| 6/22/2008 7:59:23 PM |
Why dont girls find me attractive am i doing something wrong??????? |
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emt1076
Franklin, NJ
age: 25
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I AM 24 NOW AND I HAVE HAD HORID LUCK WITH WOMEN AND IT IS SO CONFUSEING..... AM I DOING SOMETHING WRONG????? WELL IF ANYONE CAN HELP LET ME KNOW.....
  
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| 6/22/2008 8:56:04 PM |
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rpmcowboy
Inola, OK
age: 21
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Have you had this kind of luck with women all your life or just on this site, cause on this site you gotta be able to handle rejection, remember the ladies have just as many men to choose from. And my biggest piece of advice is play it cool, don't rush, be yourself, spend very little money on the first date cause there's a good chance there won't be another one, when that happens, which it will just forget about it, move on and chalk it up to experience, this site is almost like first date training for me cause its like girls are crazy about me before we meet and then we meet and then its just a complete turnaround, i call em and no answer, so i move on, no use in sitting on a memory when you could be pursuing other girls. I haven't had the best of luck with the ladies either but i learn from my mistakes, if you don't learn from your mistakes then you'll keep making the same mistakes, remember try not to have expectations, most people look different in person you gotta know that, think of this site as a place to meet new people and to help hone your courting skills, like training for the real world, cause the lower your expectations the less you can get discouraged. Have fun, may the girls come running, good luck, if you find a cute one with a cute friend make sure to send her friend my way lol
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| 6/23/2008 9:19:37 AM |
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charlene8301
Alvin, TX
age: 26
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both of yall have just met the wrong lady lol! I have just as much trouble finding a decent man on here or any other site. Since most men can't handle a woman with a young kid. Lol, so where are all the sweet men at?
Charlene
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| 6/23/2008 2:30:16 PM |
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ddv1370
Chandler, AZ
age: 30
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This desperation thread isn't going to help you. Woman don't like insecure men. JMO
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| 6/23/2008 2:44:43 PM |
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daniellabella
Hoboken, NJ
age: 24
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Maybe your trying too hard?
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| 6/24/2008 1:32:23 AM |
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millian
Kansas City, MO
age: 19
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This desperation thread isn't going to help you. Woman don't like insecure men. JMO
I go with ddv1370, I don't know you but I'm guessing that U watch those romantic movies whr a girl meets an ordinary down to Earth, softie and TADAAAAAA it's happily ever after.
Well man forget it, play things cool and never be desperate cus that is a great turn off. Anywhere I am I like to keep a cool silent front and get a long eye lock with a girl for sometime before approaching, it helps build your confidence.
Make mistakes and learn from it, never do the same mistake twice. Oh one more thing, never set a plan for all girls cus they are different in thier own special way and it's those ways that U shud try to please, play things by the ear n nt a schedule.
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| 6/24/2008 1:00:10 PM |
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niclove22
Allentown, PA
age: 24
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I can't speak for all women but I know I speak for a few when I say, confidence is sexy. Take your date out to a place your comfortable with, where you can relax and be you. Don't try too hard, like someone else said above, it's hit or miss, some girls you might see again, and some you may not but don't take it to heart. Try not to be too serious it's just a first date, laugh, joke around and have fun. Do something you like to do, if she's willing to break her comfort zone and try it, chances are she's interested, and if not, she's not worth your time. Don't spend too much but don't be a cheap a** either. Sometimes money can be a turn off, so don't flash it around. Talk about you, whether you believe it or not some girls take comfort in your openess and will open up too. Well thats all I have for now but i'll add more if i think of it.
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| 6/24/2008 1:49:02 PM |
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aingeal
Brunswick, GA
age: 29
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Try spell check and dont type in all caps. seriously, if you look like an idiot on-line who is going to want to meet you? and f.y.i if you type in all caps and do spell check it misses the misspelled words. good luck.
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| 6/24/2008 1:58:56 PM |
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kdggunit
Pompano Beach, FL
age: 21
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I can't speak for all women but I know I speak for a few when I say, confidence is sexy. Take your date out to a place your comfortable with, where you can relax and be you. Don't try too hard, like someone else said above, it's hit or miss, some girls you might see again, and some you may not but don't take it to heart. Try not to be too serious it's just a first date, laugh, joke around and have fun. Do something you like to do, if she's willing to break her comfort zone and try it, chances are she's interested, and if not, she's not worth your time. Don't spend too much but don't be a cheap a** either. Sometimes money can be a turn off, so don't flash it around. Talk about you, whether you believe it or not some girls take comfort in your openess and will open up too. Well thats all I have for now but i'll add more if i think of it.
