An article by: Lauren Martin of 'Elite Daily'

She must be alone because something’s wrong with her…

There’s a fallacy women need to “attract” men. They need the perfect skirt, tempting lipstick and a good blowjob.

We already know this

It's not anyone fault but your own if you can find love

It's not about fault and I have found love. That's why I am not on here much anymore. It's just always had me thinking why all the complaining on some men's parts, but I think it is that women, especially more mature women just expect all the things that use to be reserved only for guys to expect, and are just not going to get in a relationship otherwise. Am I wrong?

An article by: Lauren Martin of 'Elite Daily'

As of now, this man does not exist.

maybe it's where I live....because there's literally thousands of singles my age and dating, that I just left those alone that weren't an equal or not up for being a partner.

but there were plenty of them...no shortage, and while sure there's lots of ones not emotionally mature enough for relationships (say my daughter's age) there's still plenty that are and she's never had any problem finding a good man (either).

all this worrying about him impressing her and his baggage honestly sounds a little guarded and paranoid.

don't worry be happy...and know that if all the important stuff is there, character, personality, we're all human as just as I mess up and learn, grown, do better, the HE does as well.

I'd tell her to get out of her head.

go with the flow and when dating you see those deal breakers, give him a chance, communicate your needs, wants and desires and he doesn't meet them or is unwilling to do so..on to the next one that will. (and there ARE those, plenty of those)

Very good to see you girl....and ty for this post

The ability to get a man/woman means nothing. Being lovable is a different level. A lot of people just go from relationship to relationship repeating the same patterns. Never working on themselves...or they just eventually give up.

No wonder Medusa agrees...the Man Haters Club reunites without acknowledging how unstable some women are not worthy of a relationship...hilarious.

Rose...I see it as a wake up call girl...

Thousands of things telling women..ohhh if you want a man?

You have to look like this...dress like this...lady like...slut in.bed...submissive.,obey etc.

Completely negating the fact many women do not lack DA..without bowing...scraping..to societys demands...and many many don't compared to those that do.

So...maybe it is and FYI...times have changed.

And even.tho many WOMEN are single,..ppl shldnt assume it is her baggage etc keeping her single...

It is the shortage of .....men on their level....

5 year relationship before I met my husband of 31 years, one 2 and half year relationship and now one which looks good for the long haul, does not show a person who goes from relationship to relationship and is unlovable. Just because a woman dates in between the long-terms just means she doesn't jump into long-term with every man. I think a lot of women are lovable, but just don't always find the men in their lives as lovable as she needs, so they initiate most of the break-ups (marriage stats, 75% of wives file for divorce). Of course there are both men and women who cannot maintain long term relationships, but to generalize that strong women are that group just doesn't hold with the facts.

An article by: Lauren Martin of 'Elite Daily'

She must be alone because something’s wrong with her…

There’s a fallacy women need to “attract” men. They need the perfect skirt, tempting lipstick and a good blowout. They need to be poised and intelligent, alluring and girlish. They need to be funny and witty, but not overly obnoxious.

It’s the woman who needs to fit the mold of man’s dream girl; it’s the woman who must capture the love of a man.

Fortunately, this isn’t how it works — at least, not for all the strong women I know. By contrast, women who love themselves aren’t looking to attain a certain standard or to fit a specific mold. They aren’t dressing up their sexuality and dressing down their thoughts.

They know who they are and, unfortunately for all those men out there looking for a susceptible piece of clay to mold in their calloused hands, they already love themselves.

The problem, though, is they can’t seem to find a man they’re ready to love. A man who fits their standards and their ideas of a perfect partner.

A man who interests and allures them. A man they find worthy of their time and attention.

This is the new dilemma: The plight of the single woman. It’s no longer her problem, but his problem. No longer are women single because something is wrong with them. No longer do women feel alone because they’re undesirable or unattractive.

Women are alone because no one else is good enough.

“I’m not worried about impressing you; I’m worried about you impressing me.”

I don’t just know myself; I love myself. I’m at a point in my life where I no longer second-guess every move and every thought. I have taken the time to find out who I am and what I believe — now, if only I could find a man with the same self-awareness.

Unfortunately, I’m only finding boys with about as much character and depth as the hero of their favorite action movie.

I need a man who isn’t in the middle of an identity crisis. A man who has a sense of worth without being an arrogant assh*le.

A man who isn’t going to just mimic my actions or bail because he can’t handle a woman who has more strength of character than he does. As of now, this man does not exist.

“I’m not worried about my views; I’m worried about yours.”

I know who I am and what I’m about. You, however, I’m not so sure. I know what I stand for and what I believe. I have my ardent opinions and my unwavering views.

I’m not looking for someone with the same ones, but someone with views I can respect and learn from.

I don’t want a man who can’t hold a conversation with me. I don’t want a man who doesn’t have opinions on death, love and global warming.

I want a man who’ll challenge and ignite passion and a fire in my soul. Someone who’s dedicated and inspired.

“I’m not worried about my baggage; I’m worried about yours.”

I have my sh*t under control. I have my baggage, like everyone else, but I can carry mine. I’m strong enough to bring it around without letting it weigh me down.

I’m not pulling it 5 miles behind me, tripping over it and refusing to admit it’s sitting right there.

I need a man who doesn’t come with 20 pounds of sh*t. A man who isn’t going to be thinking about his wounds and his losses. I need a man who is present, a man who learns from the past, not just drags it along.

“I’m not worried about being alone; I’m worried about being with the wrong person.”

I can handle being alone; I like being alone. I’d rather be alone than acquiesce to the standards of the lonely and insecure. I stand on my own, proudly and without fear.

I won’t enter a relationship just for the sake of it — like those women who don’t know what they want so they settle for what they see.

I won’t settle for some man just because he’s better than no man. I need passion, fire and the assurance this relationship is almost as good as the one with myself — and it’s a hard standard to meet.

“I’m not worried about my performance, I’m worried about yours.”

I’m not worried about how I’m doing or if the night went well. I’m no longer asking my friends if I did it right or if he thinks I’m not good in bed. I’m tired of wondering if it was good for them; it’s always good for them.

What about me? What about my needs? What about making me feel the way I make you feel?

I’m looking for a man who doesn’t quit when he’s finished. I need a man who keeps going because he finds pleasure in mine — a man who doesn’t think sex is finished when he’s satisfied.
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This describes me so well and most of my single/divorced/widowed girlfriends.
So, if single guys are having problems with dating available women, this might be why. Any thoughts?

Wow! I hear ya girl that is the only way to be you are one smart woman