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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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Are you kidding me?
How many of you who were married kept that in your wedding vows? Which of you who have not yet been married intend to speak those words?
And how many of you actually paid attention to what they meant, and actually adhered to them, or would?
I made damn sure the preacher did not use those words at the ceremony.
I'm not a slave or a child, I "obey" no one!
(Well, except a cop)
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| 3/5/2015 4:09:59 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
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First!
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ibeenseenitall
Boca Raton, FL
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God cops the movie. Coming this summer
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| 3/5/2015 4:13:06 PM |
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nuerofire78
Sunnyvale, TX
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I took my marriage vows seriously when I got married.Did I follow them to a T? Probably not. I'm not perfect.
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| 3/5/2015 4:14:23 PM |
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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I don't remember that word being a part of our wedding ceremony. But then, that was a long, long, long time ago. I'm lucky I remember it at all!
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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I don't remember that word being a part of our wedding ceremony. But then, that was a long, long, long time ago. I'm lucky I remember it at all!
I assume it was if you used the standard vows.
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apokernut
Elk Grove Village, IL
52, joined Jan. 2008
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Are you kidding me?
How many of you who were married kept that in your wedding vows? Which of you who have not yet been married intend to speak those words?
And how many of you actually paid attention to what they meant, and actually adhered to them, or would?
I made damn sure the preacher did not use those words at the ceremony.
I'm not a slave or a child, I "obey" no one!
(Well, except a cop)
Ever get the feeling if she (OP) doesn't get what she wants, she feels she's been scammed/f*cked over?? BEWARE gentlemen!!
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candy0426
Newtown, PA
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Wasn't part of mine either.
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| 3/5/2015 4:21:16 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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Ever get the feeling if she (OP) doesn't get what she wants, she feels she's been scammed/f*cked over?? BEWARE gentlemen!!
You have mental problems because that's not true. F**king troubmaking troll.
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| 3/5/2015 4:22:59 PM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
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What do men say in those old marriage oaths?
"Honor" instead of obey?
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| 3/5/2015 4:24:00 PM |
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BeeBuzz
ParisParis
France
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Waffle House
Lot Lizard
is what you are now
you were a cab driver
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| 3/5/2015 4:25:28 PM |
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
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I think it says, "Love, Honor and Obey".
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ltlwing
Williamsburg, OH
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I think it says, "Love, Honor and Obey".
I think you are right. 
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| 3/5/2015 4:27:21 PM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
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For men?
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| 3/5/2015 4:29:10 PM |
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Elisa78
GhurianAlmerÃa
Spain
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Love, honor is fine obey, why?
Why he dont obey me?
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| 3/5/2015 4:32:17 PM |
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ltlwing
Williamsburg, OH
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Personally just overlooked that part...didn't necessarily mean I had to do it. 
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| 3/5/2015 4:32:32 PM |
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wutsupppl2
Orange, TX
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Are you kidding me?
How many of you who were married kept that in your wedding vows? Which of you who have not yet been married intend to speak those words?
And how many of you actually paid attention to what they meant, and actually adhered to them, or would?
I made damn sure the preacher did not use those words at the ceremony.
I'm not a slave or a child, I "obey" no one!
(Well, except a cop)
I'm not saying any woman should be a slave/servant to a man or anyone else.. but its kinda funny to me that u say u won't obey anyone except when it is good for u hence obeying a cop so u dont go to jail..
I bet ur the type that thinks a man should do wut u want tho right
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
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I believe you're correct ranger
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| 3/5/2015 4:35:27 PM |
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dezweather
Phoenix, AZ
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I was in a daze. I was in shock. I barely remember it and don't remember the vows at all.
I was so f**king stupid then.
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| 3/5/2015 4:37:43 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
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Love, honor is fine obey, why?
Why he dont obey me?
Cuz u r a woman and u should know your place.
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mva_0615
Avon Lake, OH
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I just repeated whatever the minister told me to so we could go to the reception and start drinking
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| 3/5/2015 4:39:09 PM |
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spaceface79
Des Moines, IA
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Oh, ffs...
Nobody here is telling you that you have to obey.
You are upset because there are women who CHOOSE to do so, and SOME men who want that.
And not you.
You CHOOSE not to.
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| 3/5/2015 4:39:24 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
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Are you kidding me?
How many of you who were married kept that in your wedding vows? Which of you who have not yet been married intend to speak those words?
And how many of you actually paid attention to what they meant, and actually adhered to them, or would?
I made damn sure the preacher did not use those words at the ceremony.
I'm not a slave or a child, I "obey" no one!
(Well, except a cop)
And women like u are what's wrong with America.
Well part of what's wrong with America....
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| 3/5/2015 4:39:53 PM |
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spaceface79
Des Moines, IA
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@mva
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
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I just repeated whatever the minister told me to so we could go to the reception and start drinking
Amen sister!
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| 3/5/2015 4:41:19 PM |
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ltlwing
Williamsburg, OH
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I just repeated whatever the minister told me to so we could go to the reception and start drinking
I took a nerve pill before my wedding...I was agreeable to most anything at that point.
