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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
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..are all a**holes in my opinion.
I don't have this problem in real life, I have to say that I have been lucky: I only found gentlemen.
Maybe because in Atlanta most men are old fashion?
Obviously the girl should not take advantage of a guy either.
However how come a guy asks a girl out and then expect the girl to pay???
So it is a date or a co-worker things?
I find it rude from a man, and kinda trashying his girl...
Very low class. 
Opinions?
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slutfoluv
Colorado Springs, CO
37, joined Jan. 2011
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Why is it assumed a man should always pay
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cherisays
Lancaster, CA
32, joined Dec. 2014
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Where you want to go? I expect to pay..
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Alahunter917
Trussville, AL
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I couldn't fathom asking a woman out on a date and not taking care of the expenses. That's just a foreign concept to me personally. It's like not opening doors for women too.. Some things you just do because it's the proper thing to do.
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not_jake
Montreal, QC
26, joined Sep. 2014
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..are all a**holes in my opinion.
I don't have this problem in real life, I have to say that I have been lucky: I only found gentlemen.
Maybe because in Atlanta most men are old fashion?
Obviously the girl should not take advantage of a guy either.
However how come a guy asks a girl out and then expect the girl to pay???
So it is a date or a co-worker things?
I find it rude from a man, and kinda trashying his girl...
Very low class.
Opinions?
Any guy that tries to do that is a loser. Probably still lives with his mommy.
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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Why is it assumed a man should always pay
Who said always?
But if he asks a girl out then he asks her to pay???
He asked her out....
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slutfoluv
Colorado Springs, CO
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So where you taken me...and your paying
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
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I couldn't fathom asking a woman out on a date and not taking care of the expenses. That's just a foreign concept to me personally. It's like not opening doors for women too.. Some things you just do because it's the proper thing to do.
Here a gentleman.  
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
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So where you taken me...and your paying
If I ask you out I would pay.
But if a man asks me out is a different story. 
...and is not only that, is just that men who expect the girl to pay, are always jerks also....for some reason...
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Alahunter917
Trussville, AL
45, joined Mar. 2016
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Always. In public, and mostly in private.
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
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I don't care who asks who. I pay my share he pays his.
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chairman_drth
Toronto, ON
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Maybe it was the way I was raised my Dad, Granddad ( both still alive) always said if you ask a woman out you should take care of the bill and never expect a thing in return except for good company.
Personally Im uncomfortable with a woman treating me even on my birthday, if she wants to make me dinner I consider that a trade off but then that is just me.
I cant imagine me saying to a woman , lets go out and you pay, hell my grandmother would as she says "box my ears" for even suggesting that.
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Alahunter917
Trussville, AL
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I can relate to that.
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| 4/29/2016 4:50:31 PM |
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slutfoluv
Colorado Springs, CO
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I don't care who asks who. I pay my share he pays his.
Wanna split a yogurt 
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
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Sure as long as it's raspberry 
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| 4/29/2016 4:54:24 PM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
60, joined Mar. 2014
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all men are different.
just in case he is ends up having an attitude about paying I prefer paying for my own. that eliminates any possible problems.
I don't expect a man to pay for my coffee or a beer whatever but it leaves a much better impression if he pays.
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
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I had that conversation last night. A guy I met never wanted to go out always wanted me to cook. I've only had 2 guys that had a problem paying.
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wickedrider
Madison, WI
96, joined Mar. 2009
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When I went out to court, (there wasn't dating then) many many years ago, as I'm way too old now to even consider such a thing, I've always paid, and never thought twice about it... This accounts for friends too and at present now. I always pay. they try, but I'm sneaky and don't let them. it's not an ego thing with me, or a macho or man thing, as I don't consider myself a man.
It's just something I've always done, or I just didn't go.
I also leave a tip at least half the size of the check, or if I liked the food or service, more than the check.
I guess I remember being very poor, and working my a** off a long time ago, and I appreciate the people in the trenches in the service industry.
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hikinghills
Redding, CA
52, joined Mar. 2016
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if I take someone out ...plan and simple I pay.....
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
44, joined Sep. 2014
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If two lesbians go out who is expected to pay?
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Alahunter917
Trussville, AL
45, joined Mar. 2016
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Me if they let me take them home for the night.
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hikinghills
Redding, CA
52, joined Mar. 2016
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lol he she
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not_jake
Montreal, QC
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If two lesbians go out who is expected to pay?
The butch.
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
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A man don't get nuthin' till a woman is well fed!
Lobsterfest at Red Lobster is a known panty dropper! It's on me! And let's take those cheddar biscuits to go! OK!
