| 8/9/2008 8:13:20 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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There are many people who hold the view that, if they are online chatting with the opposite sex and they are married, then they are just having fun. Do you agree? Wouls you let your spouse or significant other have this type of relationship or would you ask them to stop because it is hurting you? And, if you asked them to stop and they didn't, what would you do????
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| 8/9/2008 8:16:33 AM |
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hot_water
Warren, MI
age: 28
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What are you chatting about?
Is it something your spouse would be upset by?
Would you actually "do" the things you're saying online, (if given the opportunity) or is it just "talk"?
These are all questions that we need to take into account.
If I were married, and my wife refused to stop if I asked, I'd definitely question why...
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| 8/9/2008 8:18:08 AM |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 36
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If I was in a realationship I would be cheating him out of time and energy that
should be used making our lives together better, and enjoying doing things with him.
That would be horrible of me spending my time wasting it on line when I could have him
out white water rafting, dancing, or a ball game laughing it up with me.
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| 8/9/2008 8:18:55 AM |
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wildchild1987
Suffern, NY
age: 21
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Call me old fashioned but yes I would see it as cheating..if I was married me and my family should be number one..not another woman on here.in an way.If he didn't stop or if I could see it was becoming addictive to him..then we would have a problem...
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| 8/9/2008 8:18:57 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 29
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I think some people are telling the truth they would only be chatting on the forums as friends on here, but some would be lying also.. Me personally I wouldn't be online talking to anyone, just to avoid the possible drama.
[Edited 8/9/2008 8:20:48 AM]
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| 8/9/2008 8:21:07 AM |
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hot_water
Warren, MI
age: 28
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If I was in a realationship I would be cheating him out of time and energy that
should be used making our lives together better, and enjoying doing things with him.
That would be horrible of me spending my time wasting it on line when I could have him
out white water rafting, dancing, or a ball game laughing it up with me.
This, I definitely agree with.
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| 8/9/2008 9:41:26 AM |
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yorker49
York, PA
age: 50
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That's a tough one. For me personally it's a form of cheating unless it's totally out in the open and all correspondence is shared with your significant other. Just seems to me the mental and emotional energy would be best spent on the person you are comitted to. Once I find "her" and we acknowledge we're a team, couple, etc. I only want that type of energy focused on her and our relationship.
(fixed a dreaded typo) 
[Edited 8/9/2008 9:50:20 AM]
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| 8/9/2008 9:43:04 AM |
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chellenc2008
Clayton, NC
age: 40
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it depends on what is being talked about and also how much time spent talking.
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| 8/9/2008 9:48:47 AM |
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pirate72
Paris, IL
age: 35
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A lot of fine points here. Let me throw one in. I notice a lot of people saying the time and energy would be better spent on your SO. Not necessarily, and here's why: familiarity breeds contempt. What I mean by that is if you are with your SO 24/7, day in and day out, you wind up smothering each other. You get sick of each other. Spending some time away from your SO (and I mean other than work) is actually a very healthy thing. It keeps the two of you from driving each other nuts!
As far as the OP, do you feel it's cheating when your SO flirts with other people IRL? I know I don't. Actually, I don't even consider having sex with someone other than your SO as cheating. I know a lot of good people who have open relationships. LYING about it is where you get into cheating with me. If you're lying, then you're hiding something that you don't want me to find out about. With me, it's best just to tell me to my face. If I find out about it elsewhere, there's going to be problems.
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| 8/9/2008 9:49:33 AM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 49
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There are many people who hold the view that, if they are online chatting with the opposite sex and they are married, then they are just having fun. Do you agree? Wouls you let your spouse or significant other have this type of relationship or would you ask them to stop because it is hurting you? And, if you asked them to stop and they didn't, what would you do????
I believe in trust. And am not jealous  If they are just talking there is no harm to that it's you they are with. However as stated time needs to be spent with your significant other. If that is not happening where they are spending to much time here (ie many hours) when your not around I would have a talk with her/him just to express your feelings. JMO
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| 8/9/2008 9:53:24 AM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 49
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A lot of fine points here. Let me throw one in. I notice a lot of people saying the time and energy would be better spent on your SO. Not necessarily, and here's why: familiarity breeds contempt. What I mean by that is if you are with your SO 24/7, day in and day out, you wind up smothering each other. You get sick of each other. Spending some time away from your SO (and I mean other than work) is actually a very healthy thing. It keeps the two of you from driving each other nuts!
As far as the OP, do you feel it's cheating when your SO flirts with other people IRL? I know I don't. Actually, I don't even consider having sex with someone other than your SO as cheating. I know a lot of good people who have open relationships. LYING about it is where you get into cheating with me. If you're lying, then you're hiding something that you don't want me to find out about. With me, it's best just to tell me to my face. If I find out about it elsewhere, there's going to be problems.
I will disagree with Pirate about cheating. If you have sex with someone outside of your relationship in my opinion its cheating no matter how you look at it. But then that is his opinion and I respect that for being him.
I do agree that LYING in anyway is worse than cheating because you have something to hide otherwise why lie? again JMO
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| 8/9/2008 9:54:37 AM |
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imcheckinuout
Seattle, WA
age: 47
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If they were just chatting, same as I do. Not any flirting stuff, just regular talk, no problem. Going into the sex forums or getting all flirty and smutty, whole different thing. But no, don't think I would ask them to stop. Just realize that was who and what they were, and know we would probably not be compatible. If already in a relationship, it would probably just end. Why try to force someone to change?
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| 8/9/2008 10:11:04 AM |
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cece123
Warren, MI
age: 48 online now!
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Is there sex forums? Where...., just kidding.
Now chatting on line teasing and flirting is alright, I even flirt with some of the girls just joking around.... But, one of the straws that lead to my last divorce was... My husband bought a web cam and was chatting with this women in Washington. I was cleaning house one day and I went up to the computer room to put something away.... and the door was opened somewhat.... I stood their quietly and watched this woman disrobe her self in frames for my husband.
I was shocked! I yelled, "who the hell is that!" He shut it down... I told him I saw everything... that if he wanted that you better pack your shit and go.... If you don't I want you to get rid of the web cam and I never wanted to she that women again..
All of it was gone the next day.
That hurt... never betrayed that man... started thinking he was betraying me..... divorced 3 years later.
I live with a guy.... and he tells me go chat on line.... we kind of give each other space.. He has lived alone for the last thirty years, I guess he likes his privacy.... I live upstairs basically and he lives downstairs.
He even met my paper man, that I went to the bar with and had breakfast with once...and said..., "why did you down play him..., he looks like a alright guy..." Well that was because I thought "we" were a couple.... He has no hang ups with me flirting with other men, at least none that I know of... I guess he's pretty sure of himself.... or complete within himself something.....
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| 8/9/2008 10:20:46 AM |
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beccasmooch3
Chino Hills, CA
age: 20
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yes. .. if you have to ask, then you feel guilty ((somewhat)),. . .and that means ur doing something wrong. . .hense cheating
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| 8/9/2008 10:34:46 AM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 40
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I think chatting can lead to cheating, but chatting as cheating would kind of depend on the content of the chatting.
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