| 8/16/2014 8:53:19 PM |
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stamina1975
Madison Heights, VA
39, joined Apr. 2012
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Calling on the vast wealth of experience here in the DH relationship forum.
What are the Do's and Don'ts of being in a FWB relationship/situation?
Feel free to add anything else relevant you may want to add about Friends with Benefits, failures, successes, drama, etc.
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| 8/16/2014 8:56:03 PM |
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bigdinv
Houston, TX
35, joined Sep. 2011
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DO__ Bone as much as possible.
DON'T__ Ever develop feelings.
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| 8/16/2014 8:58:39 PM |
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norwegianwood64
Fort Payne, AL
51, joined Jul. 2014
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DO her up the butt
DONT ever cuddle
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| 8/16/2014 9:00:24 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
38, joined Feb. 2012
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Feelings are ok. You can't keep having sex with the same person and not have it be with no feeling. I care for my fwb. He cares for me. Always will. They are a friend after all.
But yes, anything beyond that, is bound to end badly. Or sadly.
The do's are, honesty. And like big said, as much sex as possible.
[Edited 8/16/2014 9:00:52 PM ]
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| 8/16/2014 9:07:06 PM |
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progrocknic
Mount Arlington, NJ
31, joined Dec. 2012
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This is why I'll never understand conventional relationships. Isn't a FWB the same thing as a girlfriend or boyfriend?
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| 8/16/2014 9:10:10 PM |
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flirty_n_fun67
Belleville, ON
48, joined Sep. 2010
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Do: Shit or get off the pot...
Don't: Do a friends with benefits...
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| 8/16/2014 9:23:02 PM |
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bigdinv
Houston, TX
35, joined Sep. 2011
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If you shit then you have to wipe. Sometimes it gets on your hands and you don't always get it all. That means you have to jump in the shower and scrub your butt.
Don't get me started on the diarrhea viewpoint on relationships.
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| 8/16/2014 9:39:59 PM |
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flirty_n_fun67
Belleville, ON
48, joined Sep. 2010
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 Thanks...that was just a little too much info...i dont need to hear the rest...
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| 8/16/2014 10:04:32 PM |
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twining
Anderson, SC
23, joined Jun. 2014
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DO'S........
Wear a condom
F**k me
Let me f**k you
Spank me till my bottom, tits, amd ribs are red
Squeeze my tits(they're not water balloons so don't hold back)
DON'TS.......
Don't kiss me on the face
Don't say you love me
Don't call me for small talk
Don't ask me if we're gonna be anything more
In fact, don't open your mouth at all unless it's to moan in pleasure or a yeah be there in 5 minutes
[Edited 8/16/2014 10:05:17 PM ]
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| 8/16/2014 10:06:17 PM |
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reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
58, joined Dec. 2007
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| 8/16/2014 10:25:08 PM |
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wedontgiveaf
Vancouver, WA
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| 8/16/2014 10:58:42 PM |
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desi3ner
Omaha, NE
52, joined Jul. 2014
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DO'S........
Wear a condom
F**k me
Let me f**k you
Spank me till my bottom, tits, amd ribs are red
Squeeze my tits(they're not water balloons so don't hold back)
DON'TS.......
Don't kiss me on the face
Don't say you love me
Don't call me for small talk
Don't ask me if we're gonna be anything more
In fact, don't open your mouth at all unless it's to moan in pleasure or a yeah be there in 5 minutes
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| 8/16/2014 11:01:23 PM |
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rounder52241
Phoenix, AZ
40, joined Jul. 2014
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Don't be dumb enough to think that slapping a label on something involving sex protects you in any way from the natural biological biochemical physiological sociological and mental processes that naturally occur when people have sex.
The relationship label is not a legal document, nor is it any kind of birth control for your emotional bonding with someone.
So the best thing to "do" is "don't" be in a FWB relationship.
Simply realize at best you are just rationalizing using someone for physical and emotional gratification on an ongoing basis while holding a false sense of security that you are immune to the consequences of having sex that are going to happen and you have absolutely no control over.
At worst you are behaving like an uncivilized animal while trying to pretend you are following rational, civilized, altruistic rules for a selfish relationship.
You want to be someone's friend? Don't f**k them.
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| 8/16/2014 11:10:06 PM |
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flirty_n_fun67
Belleville, ON
48, joined Sep. 2010
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Well said rounder...
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| 8/16/2014 11:17:51 PM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
45, joined Sep. 2011
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Do: show up in the wee hours of the morning to have sex.
Don't: don't talk about personal stuff like family and friends.
Do: leave right after and go sleep in your own bed.
Don't: don't sleep over or leave personal items at their house.
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| 8/16/2014 11:29:08 PM |
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boojeewoojee
Flower Mound, TX
44, joined Mar. 2014
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Dont let them borrow your car....or money!
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| 8/16/2014 11:31:28 PM |
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stephisicated
Teaneck, NJ
32, joined Jan. 2013
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Do: whatever I say
Dont: whatever she says if I don't feel like it. 
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| 8/17/2014 8:52:32 AM |
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xray6
Jacksonville, FL
27, joined Mar. 2012
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This is why I'll never understand conventional relationships. Isn't a FWB the same thing as a girlfriend or boyfriend?
