1/8/2015 10:25:46 PM |
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gypsiegirly
Provo, UT
48, joined Nov. 2008
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No.....
So why is the "No Dating My Ex" rule more imprtant to women than men?
^^^^^^^
This is not the norm for women.....
But what I stated is the norm.....
Once women are done....they're done....cause women know their worth especially black women.
Let that woman that knows her worth leave that man....he will have the problem.....although he cheated or just was plane dumb.....
The man will have the problem because he knew he had a good woman.
^^^^^ this.. i dont care either way
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1/10/2015 3:19:55 PM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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Unfortunately it seem to be a very big deal with blk women. Thats probably why I've seen this so much growing up.
It don't seem to be very prevalent in othet circles.
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1/10/2015 7:23:59 PM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
46, joined Aug. 2013
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Sounds like you are hanging out with some real winners OP. I think the class of women you chose to associate yourself with is the problem.
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1/10/2015 8:02:33 PM |
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carole4644
Rock Hill, SC
46, joined Dec. 2014
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I think its bcuz they still have some kind of emotional attachment they can't let go of.
I think ur wrong its called respect for friend or family member It has nothing to do with the X its a loyalty between girls.
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1/10/2015 10:42:05 PM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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Sounds like you are hanging out with some real winners OP. I think the class of women you chose to associate yourself with is the problem.
Dammit you're 100% correct about it ALL but one thing.
I didn't CHOOSE to ONLY date blk women, thats all that was available. I've ALWAYS been open to dating outside my race AND culture.
I love meeting and learning new things and ppl. And I did do much research on other circles, what their relation values consist of and how it faired against my own. And the more I learned the more I regret NOT HAVING that opportunity.
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1/10/2015 10:54:30 PM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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I think ur wrong its called respect for friend or family member It has nothing to do with the X its a loyalty between girls.
I asked another but got no answer so I'll ask you.....
What makes it disloyal? If your answer is simply not doing something they don't want you then thats not loyalty, thats being juvenile.
I can see if they went behind your back while yall were still together, WRONG!
If yall had kids together and still had deal with each other as parents, WRONG!
If the break up was fairly new and as your friend he/she knew yyou hadn't had that deprogram ttime yet, WRONG!
But if that break up was 9 yrs ago and you javen't seen, heard from or even discussed your ex and found out they were seeing each other? Where is that disloyal?
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1/11/2015 1:10:48 AM |
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carole4644
Rock Hill, SC
46, joined Dec. 2014
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I asked another but got no answer so I'll ask you.....
What makes it disloyal? If your answer is simply not doing something they don't want you then thats not loyalty, thats being juvenile.
I can see if they went behind your back while yall were still together, WRONG!
If yall had kids together and still had deal with each other as parents, WRONG!
If the break up was fairly new and as your friend he/she knew yyou hadn't had that deprogram ttime yet, WRONG!
But if that break up was 9 yrs ago and you javen't seen, heard from or even discussed your ex and found out they were seeing each other? Where is that disloyal? its like when guys see their buddy cheating they dont run and tell their buddies spouse ..
Personally I was hurt just as much if not more when I cauggt my bestie in bed with my man...
Every situation is different I wouldnt ever date a friend of my x or anyone a family member had been with .....
Sum people may use it as an excuse because they really dont like that person...too many other fish in the sea...
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1/11/2015 12:37:16 PM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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its like when guys see their buddy cheating they dont run and tell their buddies spouse ..
Personally I was hurt just as much if not more when I cauggt my bestie in bed with my man...
Every situation is different I wouldnt ever date a friend of my x or anyone a family member had been with .....
Sum people may use it as an excuse because they really dont like that person...too many other fish in the sea...
I've been in that situation with one of my boys. Only him and his wife were friends of mine from school. He messed around and I said nothing to her. But if she had messed around I probably wouldn't have said anything to him. But I and the other fellas DID pull him up about that shit and expressed how foul that shit was.
He asked me to lie for him once and I did. But him and both got caught in that lie. So after I screamed on his a** I went her and told her everything I knew. lol
Was I wrong for that?
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1/11/2015 12:49:41 PM |
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dr_i_got_answer
Gwynn Oak, MD
48, joined Jun. 2014
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@ carole:
When you caught your gf in bed with your ex how long had yall been broken up?
Did you have any idea she liked him before or after the break up?
And how long were you and your ex together before the break up?
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1/11/2015 4:51:30 PM |
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carole4644
Rock Hill, SC
46, joined Dec. 2014
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We had been together 4 years and he had given me a diamond 2 weeks b4 I caught them together..that diamond is at the bottom of lake whylie ......Funny thing they just got divorced and he has to pay almony out the ass...
Its never a good thing when ur stuck in the middle between friends ...I personally am a loyal friend and sumtimes you have to just tell the truth the whole truth n nothing but the truth...
If ur decision weighs heavy on ur heart you know it was wrong ....
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1/11/2015 4:53:51 PM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
37, joined Apr. 2014
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I need more milk to go with my cereal daters
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1/12/2015 7:41:11 PM |
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carole4644
Rock Hill, SC
46, joined Dec. 2014
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I need more milk to go with my cereal daters
says a cowardly person without pics..
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