| 6/13/2008 9:04:37 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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mstme
Valparaiso, IN
age: 53
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You need to talk to his therapist and come up with a strategy to turn this around. If all the therapist is doing is drugs and is saying that will cure it, find another one who will help in other ways too. Good Luck!
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| 6/13/2008 9:07:29 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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808_sm
Honolulu, HI
age: 41 online now!
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I am raising my nephew( who is 11). He lies constantly. Some lies are to get out of trouble, others are just for no reason. He is seeing a phsych who is treating him for ADHD, but the meds don t seem to stop the lies.I ve had two teachers tell me they have never seen a child lie this much. It is so hard to have a conversation with him sometimes.Does anyone have any ideas to help me to get him to stop before he turns into an adult like you are all talking about.
I wish I could tell you something to try, becuase I know this, if the girl I am referring too was like your nephew which I guessing she was, she has no real job and lives with relatives and to be honest I don't think she'll ever be on her own.
I would love to hear someone advice.
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| 6/13/2008 9:11:14 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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alleycat209
Merced, CA
age: 20
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oh gosh my last relashionship the guy was such a liar !! like to the point were he belived his lies lol !! i knew they were lies but i couldnt help but to stick around the best thing is i guess listen just dont be in a relashionship with them !! <3333333 lol
trust me !! because in the end we always ask "Y me ?' when we clearly seen it coming !!
<333
alley !! 
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| 6/13/2008 9:19:47 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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mstme
Valparaiso, IN
age: 53
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Advice... listen to the stories, believe half of what is said and do not try to fix thier current problem no matter how tempting it will be. It is like dealing with someone who is a child for life, never taking responsibility for any of thier actions. It will always be someone else's fault and none of thier own.
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| 6/13/2008 9:21:57 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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m_ford
Lake Dallas, TX
age: 48
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Hi Jill you are near my hometown of Rock Island -- cool
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| 6/13/2008 9:22:13 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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westcoast_sam
Delta, BC
age: 40
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lie back, its all they understand!
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| 6/13/2008 9:31:59 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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808_sm
Honolulu, HI
age: 41 online now!
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lie back, its all they understand!
I know your are joking, but I have tried that and I got a new story from her similar to my lie but with alot more drama. In other words she topped my story. That when I realize that idea not going to work.
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| 6/13/2008 10:04:15 PM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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rocklady
Lenoir, NC
age: 46
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Some people love nothing but drama and they would lie to keep it going
The games some people play
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| 6/14/2008 5:30:07 AM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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oliveoil2
Cuba, MO
age: 48
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oh, do you know my ex?
.... 
omg,
someone else knows my ex,
one lie, into another,
black cloud
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| 6/14/2008 5:36:11 AM |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 47
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....not only a liar but a delusional one. Thought he could rule the world with his warlock ways.........seem when I finally got him out of my house the earth did not open up and suck me down into the depths of hell....
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| 6/14/2008 6:41:36 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
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I worked for a man who was a chronic liar. He was a decorated war hero (no he was a janitor at the South Dakota Guard base) He was a Doctor. (No he never graduatted or attended highschool) He transported the Space Shuttle (no.) He flew on Airforce One with Clinton (no.) Eventually when a background check was run it was discovered he had never attended school beyond the 7th grade, drove semi truck illegally with his father and had no military back ground at all.
The really awful thing is when his stories began to unravel...he ended up being confronted about the inaccuracies by his long time significant other and business partner and people he had lied to repeatedly...
He freaked and basically lost his faculties - took a sail boat (custom ordered and brand new!) hostage - pulling it behind his Suburban up and down gravel roads in Iowa until he rammed all of them into the front window of his lover's house, with a back seat full of grenades and the front sit full of loaded guns...
He ended up with 28 felony charges against him.
The funny thing is he skipped the state and now lives in a Marina on a small island off Fort Myers Beach Florida...
I always wonder what lies he's telling people now.
To answer the OP's question - I think there are only two things you can do; 1.) completely leave their life, they will not change. 2.) accept it and tolerate it.
I believe in radical honesty and total truth at all times - I couldn't put up with anyone lying for any reason.