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celyn67
San Antonio, TX
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If the man asks the woman out, then he should pay. I've never had a man who asked me out who expected me to pay. But I don't go on a date unless I have money to pay for myself.
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
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Fish I expect the guy to pay but I dont expect expensive meals. Im going for lobster later this year but my friends company is paying for it. A lot of ways to have fun without spending A lot of money.
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Ch4mbella
Virginia Beach, VA
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I don't care who asks who. I pay my share he pays his.
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
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Hey, I don't spend much money! What $50 bucks? That's about all it costs for a good meal and a few drinks!
Well worth it if you have fun!
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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all men are different.
just in case he is ends up having an attitude about paying I prefer paying for my own. that eliminates any possible problems.
I don't expect a man to pay for my coffee or a beer whatever but it leaves a much better impression if he pays.
I feel the same.
And I don't have any problem to pay my part, and often I offer to.
BUT...
A guy who is upfront by telling me that I gotta contribute and getting offensive if for example I don't wanna pay is another thing...
That screams "abuser".
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Ch4mbella
Virginia Beach, VA
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A man don't get nuthin' till a woman is well fed!
Lobsterfest at Red Lobster is a known panty dropper! It's on me! And let's take those cheddar biscuits to go! OK!
Good morning Fishn  
I thought ti was the other way around... "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach"..
I don't see why people are so hot about Lobster, plenty of other better seafood available.. Lobster is boring! Crab has much better tasting 'meat'.
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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Okay op....but how would you like it, if you were a man and felt your just as valuable as anyone else....yet you have to be the initiator, and do all these things, while she merely exist and pay and not knowing all the while, what the future brings.
I won't go into all the other injustices out there and leave it at this.
For the record, If I ask a girl out, I figure on paying for that date.....however most wanted to help out some...and once we got going, we took turns treating each other....this without me asking them.
And after a great session of sex with them...most seemed to want to take me out and pay for it all....being good has its perks.
So...whatever, but you do realize your the female equal to Enig.....right????
I feel a little sad to see people still young, with all these issues getting in the way of having a happy life....knowing that later they will look back when they are older and regret wasting so much youth time, on being this way.
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bandit__geezer
FujianFujian
China
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I think they should be guillotined.
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houston_rocker
Spring, TX
45, joined Aug. 2014
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Maybe I see it it slightly differently.
I don't assume my date is covering for me and she shouldn't expect me to cover everything for her. Part of the dating experience is about how you work together to make it either a fun date or a miserable one.
I ask for halves and see where it goes. If she seems purturbed at my question, I will gladly cover it all. However, won't be many dates with her.
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
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Good morning Fishn
I thought ti was the other way around... "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach"..
I don't see why people are so hot about Lobster, plenty of other better seafood available.. Lobster is boring! Crab has much better tasting 'meat'.
I'll eat anything that swims................. I mean female and swims!
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patriottype
Grand Prairie, TX
35, joined Jul. 2013
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Stop dating pimps and they will not ask you to pay for their things.
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| 4/29/2016 5:41:45 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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I also leave a tip at least half the size of the check, or if I liked the food or service, more than the check.
I do that too.
I don't like people who don't leave a tip or leave it too small!
Come on! What do you expect waitresses work for free??? 
In the bar where I go on Saturdays with my 2 girlfriends I always leave 10/20 bucks depends by the bill (we split obviously).
At my birthday, the past summer, the bartender made free Daiquiris for me and my girlfriends and they all sing "happy birthday". How Lovely!
To be nice to people pays back! 
..and I hate cheap people did I mention it??
Maybe because I am from Milan - Italy - People from Milan are famous for their generosity.
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Ch4mbella
Virginia Beach, VA
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I'll eat anything that swims................. I mean female and swims!
LOL but...but.. you gotta be 'chosie' 
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
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If she can out arm-wrestle me- I'll go ahead and let her pick up the tab!
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
42, joined Mar. 2016
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I think it's unrealistic that you expect him to pay. You work and earn your own money.
You can't have equality and still expect a man to pay for you.
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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LOL but...but.. you gotta be 'chosie'
Yes, that did sound like I was a wh*re- and I'm not!
Heck! I'm totally free!
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Ch4mbella
Virginia Beach, VA
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I have NEVER had a guy ask me to pay, but I have often enough insisted that I pay my share.. if not I would suggest I pay for the drinks and the tip. Better than looking like you are milking him for his money. Shows that I CAN take care of myself..
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
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Maybe it was the way I was raised my Dad, Granddad ( both still alive) always said if you ask a woman out you should take care of the bill and never expect a thing in return except for good company.
Personally Im uncomfortable with a woman treating me even on my birthday, if she wants to make me dinner I consider that a trade off but then that is just me.
