| 6/8/2008 10:20:00 PM |
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dark341
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 33
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Okay I am back in school. I have been surrounded by, well mostly college age kids for a year now. I am in my 30's.
Two weeks ago I had a girl come up to me in one of my classes and and tell me "I am fascinated with you"
Now let me preface everything else. I am not of a single mind. I am not driven purley by sex, and my focus in school, well in my whole life right now, is school. I have a number of languages to finish learning and a lot of basic pieces to put into place at the moment.
Now to the Girl. She seems nice enough, but I have not had a conversation with her. She is attractive, and certainly seems to be intelligent. (Intelligence is far more important to me).
So really I am looking for a translation, from women. WHat does that mean? I was downright shocked. And I would guess she is close to 10 years my junior. Which for me raises concerns IF, I can't emphasize the IF enough, she is remotely interested in me, or is it mor like she is interested in what I have to say. It becomes obvious in discussion classes, which we have two that are the same, that I have been around the world a little bit.
For me, other than being totally shocked, I could see why I might be an interesting person to someone else. I admit I think I am rather boring, I just have had some interesting experiences and stories.
So for the women - any thoughts on what "I am fascinated with you" might mean??
I am not sure I have ever been so confused by a single statement in my whole life.
Thanks
D
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| 6/8/2008 10:29:37 PM |
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pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38 online now!
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"I am facinated by you" means that a woman wants to get you better becuase of something you have said, the way you think, your personality, humor or everything about you.... It goes deeper than "I think you are hot!" She is obviously attracted to you as a person, all of you.
A woman who says that - also generally tends to be more ceribral (sp), deep, intuitive, and classy.
Can't hurt to give it a chance!
P.Win
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| 6/8/2008 10:32:33 PM |
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dark341
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 33
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Thanks for the translation. I was hoping it something like that. I like good conversations, and for me there is no other motive. A bit of a departure from a good many of my peers.
Seriously thanks, that actually helps.
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| 6/8/2008 10:38:38 PM |
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daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
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"I am facinated by you" means that a woman wants to get you better becuase of something you have said, the way you think, your personality, humor or everything about you.... It goes deeper than "I think you are hot!" She is obviously attracted to you as a person, all of you.
A woman who says that - also generally tends to be more ceribral (sp), deep, intuitive, and classy.
Can't hurt to give it a chance!
P.Win
Ok break it down for us that didn't go to college, does he have to take shots for any of those things? On second thought don't it would just confuse me more than I already am
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| 6/8/2008 10:48:17 PM |
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pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38 online now!
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Hi Daddy! 
The simple version - She is connecting with more than just physical chemistry and is truly curious to get to know him better.... He shouldn't let this just pass he could be missing out if he doesn't act on this.
There, Now that wasn't so confusing was it? 
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| 6/8/2008 10:53:01 PM |
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luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
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Pwin is right. If we are fascinated by someone we have an initial attraction to them that goes beyond their looks, we like something they have expressed or done.
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| 6/8/2008 10:59:25 PM |
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dark341
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 33
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Interesting, I should not pass on the opportunity then? Seems to be the consensus.
I have been asking ALL of my friends who are female about this. It is strange I don't really know know why it threw me for such a loop, I think I am just shocked is all.
The good news is that there is a 'mind' aspect, which includes thought. I was honestly impressed, and well that really doesn't happen too often for me.
Thanks!
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| 6/8/2008 11:05:33 PM |
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pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38 online now!
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You are welcome! And good luck! Hope it goes well for you... If nothing else you will meet a wonderful person (hopefully) and a friend you wouldn't have otherwise gotten to know!
Let us know how things turn out!
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| 6/8/2008 11:05:52 PM |
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alicekathleen
Fresno, CA
age: 62
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Fascination means projection. The woman is projecting HER animus onto you. She does not know you, but
you stand for something in her eyes. Think of how men project onto females, "love at first sight", etc,
think of archtypes like Marilyn Monroe.
This does not mean that when she does get to know you, she will not find you "fascinating"... how many
couples together for several years would say they are "fascinated" or "under a spell" with their partner
??? Go slowly and see what happens. She may be projecting her daddy onto you, or think you could
open doors for her which she cannot open (so she may think) alone. I would remind her that
fascination means spellbound, and you do not want a sleeping beauty.