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| 6/14/2008 6:45:06 AM |
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roadrisingup
Waldo, OH
age: 40
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was in a relationship with one
last person who knew was me....bummer
then it became
so easy to see
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| 6/14/2008 6:49:41 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
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fed is a chronic liar.
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| 6/14/2008 6:49:56 AM |
Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? |
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anitalover
Jackson, MI
age: 46
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Has anyone ever dealt with a chronic liar? I mean the type of person who believes their stories even though they are a flat out lie. They don’t have both oars in the water, but their lies aren’t hurtful, more amusing than anything, but it is a mental problem, and they do have a big heart. You feel sorry for them and feel like they just need a friend.
Beside running away from them as an answer has anyone ever dealt with someone like this? Do you just listen to their stories and let them go in one ear and out the other or is there a way of helping them?
YES! A few actually.
One as you said good heart but....he feels so unloved he uses lies to make him fit in...like a teen who starts to smoke to be cool
He will lie about everything, and they are aggervating as hell, but the amusement is somewhat funny.
I also HAD a brother who did this since he could talk......unbelieveable what he would lie about, there was times I was standing right along with him, and what he was telling others was not even close to reality...needless to say he turned into a smack head, went to prison and now is on the run after getting out on parole. KARMA?
Then comes the ex......he would tell lies about the stupidest things....then forget what he said and repeat the tale....without being prompt to and mix up a few lines and I would say to myself...Here we go again....
If there is anything I do well is call people on their shit.....I know the outcome, which is me being in need of medication cuz I am so crazy and the fighting begins. But the truth is all I can offer others as well as them to me. What happen to the days when a man (or woman) was only as good as their word?
Have I ever lied.....YES!!! But never to a extent some do. Yes the check is in the mail, Yes I think you look good, No your not fat,I am fine thank-you, how are you? My favorite "I love. you...too" How the hell can you love a person when they lie to you? It just saves a arguement and a lot of my breath.
But if your asking what to do.call them on each and every lie you can.....but it will drive you crazy if you allow them to keep telling tales.
IT INSULTS MY INTELLEGENCE...and I would NOT be lying to say I am one who does not have a HIGH IQ. But, common sense is all that is needed.
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| 6/14/2008 8:23:44 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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Yes yes and yes! It was and is my ex husband. He lied to get me to love him, he lied to get me to move to Florida, his lies were endless. He is lying even today as I type this. His whole life has been a lie, he lives for drama at any cost and if you fall for him, all I can say is watch out! After 9/11, he lied about being at the Twin Towers on that fateful day when, in reality, he was watching it on tv with me here in Florida! After a while, I got so upset I started "outing" him on the 9/11 farce. You see, he was a NY fire fighter who was, according to his stories, at the PREVIOUS WTC bombings in 1994 (the garage bombing). Some hero! Ha! His recall of events is erratic, at best, because he drinks so much he doesn't remember things. Then, he will make up what he thinks happened and guess what - it's all twisted and turned to make you be the person at fault. I tried to be his friend after the divorce, but he accused me of selling the greenhouse when I had "given" it to him. Oh yeah, I told him in January to take it, he told me it was cemented in and he couldn't take it and it would be an "asset" to my property. OK everyone, ever heard of a flimsy greenhouse in hurricane ridden Florida????? Yep, he had to rebuild it three times! I put an ad on Craigs List and within 3 days it was gone. He came over the night after it was gone and when he saw nothing where the greenhouse had been, he got so mad he left and I haven't talked to him since. OFW. Even his grown son called me one night and said, "the man you married is not coming through the door tonite - he is a liar." I never got the whole story on that one and the ex was "confused" about what happened. Even now on his Yahoo personal ad he has put that he is happy and not looking for a serious relationship. OK then, delete your ad! That's a form of lying (and cheating) too! Oh and he has on one of the other dating ads that he owns a house. Not true. He is living in his dead uncle's house, but SAYS he hasn't paid the mortgage in a few months because the bank won't sell it to him. Does that sound like a freakin homeowner????? See what I mean? Lies lies lies lies lies.
Susan
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