| 9/4/2008 8:50:59 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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ezjd
Bedford, NH
age: 20
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im only 20 and its so hard to do it and my son is 18 months and i feel like i am worng bc i am 20 and i have a son my friends mom wont let me see here bc i have a son it sucks sometimes
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| 9/4/2008 9:58:59 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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jball303030
Cottage Grove, WI
age: 35
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Dont feel like your alone im a single father of 2 daughters and ive got the same feelings about women.Life with kids isnt easy on your own but just dont look for a father and then and only then will that special man show up.
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| 9/5/2008 10:42:20 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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cassidy1
Port Angeles, WA
age: 27
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it is hard i have three kids you just got to be patient u will find the right one but if u look to hard you are going to find the wrong one u got your kids to think about right now if he comes along he does but focuse on them and he woll come when u least expect it. i know i have
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| 9/5/2008 11:20:05 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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mindenchick
Minden, LA
age: 18
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Im only 18 with a 3 yr old boy and had to quit High School to take care of him ....there is no father figure in his life ... I am thankful for my parents they help me through it all .. its was tough not being able to go hang with my friends at first .... but its better now ... and I still think I will never find Mr. Right every guy I have meet hasnt liked the fact that I have a son ...
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| 9/6/2008 2:15:18 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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singlefather216
Jordan, MN
age: 22
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Ive been raising my daughter for the past 2 years and i know where you are coming from. It is hard to find a decent person to except who you are and that you have kids. Her mother is not in her life maybe 5 percent of it, comes once a month to see her and when she does call me its always for something else and not to see her daughter.  .
but i am a ambitious person, im working on my goals, being a full time father and going to school full time. And i still believe there is a girl out there for me!
[Edited 9/6/2008 2:17:18 PM]
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| 9/6/2008 5:06:09 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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gummy1979
Union City, IN
age: 25
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its very hard being a single mother....im a single mother of 3 i have a 4 yr old, 2 yr old, and a 7 month old baby...
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| 9/7/2008 11:46:55 AM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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purplemermaid
Silver Spring, MD
age: 45
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I am a single mother now, my husband of about 22 years passed away last year. I thought i would never be a single mother, yet I am. My dad and mom got divorced when I was 10, so I know how hard it was for her. It is very hard being a widowed mother when your heart is broken.
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| 9/8/2008 10:36:35 AM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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breeze341
Denver, CO
age: 41
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purplemermaid - I am sorry for your loss.
kayla - Being a single parent is hard and at times very lonely. Just trust that you are making the right decisions and those who don't understand that your children come first...send them on their happy little way. They are not the right person for you anyways. You will meet someone who will understand that your kids come first and will not try to make you choose. Until then hang in there. 
[Edited 9/8/2008 10:38:43 AM]
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| 9/8/2008 11:02:58 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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flyingdutchman
San Diego, CA
age: 43
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Yes, being a single parent is challenging as this is not what was intended. Although situations vary it is agreed that aside from the narcissism the children are the ones who suffer the most. We as parents are conditioned to perseverance whereas children are assumed to be resilient. But to what extreme can a child maintain this resilience before grief needs attending to. Most of us never consider the silent suffering of a child; even so ~ if we recognize it what is done to remedy the situation. Most studies indicate that if it is not handled early-on, eventually it will manifest into more severe emotion damage.
Hindsight is 20/20; for those of us who are single parent as a result of a divorce wish we had that “crystal Ball” prior to those magic words “I DO”, contraire~ others who may have lost their spouse(s) to death. Either scenario however most single parents will over compensate because of the guilt they feel for their children; although this may seem to be a viable solution to most, educational statistics dictate this is harmful to the Childs welfare as they become dependant and cannot develop their own self support system hence enabling is a crippling effect for life.
As parents, regardless of marital status it is our duty to prepare our children for adulthood. Being your child’s best friend will not work, as they need boundaries. We as parents can set these ‘boundaries’ utilizing our skills, providing we seek these ‘skills’ from accredited non bias support groups. By far ~ love, patience, understanding, and communication are the best tools for parenting, furthermore however if 9:00 o’clock is bed time then ‘so be it’ do not negotiate, in the long run you will have there respect. On the other hand if giving your child a piece of candy solves the problem remember one thing, in the end you will be the ‘sucker’.
Although for the most of us we wish our ‘bitter’ half’s would play an amicable role in our children’s lives sometimes this is just not a reality, therefore we must pick up the slack, and never (although we may want to) sound off any derogatoriness about the children’s Mom or Dad for this approach will ultimately cause resentment from the child.
Dutch-
Single Father of Three
Advocate for Children and Parents
www.parentprisonerchildhostage.com
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| 9/10/2008 7:52:44 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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starrheaven
Berlin, CT
age: 24
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I'm a single mom of a 2yr old boy, not by choice. His father passed away 11 months ago. For me its only hard because we both miss him very much. If he was still around I wouldn't even be on this site. But things happen for a reason and we need to learn to accept it. right now I do work two jobs just to make ends meet, but I still find time with my son and maintaining a social life. In the past 11 months, I've gone on plenty of dates. They just end up not being right for me. Most of them do accept the fact that I do have a child but there's just no connection. And I'm fine with that. I think the only reason why most of you find it hard being a single parent is because you look too much into it. Don't look and love will find you. The more you try the further loves gets away. Just do you because this is the time to when you are single.
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| 9/12/2008 11:59:30 AM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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thespear
Portsmouth, OH
age: 33
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i doesnt have to be, yes it is but so is being a single dad you will find mr. right sometimes the answers in front of you
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| 9/15/2008 12:10:20 AM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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bigbopper1963
Long Beach, NY
age: 44
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hi i'm sorry that it's so hard for you . don't just take anyone because you'r baby's are more importent then that . i would like to be you'r friend . and help you if i can . i would love to know you better . you just have to let me in you'r world . get back with me 
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| 9/18/2008 7:25:14 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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crystal217
Fort White, FL
age: 20
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i have two daughters its hard to find a bf out there who will appreciate the fact that i am raising my gurls on my own and that they will always come first... my girls dont even have a father figure in there life so its hard.. my 2 yr old is at that stage where she comprehens everything and she pretty much knows whats going on...its hard to find a decent guy that is while to be with u knowing that u have kids... its hard not to many guys out there that are willing to except my daughters come first.
I'm going though the same thing but i only have one little girl.
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| 9/18/2008 7:44:00 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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barbarajt
Rochester, NY
age: 38
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then the hell with them.. my kids have always come first and to be honest i never liked any man trying to step in and tell me what to do with them, they are teens now and im still single... lol go figure, but i dont care anymore im ok with it.. so do you hun... dam all these guys out here that are like that.. there are some out there that are ok with it.. find one who is raising his, he knows what its like
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| 9/19/2008 1:58:37 PM |
Being a single mom is hard! |
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prettylady35
Holbrook, AZ
age: 35
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Kayla being a single parent is difficult, but theres always special moments.Moments that u never want to end.Being there to hold their hand.Before you know it they've grown up & moved away.So enjoy them while you can,God be w you. 
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