Seriously, would a man ask this question. Come out of the dark ages. This is not 1950.Go girl, rattle his bones.

she is christian so she has to wait for marriage

Age doesn't matter shit, i'm banging a 23 year old. We're talking 46, the dudes not exactly a young horndog just trying to pull a pump and dump on you. Ya never know though. Take a chance for once in your life, ask him out. Get off the electronics and meet him in person, you never know. He could be "the one". Look at you, robbing the cradle. You go girl. Get you some of that.

You should meet.
You might like each other.

He seems perfect for me but I hate dating younger guys. He seems like the real deal. But I dont know whether to meet him in person or not. What do you all think? Does age matter?

Everyone who knows you will judge. They'll be talking to each other about how misguided you are. You will get a lot of sideways glances from people.

Meanie

I've noticed that the more money the older person in a relationship has, the less the age difference matters to the younger person.. It's just an observation..

Miss traditional family values and dislike sharing my love with everyone. Wish people could distinguish that certain situations should be kept separated

@Buddy...you are mean. LTL maybe we should be cougars... @Blue I dont tell you guys everything... I keep the "juicy" stories to myself.

That can happen at some point and to either gender.

When they start out its not an issue. But a younger guy can be with an older woman too...and she still looks good enough, enough energy...etc.

Then they hit an age, where he still is that way,....but now she looks way older and doesn't want to do the fun things anymore...looses some drive, etc.

Then he thinks...shit I don't stuck with this from here on out.

I'm not sure if ten years matters as much as 15 or 20 years difference...it just depends on a few things.

but my real point is...I think its better not to think anyone is ideal for you..that early on...especially is you haven't dated for a while ...or more....it takes a while to really figure that out.

no offence but its a childish notion to be that way.

and no one is ever or ever will be perfect for anyone.

Maybe when you and her said something about honesty in dating recently....the real deal is, you on your own made him into an image, that no one can live up to, and when discovered they are only human and simply couldn't live up to that image....you took that as....they lied about how they are....when in reality that wasn't the case at all.

The other thing is..this is a scary notion to me in general.

Why? because it sounds like women shop for men, like they would seeking something for the house at Walmart...like the man is some commodity for their life.

you can't base real love off of a sum total of parts or filling a wish list.

Love is rare, and it just happens when it does to whoever caused it.

So telling someone you love them because they appear to hit the wish list, is a lie in itself.

And, once she has them if this is the case, once the initial excitement is over and if its not real love....isn't she going to start to treat him different...as in like he is just a commodity.??

sure....and who can be happy, once they realize that's the case?...and if this the case...sure, that will cause him to change...just like it would be, if you felt it really wasn't love, but you were just filling a gap.

to me....this is scary and why I'm leery if a woman thinks to much of me in the beginning and seems to get feelings too early.

then the deal is...the guy might be the one who got lied to.....without her even realizing she did this.