying online dating. If that makes a difference. Thanks and have a great week.
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| 7/17/2011 9:22:15 PM |
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earldirt
Tulsa, OK
68, joined Mar. 2008
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You can be in love with the idea of someone you've never met in person,we all have an image of the person we'd like to fall in love with but that image is from our own perspective of what we expect/want and an attractive face/body enhances that image.
it's just my opinion but,sex is also an enhancer,it makes it a lot more acceptable when it's a basic pleasure we enjoy and if you're both really into it,but,what if the other isn't into it that much?,maybe once a week or month and then it's just an obligation not a want?,that's not what a healthy sexual appetite is going to be happy with for long.
Yes,it would be cheating morally in a way to have sex with someone else when you're supposed to be in love with another.just "loving" or caring for someone isn't the same but if they're "in love" with you....you know it's going to hurt...just sayin' 
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| 7/17/2011 10:10:38 PM |
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abreathaway
Tulsa, OK
64, joined Jun. 2009
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I don't think you could really fall in love with someone until you've actually met them. Until then you maybe think you're in love with who you think they are
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| 7/17/2011 10:15:28 PM |
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nicnamessucbals
Purcell, OK
39, joined Jul. 2011
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I honestly think one has to get to know another, mentally, emotionally first before love can ever be there. I have to know what is in ones heart before love can be true.
Anyone can have sex, whether it is good sex or bad sex it is just sex. If your trully in love with someone the sex is going to be magnificent. Your going to do everything you can to pleasure them and there going to do the same for you in return because you both are in love with each other. Thats my 2 cents
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| 7/17/2011 10:34:12 PM |
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meanydeany
Norman, OK
44, joined May. 2011
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My first love, and maybe this doesn't count as much because she wasy first everything, was a pen pal. Fell in love with each other before meeting and lasted over 3 yrs. She was the first girl I had ever kissed, had sex with, etc...
When we first met face to face, I was 17 yrs old and waited two yrs before even having sex with her. Again, I know it's different because I am older now but... I still consider her my true love.
I think you can fall in love with someone without having ever met. Sure, sex is important as well as physical and mental chemistry but they would only enhance what you already feel.
Hell, the divorce rate is over 50% in this day and age anyhow, so do we REALLY love someone like our grandparents and parents did? I'd still like to believe that love conquers all but I am not sure if it even exists unless it's love for an actual family member anymore.
Just my .02
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| 7/18/2011 5:21:50 PM |
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takhisis
Shawnee, OK
38, joined Jun. 2011
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Thanks for the thoughts... please keep them coming!
I personally think theres to many details or what ifs to imput my chioce, and think that it would depend on where I was in my life and relationship wants/needs.
Then again I also think love is just a nice idea for a good book or movie or maybe a hallmark card lol
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| 7/19/2011 6:56:32 AM |
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singularme
Norman, OK
41, joined Jul. 2011
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You can have feelings for someone you haven't met yet but really they may or may not be the person they write about. It's easy to get online and become someone else. One person can be sincere and completely honest and assume the person they are talking to is the same. So if you start to have feelings for the person you are talking to then meet them, more than likely your feelings may change. Most people are not who they describe themselves as, its usually who they want to be. I do believe that you can have feelings while talking to someone, but love? I'm not so sure you can fall in love by talking to someone before you meet them.
Now sex is a completely different topic. You can have sex with or without love. Assuming you are just talking about sex and not making love. But if you feel like you "love" someone you haven't met and have sex with someone else, I think it would only be cheating if you told the person you were talking to you were only theirs. If you had a commitment to another person and had sex, even if it meant absolutely nothing, it is cheating. And if you felt "love" for this person you haven't met, would you feel bad for having sex with someone else? If you didn't, I wouldn't think you actually loved anyone, not even yourself.
So now to the feelings and bad sex question.... If you have strong feelings but the sex was bad.... Tjat is no fun. I would take offence. if both people have the passion for each other, there shouldn't be bad sex. Both people would be concious of each others desires. By the time you have those strong feelings you should know what your partner likes and doesn't. Or I would hope. Which here is anotherquestion....can you fix asomeone
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| 7/19/2011 7:00:12 AM |
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singularme
Norman, OK
41, joined Jul. 2011
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Oops sent it too soon.
Here's my question....
can you fix the bad sex situation?
You have strong feelings for someone but they are not hummmm... compatible with you in bed? I mean they are really not doing it for you....is there hope that the 2 of uou can ever be great in bed? And if not....what would happen?
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| 7/19/2011 3:24:49 PM |
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takhisis
Shawnee, OK
38, joined Jun. 2011
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You have strong feelings for someone but they are not hummmm... compatible with you in bed? I mean they are really not doing it for you....is there hope that the 2 of uou can ever be great in bed? And if not....what would happen?
That was one of the many questions and one that keeps coming up.
I personally dont know, I have never been put in this situation to know how or what I would do... logic says a lot of things but well idk lol
thanks for the thoughts
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| 7/19/2011 4:14:07 PM |
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sureshot40
Drumright, OK
45, joined Apr. 2011
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You don't really know someone untill you live with them. All you know on here is a picture {that might not be real} and a keyboard.
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| 7/19/2011 4:27:45 PM |
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takhisis
Shawnee, OK
38, joined Jun. 2011
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You don't really know someone untill you live with them. All you know on here is a picture {that might not be real} and a keyboard.
ahh soo true lol
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| 7/19/2011 5:15:01 PM |
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proudmommy2006
Tulsa, OK
31, joined Jul. 2011
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Words have a way of making one feel things good or bad it is possible to have a feeling of love for someone u've never met but u can't actually fall in love with someone unless u spend time with them face to face. In order to love u have to have a full on connection in every way. It is possible to fall in love with someone u've never had sex with. Sex isn't what decides matters of the heart but merely matters of lust though it does help two ppl grow as a couple that isn't supposed to come until later. We all mess up in that area. In order to have a lasting love u must first form a friendship then a solid relationship and then comes the sexual relationship. The reason it should be done in this order is cuz u have to kn that yrs down the road when the sex is gone u still have things incommon otherwise u've done nothing but waisted yrs. If u wanna kn if this works look at the older couples like grandparents and such they built their relationships based on this method and most of them stayed together until death or r still together..... so in ending my massive post lol it is possible to form feelings for someone u've never met but u cannot truely love them until meeting them and spending true time with them
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| 7/19/2011 8:06:34 PM |
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nicnamessucbals
Purcell, OK
39, joined Jul. 2011
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I agree with Proudmommy2006, Well Written! you deserve a happy face.
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| 7/20/2011 6:04:33 PM |
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ok1954
Okmulgee, OK
61, joined Sep. 2008
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Now I am really confused.
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| 7/20/2011 6:10:00 PM |
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takhisis
Shawnee, OK
38, joined Jun. 2011
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why?
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| 7/20/2011 6:40:33 PM |
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ok1954
Okmulgee, OK
61, joined Sep. 2008
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All these opinions and I only wanted to pick one, not have one.......
I am blonde and old both. I just wanna play follow the leader now...
Carry on, at least I can still read.
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| 7/20/2011 6:45:40 PM |
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takhisis
Shawnee, OK
38, joined Jun. 2011
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lol gotcha
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