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| 6/8/2008 11:09:11 PM |
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owensborogirl2
Owensboro, KY
age: 44
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dark, you are very handsome and she is interested in you as a man....if not more..Watch out she is young....Be careful and don't get caught up in head games...JMO
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| 6/8/2008 11:15:52 PM |
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dark341
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 33
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archetype? Gee whiz I hope not. That is an intimidating suggestion. As to the projection, I think you are 'spot on' in your analysis. The only place to find those answers are to search the source.
My reaction after the fact, was I am now curious as to who or why someone might think I am that interesting. Or interesting enough to act on it, coming up to me right after class completely out of the blue and making the statement.
As such I am maybe not fascinated, but intrigued. And certainly this is a person who based on appearance could easily have the run of the campus, which is far from small. So in my initial thought, I was impressed. I may not be man ogre, but I am no model either. And that has never bothered me, I am me. I don't worry about what others think. That is probably the root of WHY I was so shocked, dumbfounded might be a better word for it.
Ha ha. I will drop a line once I know how that turns out. And I like the friend idea, I have a few. Another good friend who is a 'real' person is never a bad thing.
Quote from owensborogirl2:
dark, you are very handsome and she is interested in you as a man....if not more..Watch out she is young....Be careful and don't get caught up in head games...JMO
Yeah uh, thanks. The age concerns me, I admit. But I don't "know" how old she is or isn't. Just based on my limited experience, she's younger than I would likely date.
Hmm head games, yeah I have no tolerance for that business. I have better things to do with my time.
That said as a self proclaimed "accidental student of human behavior" I think she was genuinely sincere. I just can't read what she was getting at, if anything at all. And I have, well a proven precedent, for reading people in that sense. It just does not include the vibes of intent when it comes to women. I'm a bit of a slow starter, and shy.
I think I have the nerve at this point to ask her to coffee. With the idea, I want to pick her brain and find out why she said what she said. I believe she meant it, BUT that doesn't necessarily mean she likes me or doesn't. Ask me to run into gunfire, burning building, fall from a plane in flight I'm your guy. Tell me to ask someone out, ha ha - good luck.
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| 6/8/2008 11:23:07 PM |
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dark341
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 33
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| 6/8/2008 11:46:13 PM |
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pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38 online now!
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Fascination means projection. The woman is projecting HER animus onto you. She does not know you, but
you stand for something in her eyes. Think of how men project onto females, "love at first sight", etc,
think of archtypes like Marilyn Monroe.
This does not mean that when she does get to know you, she will not find you "fascinating"... how many
couples together for several years would say they are "fascinated" or "under a spell" with their partner
??? Go slowly and see what happens. She may be projecting her daddy onto you, or think you could
open doors for her which she cannot open (so she may think) alone. I would remind her that
fascination means spellbound, and you do not want a sleeping beauty.
I can see where the "spellbound" connection is comming in---
fascination
"American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source - Share This fas·ci·na·tion Audio Help (fas'?-na'sh?n) Pronunciation Key
n.
The capability of eliciting intense interest or of being very attractive.
The state of being intensely interested or attracted: listened in fascination.
An intensely interesting, attractive quality or trait. "
But I would suggest in MHO - that her brain is being intensely stimulated. And I am not connecting with the MM archetype connection. While she had incredible charisma - she lead a very sad life.... A very empty one.
I still say go for it! Take the time to get to know each other.
BTW - I have made the statement both here on the site and in person to person meetings. For me it is not being overtaken by some spell or googlie eyes... It is a genuine connection and curiousity about a person and what makes them who they have become....
I don't say that often.
Hey question.... What were her eyes doing as she said this to you?
Peace!
P.Win
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| 6/9/2008 1:51:12 AM |
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daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
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Hi pwin, I knew that, I just wanted it cleared up for everybody else
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| 6/9/2008 7:15:52 PM |
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natasha1962
Fulton, NY
age: 45
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Fascinated means you peaked her interest, it was her way of telling you she thinks you are attractive and she may want to get to know you, but be careful, she is younger and may just be attracted to you as an older gentleman. I say talk with her for awhile, stay away from alcohol related affairs, go for icecream or coffee during the day the first few times. College is exciting and meeting new people can be fun, but some people get caught up in it too fast. And best of luck with you returning to college, I did it at age 38, earned my associates, working on my BA in Forensic Psychology, and heading for the MA in Psychology, so the fact you met each other at school and not at a bar is a great start.
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