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likescareses
Eugene, OR
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that vow is not used anymore at least at the weddings I've been at
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nicoli7
Louisville, KY
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Because if you are married, and love each other.....then you love...honor....and obey.
But don't confuse "obey" with them owning you.
It just means that for two people to love each other in a marriage, they will both listen to each other's wishes.
And true love isn't commanding someone to treat you as a king....it's trating THE OTHER as royalty.
It's selfless.
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| 3/5/2015 4:43:59 PM |
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ltlwing
Williamsburg, OH
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Because if you are married, and love each other.....then you love...honor....and obey.
But don't confuse "obey" with them owning you.
It just means that for two people to love each other in a marriage, they will both listen to each other's wishes.
And true love isn't commanding someone to treat you as a king....it's trating THE OTHER as royalty.
It's selfless.
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wutsupppl2
Orange, TX
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^^^ nice
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spaceface79
Des Moines, IA
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"Seeks not its own"
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| 3/5/2015 5:19:37 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 3/5/2015 5:22:25 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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Oh, ffs...
Nobody here is telling you that you have to obey.
You are upset because there are women who CHOOSE to do so, and SOME men who want that.
And not you.
You CHOOSE not to.
Here we go again with the completely ignorant and asinine accusations. I'm not upset at all, kiddo.
You don't like the topic get the f**k out of my thread, but quit with the f**king lies.
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
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Pick up a gallon of milk, a loaf of bread, a pizza on the way home? No problem! Buy you a new car simply because you ask for one? Problem obeying! 
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| 3/5/2015 6:00:53 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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Pick up a gallon of milk, a loaf of bread, a pizza on the way home? No problem! Buy you a new car simply because you ask for one? Problem obeying!
Exactly. Except I'm not talking about simply saying pick up a gallon of milk on the way home type of stuff. It may be spoken as a statement, but it's really a request.
I'm talking stuff like "I forbid you to..." and "I'm your husband so you will do what I say..." and "No, you can't wear that " or "No you can't go (there)," etc. Or "You will have sex with me whenever I want it," etc.
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| 3/5/2015 6:01:14 PM |
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norwegianwood64
Huntsville, AL
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Why would a woman give a rats a** what is in the vows...as soon as she says "I do", she gets half his money and the house. For that kind of deal, I will sing barry manilow songs naked while dancing the macarena.
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| 3/5/2015 6:02:15 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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Why would a woman give a rats a** what is in the vows...as soon as she says "I do", she gets half his money and the house. For that kind of deal, I will sing barry manilow songs naked while dancing the macarena.
Not true. I got jack shit.
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| 3/5/2015 6:03:12 PM |
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boombap_808
Los Angeles, CA
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I heard there was a damaged ho sale up in here.
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| 3/5/2015 6:10:29 PM |
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latinasm
Amarillo, TX
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I didn't have that when I got married... We opted that out cause we are our own person ... We loved each other cause I am an individual; he was his own individual... We don't obey.. Now you can ask nicely for something
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boombap_808
Los Angeles, CA
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Are you guys divorced?
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| 3/5/2015 6:16:32 PM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
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Exactly. Except I'm not talking about simply saying pick up a gallon of milk on the way home type of stuff. It may be spoken as a statement, but it's really a request.
I'm talking stuff like "I forbid you to..." and "I'm your husband so you will do what I say..." and "No, you can't wear that " or "No you can't go (there)," etc. Or "You will have sex with me whenever I want it," etc.
The rules you set for me had better apply for you, or I would set you free! Never made any demands except keep your problems and demands to a minimum.
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| 3/5/2015 6:48:16 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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The rules you set for me had better apply for you, or I would set you free! Never made any demands except keep your problems and demands to a minimum.
Precisely.
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| 3/5/2015 6:51:46 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
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Quote from beautifulfire08:Exactly. Except I'm not talking about simply saying pick up a gallon of milk on the way home type of stuff. It may be spoken as a statement, but it's really a request.
I'm talking stuff like "I forbid you to..." and "I'm your husband so you will do what I say..." and "No, you can't wear that " or "No you can't go (there)," etc. Or "You will have sex with me whenever I want it," etc.
U need to learn your place in the relationship. The man has ultimate veto power and as soon as u learn that the better off u will be!
Get off all that I'm your equal crap and get back in the kitchen where you belong!
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| 3/5/2015 6:54:56 PM |
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ruthsan6
Orlando, FL
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Because if you are married, and love each other.....then you love...honor....and obey.
But don't confuse "obey" with them owning you.
It just means that for two people to love each other in a marriage, they will both listen to each other's wishes.
And true love isn't commanding someone to treat you as a king....it's trating THE OTHER as royalty.
It's selfless.
AGREE!!!...
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| 3/5/2015 6:56:48 PM |
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grx_
Revere, MA
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I've never been married. I Imagine if I had been, I wouldn't have taken the obey part of the vows seriously in this day and age. Anyone who doesn't like the way traditional vows are worded, can always change them.