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| 8/17/2014 8:53:22 AM |
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xray6
Jacksonville, FL
27, joined Mar. 2012
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Feelings are ok. You can't keep having sex with the same person and not have it be with no feeling. I care for my fwb. He cares for me. Always will. They are a friend after all.
But yes, anything beyond that, is bound to end badly. Or sadly.
The do's are, honesty. And like big said, as much sex as possible.
I said this like 7000 times
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| 8/17/2014 8:58:49 AM |
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soulfullaussie
Victoria
Australia
49, joined May. 2014
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Dont expect him to be there on special occasions ..
Do expect him to phone a 3am because he is horny
Dont expect him to stay all night
Do expect some wild hot sex and lots of it
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| 8/17/2014 8:59:38 AM |
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jnrae
Hudsonville, MI
36, joined Jun. 2014
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Agreed with Rounder.
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| 8/17/2014 11:42:58 AM |
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stamina1975
Madison Heights, VA
39, joined Apr. 2012
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You want to be someone's friend? Don't f**k them.
Pity the World doesn't quite share that ideal.
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| 8/17/2014 3:50:54 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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Don't do neither
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| 8/17/2014 4:25:56 PM |
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sweetmama117
Bronx, NY
55, joined Aug. 2013
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I also agree with Rounder. I need some kind of commitment
in order to have intimacy with a man. Friends are friends
and I don't f**k my friends. I've been asked to have a
FWB relationship and refused it cause I have other needs to
be full feel not just sex. For that just call it what it is
a booty call, a lay. Why sugar code it.
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| 8/17/2014 5:17:06 PM |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
57, joined Feb. 2014
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feelings ruin the fwb. sex may be awesome but when you start have feelings or he does, things change and not always for the good.
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| 8/17/2014 5:38:15 PM |
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phikebishop
Los Alamos, CA
45, joined Apr. 2014
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DO'S........
Wear a condom
F**k me
Let me f**k you
Spank me till my bottom, tits, amd ribs are red
Squeeze my tits(they're not water balloons so don't hold back)
DON'TS.......
Don't kiss me on the face
Don't say you love me
Don't call me for small talk
Don't ask me if we're gonna be anything more
In fact, don't open your mouth at all unless it's to moan in pleasure or a yeah be there in 5 minutes
Now I would say this woman knows what she is talkin' about....
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| 8/17/2014 9:51:11 PM |
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shout15
Bel Air, MD
46, joined May. 2014
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It's just a big DON'T
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| 8/17/2014 10:14:58 PM |
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naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
40, joined Jul. 2011
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Do be yourself..
Dont expect anything in return..
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| 8/17/2014 11:17:37 PM |
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ltlwing
Winchester, OH
52, joined Oct. 2013
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Don't be dumb enough to think that slapping a label on something involving sex protects you in any way from the natural biological biochemical physiological sociological and mental processes that naturally occur when people have sex.
The relationship label is not a legal document, nor is it any kind of birth control for your emotional bonding with someone.
So the best thing to "do" is "don't" be in a FWB relationship.
Simply realize at best you are just rationalizing using someone for physical and emotional gratification on an ongoing basis while holding a false sense of security that you are immune to the consequences of having sex that are going to happen and you have absolutely no control over.
At worst you are behaving like an uncivilized animal while trying to pretend you are following rational, civilized, altruistic rules for a selfish relationship.
You want to be someone's friend? Don't f**k them.
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| 8/17/2014 11:49:36 PM |
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get2knowuwell3
Fort Worth, TX
46, joined Jun. 2013
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Dont expect him to be there on special occasions ..
Do expect him to phone a 3am because he is horny
Dont expect him to stay all night
Do expect some wild hot sex and lots of it
i only called at 2am 
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| 8/18/2014 2:46:01 PM |
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mr_wgk
Denver, CO
52, joined Mar. 2014
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Don't be dumb enough to think that slapping a label on something involving sex protects you in any way from the natural biological biochemical physiological sociological and mental processes that naturally occur when people have sex.
The relationship label is not a legal document, nor is it any kind of birth control for your emotional bonding with someone.
So the best thing to "do" is "don't" be in a FWB relationship.
Simply realize at best you are just rationalizing using someone for physical and emotional gratification on an ongoing basis while holding a false sense of security that you are immune to the consequences of having sex that are going to happen and you have absolutely no control over.
At worst you are behaving like an uncivilized animal while trying to pretend you are following rational, civilized, altruistic rules for a selfish relationship.
You want to be someone's friend? Don't f**k them.
That's a bunch of psycho-babble bullshyt. Plain biological, sociological, biochemical, physiological BULLSHYT! Some people can leave a nut at just a nut.
You must be half woman or something. 
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| 8/18/2014 3:34:46 PM |
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lovetodoit
Buffalo, MO
60, joined Sep. 2011
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The key word is friend , I have a couple of ladies who I have fwb going on. To me this means we might cruise around on the bike go to the lake, even dinner or a concert but at the end of the night were are rollin all over each other in bed. They might even stay all night, then it could be days or even weeks before we hang out again. But the deal is if I don't like em I won't do em.