I cant imagine me saying to a woman , lets go out and you pay, hell my grandmother would as she says "box my ears" for even suggesting that.
I approved this messageU got my vote
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Ch4mbella
Virginia Beach, VA
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Yes, that did sound like I was a wh*re- and I'm not!
Heck! I'm totally free!
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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Lobsterfest at Red Lobster is a known panty dropper! It's on me! And let's take those cheddar biscuits to go! OK!
They throw lobsters in the boiling water alive.
Horrible!
I quit eating lobsters a long time ago.
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
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Usually in relationship it's not long before I start cooking instead of going out. I've also cleaned my guys house when he would have to work overtime. Men love back massages too. Women do a lot to show appreciation
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Alahunter917
Trussville, AL
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I'm the same on tips. I don't usually go out a ton though. And if I get good service, I want to make sure they know I appreciated it.
And as far as seafood. Shrimp. 
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forum_rose
Killeen, TX
38, joined Feb. 2016
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I will not accept an invite to go on a date if I don't have the money in my pocket.
So this has never been an issue.
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| 4/29/2016 5:51:35 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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I have NEVER had a guy ask me to pay, but I have often enough insisted that I pay my share.. if not I would suggest I pay for the drinks and the tip. Better than looking like you are milking him for his money. Shows that I CAN take care of myself..
Oh yeah I offer to pay stuff too and to contribute...
..but I don't think you got my point:
..what is annoying is a guy with a jerky attitude who expects it!
He even does't care about you!
he is only preoccupied about the money in this pocket...
How Trashy.
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| 4/29/2016 5:52:48 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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They throw lobsters in the boiling water alive.
Horrible!
I quit eating lobsters a long time ago.
I've had oysters on the half-shell! I'm not sure they are even dead yet! It seems I always feel them swimming around in my stomach after eating them!
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Alahunter917
Trussville, AL
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I'd never had oysters til I went to NOLA for the Sugar Bowl season before last. Tried some BBQ oysters.. man.. those were tasty.
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
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Some women pay and it messes everything up for the rest of us. 
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
42, joined Mar. 2016
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Messes what up for you?
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Alahunter917
Trussville, AL
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depends on the man. I prefer the old ways when it comes to dating.
Man pays for dinner and entertainment, opens doors, stands when she gets up or down and nothing expected but good company. I know that sometimes contrasts to what I say on here, but irl and playing on here are 2 different things.
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
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One woman pays now they want us all to pay.
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wickedrider
Madison, WI
96, joined Mar. 2009
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You rock... A true journey traveler.
And.......Yes, they are. Many Italian cities are quite generous, for sure. You won't walk away hungry!!! It's truly a beautiful country, inside and out, and if one respects the people and her customs, they will see an entirely different view from inside. Coastline on all sides, It is truly unique in European tradition through millenniums that has left it's mark on all parts of the world.
Western Sahara in Africa is very similar in attitude, once they get to know you in the tiny towns, they will introduce you to things and food that the outside world will never experience. It's worth the trip to see places like this.
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Ch4mbella
Virginia Beach, VA
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Oh yeah I offer to pay stuff too and to contribute...
..but I don't think you got my point:
..what is annoying is a guy with a jerky attitude who expects it!
He even does't care about you!
he is only preoccupied about the money in this pocket...
How Trashy.
Sure, sure, steg I DO get what you mean.
I would also be suss if a guy says to me, I invite you ut but I can't pay, I would most likely ask does eh at least have enough $$ to pay for himself? is there a problem with that? and hear him out.. yeah maybe I would pay depending on the circumstance. If I really wanted to meet him no matter what, I would possibly find another venue to get to date/meet him, maybe go on a Picnic etc ..
things do change once having dated a few times. I pay - he pays ... etc etc...
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
44, joined Sep. 2014
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Alahunter would make a great date.
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| 4/29/2016 6:02:22 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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I think it's unrealistic that you expect him to pay. You work and earn your own money.
You can't have equality and still expect a man to pay for you.
did you ever had a man who liked you a lot? Like really A LOT?
Because when a man likes you very much he treats you like you are special.
Sending flowers and all that...it is called "courtshipping" a woman...
..you should try to date someone who treats you like that.
It is really beautiful...and is not about money.
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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I'd never had oysters til I went to NOLA for the Sugar Bowl season before last. Tried some BBQ oysters.. man.. those were tasty.
I heard those things can make your sticker peck out!
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| 4/29/2016 6:02:35 PM |
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
United Kingdom
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As I woman I don't want a man to feel he has to pay for my company. That I am there because I want to equally share his company.
I'm pretty confident that does not show poor class.
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