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| 3/5/2015 6:57:30 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
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A woman will submit as long as the guy agrees to do WHAT he is told, WHERE he is told, WHY he is told, HOW he is told, NO QUESTIONS ASKED! What I want to know is how come a woman obeys NO ONE even if it costs her her job, her relationships and her eternal damnation, but guys are supposed to meekly submit to everything you ORDER? Who'd want to marry a b*tch like that? Guess that explains the failure of your relationships, OP.
You can have only 1 chief and 1 injun and that isn't possible when the guy is a natural leader and the girl makes WW III out of every little issue. The relationship is doomed to fail from day 1. Have you ever dated a guy who seemed to suit you or did you think him a spineless wimp while MACHO BAD BOYZ are too aggressive etc? You seem to want a man who doesn't exist!
Don't hit on me as I'm certainly NOT interested! 
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
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What music did you use at your "ceremony"? I AM WOMAN hear me roar even GOD says IM her lord.
I suppose YOU DONT OWN ME im not just one of your many toys.
How long before the gutless wimp grew a backbone and got out from under your ABUSE? If I'd been him I doubt it would have lasted past the first date. NO THANKS!
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| 3/5/2015 7:01:40 PM |
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Los Angeles, CA
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| 3/5/2015 7:21:08 PM |
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latinasm
Amarillo, TX
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Because if you are married, and love each other.....then you love...honor....and obey.
But don't confuse "obey" with them owning you.
It just means that for two people to love each other in a marriage, they will both listen to each other's wishes.
And true love isn't commanding someone to treat you as a king....it's trating THE OTHER as royalty.
It's selfless.
This too
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| 3/5/2015 7:56:27 PM |
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ohdannyboy59
Arlington, TX
55, joined Sep. 2012
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I'm no legal authority but I can't see the literal definition holding up in court these days.
Unless you're getting hitched in the Middle East.
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| 3/5/2015 7:57:39 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
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Obedience is for dogs.....
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| 3/5/2015 8:16:49 PM |
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spaceface79
Des Moines, IA
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Here we go again with the completely ignorant and asinine accusations. I'm not upset at all, kiddo.
You don't like the topic get the f**k out of my thread, but quit with the f**king lies.
I lied about nothing. You're mad because the young lady in the other thread blocked you before you could begin another nasty tirade.
So you started a similar thread in order to vent.
Just an observation.
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| 3/5/2015 8:18:59 PM |
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boombap_808
Los Angeles, CA
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Obedience is for dogs.....
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| 3/5/2015 8:19:59 PM |
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skywatcher58
Topeka, KS
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Obey was in my first vows. If there is ever a second chance they will be just as the bible says. I like tradition. I love it that the women in my family are strong Christian women. Hard workers, good educations. And their marriages a partnership. When I see my nieces getting upset with their husbands we talk. If the husbands are valid I tell my nieces to knock it off. If the guys are out of line I tell them. The best advice given to me when I got married was never go to bed angry. It made for some late night "discussions". My ex probably gave in just to get some sleep. I guess my point is let me be a woman and I'll let you be THE MAN.
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| 3/5/2015 8:20:13 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
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Si ubu, sit!
Noooooooooo....
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| 3/5/2015 8:27:02 PM |
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boombap_808
Los Angeles, CA
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Time to put the steel toes on.
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| 3/5/2015 8:40:37 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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Obey was in my first vows. If there is ever a second chance they will be just as the bible says. I like tradition. I love it that the women in my family are strong Christian women. Hard workers, good educations. And their marriages a partnership. When I see my nieces getting upset with their husbands we talk. If the husbands are valid I tell my nieces to knock it off. If the guys are out of line I tell them. The best advice given to me when I got married was never go to bed angry. It made for some late night "discussions". My ex probably gave in just to get some sleep. I guess my point is let me be a woman and I'll let you be THE MAN.
So to you, him being THE MAN and you being the woman means you have to OBEY him? What I don't get is this ambiguity as to what "being THE MAN" means within the context of this discussion.
So I'll ask you point blank. Did you OBEY your husband and, if so, why? Simply because the Bible says so? (Which, incidentally, was for the time it was written and hasn't applied for many years .)
Do you feel incapable of making logical decisions? Do you think that because he is THE MAN that he is superior to you and more capable than you are?
Also, "let me be the woman." What does that mean, supplication yourself unto THE MAN'S authority?
Did you OBEY what he told you to do?
Obeying THE MAN doesn't make you a strong Christian woman, it makes you a weak submissive intimidated woman.
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| 3/5/2015 8:43:08 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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I lied about nothing. You're mad because the young lady in the other thread blocked you before you could begin another nasty tirade.
So you started a similar thread in order to vent.
Just an observation.
I couldn't give a f**k less who blocks me. I started the topic again because it's an interesting subject. Not venting, discussing. Now shut the f**k up and mind your own f**king business and stop acting as though you can speak for me.
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| 3/5/2015 8:44:12 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
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Time to put the steel toes on.
You don't skeer me..mr....
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| 3/5/2015 8:44:18 PM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
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Obedience is for dogs.....
Exactly!
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