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| 8/18/2014 4:10:53 PM |
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tyakack_
Euclid, OH
24, joined Jul. 2014
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DO__ Bone as much as possible.
DON'T__ Ever develop feelings.
Thread should have ended right here.
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| 8/18/2014 5:35:24 PM |
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yannetooloyal
Akron, OH
21, joined Jul. 2014
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DO: F**k Me Good and Say Nasty Things
DON'T: Get Soft Fast That Will Make Me Not F**k U
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| 8/18/2014 6:18:52 PM |
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psc82
Grand Island, NE
51, joined Jun. 2014
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Its a fantasy....not trying to rain on anyone's parade, but I don't know of one that works out, someone ends up getting hurt 
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| 8/18/2014 6:38:16 PM |
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ladypat81
Baltimore, MD
34, joined Jun. 2013
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Don't waste your time being someone's part time lover
Do meet someone worth your time for a relationship.
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| 8/19/2014 1:35:14 AM |
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bigjeff94
Annapolis, MD
44, joined Jan. 2013
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Do's are to enjoy the moments and Good Times. Appreciate it. Don'ts let your emotions mess up good times. Or allow them to complicate things.
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| 8/19/2014 4:27:07 AM |
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ltlwing
Winchester, OH
52, joined Oct. 2013
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I can't see being there for someone else's convenience....talk about no self worth in just taking anything...seems desperate to me.Some of us have standards in not passing ourselves around in sexually in sleeping with anything for the moment to undeserving garbage.
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| 8/19/2014 9:50:48 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
56, joined Feb. 2010
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What are the Do's and Don'ts of being in a FWB relationship/situation?
I really have no idea. I have never had, nor do I wish to have a FWB type of relationship. I would rather have a LTR type of relationship with one woman.
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| 8/19/2014 9:54:37 AM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
65, joined Sep. 2011
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Friends yes, with Benefits .....Never
[Edited 8/19/2014 9:55:03 AM ]
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| 8/19/2014 8:15:07 PM |
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ariesdreamer78
Buckeye, AZ
37, joined Aug. 2014
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i had an amazing fwb... friends first, benefits came later when neither of us were attached, nor looking for a relationship but have needs, great chemistry just not good relationship material. Just don't let their girlfriends when they get them find out u have had that type of relationship, they tend not to want you near their man
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| 8/20/2014 6:27:45 PM |
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stamina1975
Madison Heights, VA
39, joined Apr. 2012
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i had an amazing fwb... friends first, benefits came later when neither of us were attached, nor looking for a relationship but have needs, great chemistry just not good relationship material. Just don't let their girlfriends when they get them find out u have had that type of relationship, they tend not to want you near their man
True.
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| 8/20/2014 6:31:40 PM |
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anywenchway
Macon, GA
39, joined Jul. 2014
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Do leave the money on the nightstand because if you Don't 
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| 8/20/2014 7:35:22 PM |
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barrydalmi
Baltimore, MD
52, joined Dec. 2007
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Falling first....actual romantic dates and gestures.
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| 8/21/2014 9:12:20 AM |
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ironjackcash
Longville, LA
56, joined Apr. 2014
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DO remember your friends, so be a friend
Don't decide you have rights of claim, you don't
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| 8/22/2014 3:44:33 AM |
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lauralab1
Austell, GA
46, joined Oct. 2011
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1. If one person starts dating someone, the benefits end.
2. Keep communication open because feelings can change.
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| 8/22/2014 10:55:15 AM |
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robb0576
Waltham, MA
39, joined Jun. 2012
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1. If one person starts dating someone, the benefits end.
2. Keep communication open because feelings can change.
Yep. Had a completely unplanned incident with someone I "dated for 5 minutes" about 20 years ago. It was like flashing back in time to what could have been.
But then I met someone after and it became serious. She brought up point one.
But we are still friends, because that was the understanding.
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| 8/22/2014 10:57:36 AM |
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vicky213
Reno, NV
27, joined Jul. 2013
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Can't do FWB. He's not getting this without relationship possibilities. 
I dont judge people that do though.
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| 8/22/2014 3:41:52 PM |
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mizzangeleyezo4
La Canada Flintridge, CA
38, joined Jan. 2013
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Do...have lots of sex
Don't...ever get personal and ask questions about his life
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| 8/22/2014 9:43:35 PM |
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moodyleo
Jacksonville, FL
27, joined May. 2012
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Don't be dumb enough to think that slapping a label on something involving sex protects you in any way from the natural biological biochemical physiological sociological and mental processes that naturally occur when people have sex.
The relationship label is not a legal document, nor is it any kind of birth control for your emotional bonding with someone.
So the best thing to "do" is "don't" be in a FWB relationship.
Simply realize at best you are just rationalizing using someone for physical and emotional gratification on an ongoing basis while holding a false sense of security that you are immune to the consequences of having sex that are going to happen and you have absolutely no control over.
At worst you are behaving like an uncivilized animal while trying to pretend you are following rational, civilized, altruistic rules for a selfish relationship.
You want to be someone's friend? Don't f**k them.
I absolutely agree
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