I did an experiment once, on my space. I had my regular profile, and a bunch of pictures of myself on it. I consider myself an above average looking guy, nothing super special, nothing terrible. About a 7 on the 1 to 10 scale. My profile wasn't getting much attention. I believed that if I looked better, I would get much more friend requests and emails and comments.

SO, I searched the internet for pictures of attractive guys, and finally settled on one whom I considered very good looking, a 9 or 10 on the 1 to 10 scale. Copy/pasted a bunch of his pictures, made a fake profile. Wouldn't you know it, within a few days, I had 50 friends. After a week, over 100. And it just kept going and going. A lot of the really cute/hot girls too. They were all commenting, emailing, chatting with me, calling me on the phone, trying to set up get togethers. I finally let them all know about the experiment, and linked to my own profile. Surprisingly, some of them, despite the deception, still wanted to be my friend and talk to me. After passing the uber-attraction test, they got a taste of my personality and intellect, and liked it. If not for the pictures of hot guy, they never would have known though, and that is disheartening to me.

So it seems, to me, that a lot of girls (especially younger ones) are holding out for the really hot guy, and will go to great lengths once they find him. And that despite people constantly saying looks are everything, apparently, to start things off, they are everything. And if a guy can't start things off, what does it matter what his intellect or personality are like? He might as well have none, for what it's worth.

I know this is probably sounding a lot like those BBW threads we've all seen too much of. I think the difference here is, that guys who are decent looking, but not HOT, get passed up. There aren't enough 8s, 9s, 10s for every girl to have one. And I'd venture a guess that a lot of those elite guys are players & cheaters, because they have an eye popping amount of opportunities constantly, and only their willpower and morality to stop them from indulging. How good are you going to look compared to all the other girls these guys have dated, and all the girls they can date at any time they choose? They've also been having way more sex than other guys. They monopolize women.

Ladies, take a second look, at that group of guys in between hotties and uglies. You might really like what you find.

LMAO yep he was naughty but for a cause

Good point you made and yes I do agree most will respond to a hot sexy photo of a guy or girl. But your not so bad looking, hang in there and maybe your test will work out for with the ones that are still talking with ya

MJ....how right you are!!!
Good for you doing a test on that..lt is a fact that good looking people have the easier lives.lts survival of the fitest!!Law of nature etc.

l used to tell my daughters the world is their oyster!..(very attractive girls)
YET...theyve had the good looking guys,who used and abused...now theyre looking for someone stable and REAL...yet fun,intelligent,quirky.(Oldest daughter 23)

Then theres ME...l was always quiet a good looker.
Now lm 50...and it freaks me OUT that l am carrying more weight,and even though still pretty good for 50.My aim was to find a great man with the HEART and SOUL worth keeping!
Not by looks....but personality!!!.

So ld say that as youre wisdom catches up with maturity,Your needs in a partner change...you look beyond the skin.
l would avoid the pretty boys.They wouldnt be easy to hold onto unless HIS personality
was an added bonus to his looks.
Genetically the scientists have proven,that subconsciously we look for certain things in a persons face/body/eyes/mouth...because we are looking to BREED!!...strength,stature,skin color,muscle tone,his scent!!!!!Breath....Trust me,its real.

Looks are first!...stay at a party with "Mr Gorgous" who acts like an idiot, with the brain of a GNAT!...and you will be walking/driving home one of the girls

I think its interesting that out of Katie's whole post you only pick out the whole JN scenario as to how good looking he was in One Flew...I for one have never thought him goodlooking and far from sexy. What I did think of him was high maintanence, he has gone through more women than Hufner and has always strike me as the dirty old man Hufner still is. Although I'll wager he's mellowed out in his old age, but his choice in beautiful women has not.

But what is really interesting is that like a typical man, you expect, no feel entitled to be accept for 7 that you are, but hey, the BBW with the dbl chin can kiss your flat arse...you may be a 7 but you're definitely define yourself as worth much more than a BBW. welcome to the BBW world where despite fantastic personalities, looks still are the first thing that is noticed.

When I was in college there was a guy in a wheelchair, averge in looks, certainly a 5/6 by most commercial standards. Two of the girls from one of my classes were chosen to go and take him class schedules, homework, help him around the apartment, bring cook meals etc. One was a beautiful blonde, popular etc and other dark hair, not as beautiful but she was cute, beautiful personality. The blonde who wasn't comfortable with guys in wheelchairs (or should I say less than perfect)treated him like crap, didn't want to be there and many a time would just drop food off, never heating it for him or putting in the fridge until the other girl would show up. The dark hair girl thought he was cute, intellegient, loving, kind and after a time, fell in love with him, but he would never give her the time of day, always waiting for the blonde to show up.

Since then I have observed guys especially at clubs/school (when i used to go clubbing and I'm back at school) and watch them do the same thing you did, the hot girls were brought drinks and the ones they teemed 5/6/7 were spoken to briefly, unless the girl indicated "I'll sleep with you", then the atittude would change. Although we would like to say these were young guys, I believe most older guys are just as one dimensional because from reading on here, alot of that hasn't change,its just become more sophisticated.

Paris

mj, you are absolutely correct. Fortunately many times with age comes wisdom. But I guarantee, the women who were still your friends after the revelation were the ones worth keeping. Hot guys are eye candy more often than not nothing more and most real women know that.