| 7/4/2008 10:35:22 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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utahguy26
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 26
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and here i thought getting my divorced finalized would be a god sent but ya all meh friends are married and noone wants to be a 3rd wheel 
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| 7/4/2008 11:01:01 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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nodramaneeded
Tulsa, OK
age: 29
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I hear ya there. Things will work out. Is there a congrats in order for the divorce????
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| 7/4/2008 11:02:46 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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Its a mixed bag yep for women its other women dont like having the single ones hanging around ..two is company threes a crowd...Oh well you might make new single friends...Happy divorce     
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| 7/4/2008 11:06:31 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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utahguy26
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 26
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ya there is a congrats, i think anyways lol bad issues and good to be rid of them. BUT she will always be in my life because ofcourse i do have a son with her as you can see in the pic "rock and a hard spot" 
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| 7/4/2008 11:17:42 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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nodramaneeded
Tulsa, OK
age: 29
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All i do know is that will take time. I am great friends now with the ex, my boys dad. I think better than when we were married. (but it took a few years). Congrats and keep your head up.
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| 7/4/2008 11:20:04 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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utahguy26
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 26
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thanks much. and will do.
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| 7/5/2008 5:44:28 AM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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and here i thought getting my divorced finalized would be a god sent but ya all meh friends are married and noone wants to be a 3rd wheel
It's quite ordinary when you divorce your married friends divorce you as well. Once single again you tend to not have the things in common you once had with your friends. They usually feel conflicted on who to remain friends with, your eX or you.
It's best to start making new friends with similar likes and situations. You are now single, divorced, probably a parent, so you are eligible now for many other social circles. You can never have too many friends.
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| 7/5/2008 9:47:09 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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crow8
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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Just don't jump into a relationship too fast, take time for yourself, and make friends, but don't try and find someone for you yet,
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| 7/5/2008 9:50:00 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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I agree with the above advice... make your own life now... on your own... new friends, new groups, develop your hobbies... basically, make a new life.
and don't jump into any relationship thinking it will "fix" things... cause it won't. Take your time developing yourself.
Good luck!
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| 7/5/2008 9:51:47 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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crow8
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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I have seen a lot of folks on here and off here do just that after a divorce, and all it did was hurt the innocent party, and that ain't cool,
I wish folks would really back off these dating sites trying too find their soulmate while freshly divorced,
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| 7/5/2008 9:55:50 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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I have seen a lot of folks on here and off here do just that after a divorce, and all it did was hurt the innocent party, and that ain't cool,
I wish folks would really back off these dating sites trying too find their soulmate while freshly divorced,
Being divorced myself, I think the tendency for many of us is to panic and think OMG What Now???? And think that if you find that right one- cause the one you just got divorced from obviously wasn't it- but if you find that "right" one all will be right with the world.
It's also a need for validation... someone else finds me desireable, I feel wanted, I matter someplace.... when the fact is that all of these things are true... and probably will happen... but you have to know that you already have what it takes. No one else out there will give it to you. It's hard. And we also tend to want things done yesterday.... patience with this stuff is really really hard...
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| 7/5/2008 9:58:02 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43
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No worries. It will all come together. Lesson 1 focus on you what makes you solid inside. Learn to be in love with life and being happy on your own. Respect and be good to the ex...good karma. The rest will then come easy.
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| 7/5/2008 10:00:55 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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crow8
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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From what i have seen and been through myself, is when you first get divorced, it's the whole being scared of being aone thing....
If you let that control you, then your life will go down the drain and since you won't be happy how do you expect the other person too be happy?
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| 7/5/2008 10:05:47 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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it won't happen, crow. I agree
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| 7/5/2008 10:07:38 PM |
yay for being divorced. i think |
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crow8
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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but yet folks don't listen and when it all goes too hell, they can't understand why no one told em, or how it happened in the first place
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