I agree. Just be yourself. Get out of your comfort zone. if you know that she love to go bowling but you hate it.. then swallow your pride and take her to bowling. You two will have a good time. She'll see that you are doing something that she likes. She'll want to open up more and like you more. Happy Hunting
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| 6/24/2008 3:14:38 PM |
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ahunkguy
Queensland
Australia
age: 30
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look more exactly around maybe u cant see them
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| 6/24/2008 5:22:05 PM |
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niclove22
Allentown, PA
age: 24
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I can't speak for all women but I know I speak for a few when I say, confidence is sexy. Take your date out to a place your comfortable with, where you can relax and be you. Don't try too hard, like someone else said above, it's hit or miss, some girls you might see again, and some you may not but don't take it to heart. Try not to be too serious it's just a first date, laugh, joke around and have fun. Do something you like to do, if she's willing to break her comfort zone and try it, chances are she's interested, and if not, she's not worth your time. Don't spend too much but don't be a cheap a** either. Sometimes money can be a turn off, so don't flash it around. Talk about you, whether you believe it or not some girls take comfort in your openess and will open up too. Well thats all I have for now but i'll add more if i think of it.
I agree. Just be yourself. Get out of your comfort zone. if you know that she love to go bowling but you hate it.. then swallow your pride and take her to bowling. You two will have a good time. She'll see that you are doing something that she likes. She'll want to open up more and like you more. Happy Hunting
First things first I stressed taking her somewhere that your comfortable. It's important for you to come off the way you want to. If you dont wanna look like a jackass bowling then don't. Like i said take her somewhere you're comfortable going to that way you're at your best because ...duh....your comfortable. Save the second date to go do something she really likes, use the first date to get to know her and find out what she really likes. That way second time around you already know your taking her to go do something she really enjoys.
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| 6/24/2008 9:29:37 PM |
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pankywitz
Posen, IL
age: 20
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You guys should lay off on the desperation thing. How many of us can honestly say that we've never felt a little desperate. That's completely natural just because of the nature of relationships. Everyone is unique and we are trying to find someone whos personatliy works out with our own. This is a very difficult thing to do especially since you really need to get to know a person pretty well to get an accurate view of their personality. I mean who really gets to know everyone they meet? I am an outgoing person but I have always been slow to warm up which makes it hard for me to get close to new people. I can definately say that I've felt desperate at times. The most I felt it was when I wrote this poem....
Unknown Destination (Poem I wrote)
by pankywitz at 6/11/2008 6:54:06 PM
falling behind
picking up pace
the more i struggle
the more the space
guarding the destination unknown
the dream fading fast
hope fights for survival
the end will i see
you must be at the end
must be dreaming of me
hope morphing skeptical
down to last breath
fight for our dream
charge down the path
concede our hope
before the last
advance over barrier
beaver, hoover, and your own fence
enhance vision always
through the bush and the blinds
clear mud from your face
see through mud of mine
unknown destination
see we reach it
through muddy window of time
Check out my blog to read my other poems. While your at it feel free to tell me what you think of em.
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| 6/24/2008 9:36:33 PM |
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pankywitz
Posen, IL
age: 20
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More on topic...
Everyone loses hope sometimes. The nature of relationships makes it easy to lose hope. Just keep dreaming. Keep looking and be sure to let yourself meet new people and get to know people you find interesting for any reason. I've been told a million times that love happens when you least expect it. Just hold in there. Here is another poem that is more about dreaming about the perfect girl....
The Girl of my Dreams (Poem I wrote)
by pankywitz at 6/11/2008 6:51:13 PM
I lay I and I think of the wonders ofyou
Everything I love
Everything you are
From your soft gorgeous hair,
to your long lusty legs
From your perfectly formed breasts,
to your large loving heart.
From your ability to comfort me,
to your brilliance in bed.
From the love I spark in you
to the moans I provoke.
I want you in my arms
I want you in my bed
I want you in my heart
I want you in my head
I want to be in your arms
I want to be in your bed
I want to be in your heart
I want to be in your head
I want our hands affixed
I want our heart alligned
I want our lips to touch,
for varying periods of time
I know my ways don't bother you
your feelings just magnified
I know that you must love me too
I can see it in your eyes
Everything between us
is perfectly flawed
We are so close together
we let us have our time apart
I wonder where our love will take us
I wonder how hard the mountains will be to climb
Most of all I wonder, when will I make you mine
Who is the you I am looking for
Where is it you I will find
Are you in my life yet
I will wait forever to make you mine
It helps me keep the hope alive to look back at this poem. I hope it can help you. She is out there, but Tom Petty captured life very accurately with, "the waiting is the hardest part"
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| 6/24/2008 10:10:02 PM |
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chycie
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 28
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because you are trying too hard. you are looking and she is looking for u but if u dont stop looking once in a while u might just be missing her right in front of you.
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| 6/24/2008 11:55:11 PM |
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emt1076
Franklin, NJ
age: 25
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thank you to all that have helped. The advice was great and i wish all of you the best of luck......
thank you again
~Rob~
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