Then why are you worried about it?

If you're at the top of your game etc etc

You can't disappoint your parents if they know you are doing your best to get that.

You want a loving family? Make time to love and nurture them.

A wife needs more than wealth. Love is time. Kids need a Dad

that has time for them.

Maybe that's one of the turn-offs...women like men who actually have time to date...i would say anyone who is a workaholic works too much...there is more to life...like having fun too...it's certainly not a lifestyle condusive with having a family....those kinds of relationships can only last so long before your absence will start to be felt and if married with kids...your wife will start to feel like a single mother...just my advice and the way i have seen some marriages go and the comments afterwards...

half the stuff you post is absolutely hilarious nonsense. The gay comments are pretty hilarious


some of it though is pretty interesting though. What I want to know is where did I indicate that I'm looking for absolute perfection? A woman I feel some attraction to = absolute perfection? I see ladies everywhere I go to that I would totally date

NO woman-of the very few you have talked to-has been beautiful enough to hold your interest for an entire night, so you never went home with any of them.

You have to be gay. NO straight man could keep coming up with so many excuses to avoid women. At some point-if you were straight-your desperation, and horniness, would conquer all, and you would date The Elephant Man's Uglier Sister if need be, in order to get laid. You may need to get drunk first, but you would do it, and-hanging out in bars so much-it would be easy. You don't do that. You CLAIM that the reason you don't is because you won't settle. The real reason is because you are gay, and trying to hide that fact-perhaps even from yourself-so you allegedly try to get women, but always somehow fail. You always find just enough fault-with every woman you encounter-to explain your rejection of every single willing p*ssy you meet.

Why are we talking about me needing to love and nurture a family?


I can't even get a date. This is like somebody worrying about how he will survive on the top of Mount Everest when he can't even get his leg over the very first ledge

Wait a second. ...

Ride the Lightning is an early metallica record

Are you into hard-ass speed metal?

Is this the issue?

Quote from spaceface79: I believe she meant that women who want a family are naturally attracted to men who are family oriented.
All you are offering is bill paying. She can do that herself.
But if she has children, she wants a good father for them.
That is what women are ultimately looking for.


I totally understand that. Did you not read the original post where I talked about how much I loved seeing and playing with my nieces?


I love kids. I would be an awesome father and boyfriend, for that matter

And the saga continues....

A guy I have known for a pretty long time used to talk exactly like you as far as being

really concerned to impress & validate self to the parents. He was really bothered by

it all. After a stretch of no success with women and still being in his 20's, he finally

got fed up enough to focus on his other goal....which was to earn one million dollars in

one year.....to compete with his dad. He succeeded before he was 35, and has since

married a lady that is very supportive who is 5ft 10inches tall 125lbs, educated & they

have 3 little kids & live in a Rockstar house in Fallbrook, CA ...9,000sq ft estate

surrounded by a huge Avacado orchard. He drives a 6cylinder Porsche & his wife has one

of those $100,000 BMW M5s. The goal cannot ever be "to find a wife", that may be one of

but if it is the only goal they'll sniff that out.....do things like not notice you, not

approach you or lie if you approach them. If you try to push it....they may take you up

on it, then refuse to work for ten years, then divorce you & have you pay alimony. You

don't want that.....oracle sez: "Guy who pay alimony is like guy who saves his money to

buy bicycle....for all the other boys in the neighborhood to ride."

it's interesting you say this, I've never gotten any negative feedback on my lifestyle


I get compliments all the time on how I dress for example

You seem oblivious to the negative critiques you receive here. I'm inclined to think you are equally unaware in other venues.

Can one who wants a family and kids really be happy being perma-single forever?


I ask this question because my sister has been in town recently and I absolutely love my little nieces. They are the most beautiful little creatures in the world. I really want to have that at some point but i just don't see it happening. Every year, i get older and more and more of my peers are taken, making it that much harder to meet someone


And I'm too proud to force myself to settle for someone i feel no attraction for (Someone significantly less attractive than myself). I just dunno

Part of the problem for me is I would be disappointing my parents immensely if I never carried on our family name so I would carry that shame as well

Maybe I'm getting too ahead of myself. If i get to age 35 in same position with dating, I will be at the very top of men in that market because of my appearance, physical fitness, success and income, having zero baggage, no kids and never been married. I take great care of myself and i have the olive complexion so I will look 25 at 35. Surely there will be a woman desperate enough to like me, no?