| 6/11/2008 6:44:12 PM |
When is it time to give up? |
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weathergirl77
Scottsville, NY
age: 44
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I am thinking of deleting my profile. I know I have not been on here that long but I am starting to think if I can't meet someone in the real world what makes me think I can here? Besides all of the local men asked me how much I weigh and when I told them they deleted all the e-mails that were sent back and forth. Before I joined this site I did not know what to think but now that I am entering the dating world in my 40's it is a scary thing. Is it time to say good-bye?
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| 6/11/2008 6:45:49 PM |
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tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
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I'm with you on the dating thing in the 40's. It was hard enough in my 20's. Don't give up, you may not find it here, but you will find it somewhere. When you least expect it or aren't looking for it. Chin up girl!!!
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| 6/11/2008 6:45:57 PM |
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cortneyjoy
Chickasha, OK
age: 23
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no are u crazy the best guys on here are ur age u will find one babe!!
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| 6/11/2008 6:46:30 PM |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
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No........hang around and just get to know people..........and when you're not looking the right guy will probably come along. Usually how it goes isn't it.
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| 6/11/2008 6:48:56 PM |
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fredricko
Pico Rivera, CA
age: 49
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face your fears,either they will destroy you or control your life,LIFE is about not what is going on but what are you going to do about it
[Edited 6/11/2008 6:50:54 PM]
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| 6/11/2008 6:51:47 PM |
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motivation5980
Mansfield, MA
age: 59
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hon never give up. He is out there in the meantime do what we are all doing makeing new friends and just having fun.You need to have faith. I you look at the different chat rooms forums and posts there are many of us here in are 50's, 60's 70+ We still all have faith that we will find our other half so think about it . You may just want to stick around.
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| 6/11/2008 6:55:20 PM |
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defiantlyltr
Stroudsburg, PA
age: 46
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F*CK MEN and not literally!!! 
Too much emphasis is placed on meeting someone and yes I know this is a dating sight.
But after I had my Pity Party about a month ago I realized that I was looking at this
all the wrong way. It's not them I want to meet anymore. I am doing for myself now and
going about my own business and let them WANT to meet me and DO for me and be interested
in me for who I am, what I have to offer and not some fantasy that they might have built up in their mind.
I am who I am and I'm not gonna feed into the 'run after me' syndrome to please them anymore.
Take me for ALL that I am or not at all.
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly!!
It's only fair!!!
Why the hell would they ask about your wieght anyway?!?
[Edited 6/11/2008 6:55:40 PM]
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| 6/11/2008 7:04:11 PM |
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sunnymtnlady
Rocky Mount, NC
age: 48
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Don't give up.
When I first got on dating sites last Fall I weighed way more than I wanted to but I still would never have answered such a question (what do you weigh) and won't to this day even though I have gone from a size 18 to a 10 since September. A gentleman does not ask; especially one who has not even met you. I read your profile. You sound like a woman with a passion and zest for life. There will be at least one (all it takes, right?) that looks beyond the weight, or loves the weight, and sees the wonderful woman you are.
There are a lot of wonderful men in the world; decide what you are looking for, what your standards are, and set your sights on finding what you are looking for.
Actually, you have the "real world" vs "online world" view backward. On-line you have the opportunity to be exposed to a great many more opportunities than the typical person does in person.
Be you. Know what you seek and focus on the end result - a great relationship. You will find it if you stay positive about it.
Best of luck to you in your search.
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| 6/11/2008 7:04:27 PM |
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beachmimi
Leesburg, VA
age: 56
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NEVER, hey girl, you know what I told you. Hang in there, to be honest I think a person is shallow if weight is a big issue. Never judge a book by it's cover, you miss out on a great story sometimes. Don't you dare leave, stay on and so what if you don't find someone lucky enough to have you, join in on the fun and hit the forums and give us your advice. We can all use advice, and by all means don't give up looking in your own neighborhood, he's out there. Take care and don't make me hunt you down, stay on here. 
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| 6/11/2008 7:05:04 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 22
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hell I am in my 20's and its not easy for me either....mostly because I am to busy with my kids.... but I'm glad I went on this site for several reasons... for example one being that I talk to some really great people on a regular basis, some of which I may never meet but I still enjoy talking to them and another being that I dont really care for people in my town, so I was hoping that I can find someone outside of here.....and to be honest I think I did, but distance is a b*tch too!
its like a double edge sword.....cuts you either way.. 
but just by talking to a large group of people on a regular basis gives you the oppurtunity to learn alot more about life
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| 6/11/2008 7:10:49 PM |
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gar67
Omaha, NE
age: 40
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Weather the best way to put this is relax have fun with it and the rest will eventually follow whether in the real world or online this applies. It's not a race it's life enjoy it,
I was the eternal skeptic until it happened to me. It happens just don't put a timetable on it or your hosed.
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| 6/11/2008 7:14:41 PM |
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tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45 online now!
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i've been on here for a while now and i stil don't know half the people on here . the only thing that keep me on is the few that e-mail me from time to time . but everyone that come in the thread after reading them i find iam right back where i started lol .
if a person really can get to know someone tho these threads please tell me how
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| 6/11/2008 7:15:25 PM |
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weathergirl77
Scottsville, NY
age: 44
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Thank you all for your kind words. Beachmimi you are the greatest! I am trying so hard to stay positive but it is getting harder everyday. I had no problems getting dates in my 20's and 30's. Also having a condition that I can't walk a lot does not help. Also my ex just got married this past weekend. I am 100% over him but he gets to leave me for someone else, get engaged to her right after he leaves and then marry her. I am barely surviving and I am alone 90% of the time I am not at work. I know it is not a competition but I have been looking into how to change my life for the better but things are getting worse. I used to tap dance and ice skate and now I can't do my passions because of my condition. The only other passion I have is the weather but it is hard to find people that are interested in it. I want to start a weather club in my area but no one is really interested. I guess what I am trying to say is I am not just laying around thinking about meeting someone 24/7.
Thank you all again!
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| 6/11/2008 7:19:29 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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Anyone who deletes your email or stops chatting with you because of your body type 
This is sooooooooooooo disturbing. I am about 30 pounds overweight and if you don't like me, there is somene else who will who is more sensitive and caring. What do guys want - eye candy or real love? Ya can't have it both ways.
I am so sorry some people are callous and shallow. Stay with us a littl bit longer and maybe you will find someone who loves you unconditionally.
Susan
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| 6/11/2008 7:39:46 PM |
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theresa0916
Sidney, OH
age: 31
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I wouldn't give it up if it was me. I dont think it is very respectful of anyone to ask your weight. Whats on the outide is not anywhere near whats on the inside. No weight can compare to your huge heart. If a man asked me my weight and only wanted me if I was a size 5 then I would delete them myself. Take your time and you will find the right person who excepts you for you and he will be worth the weight, I promise. Anyone who can accept you just the way you are is worth everything.
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