| 9/2/2008 3:57:23 PM |
why don't people want to use the phone to say hi instead of email |
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suffolk
Cortez, CO
age: 56
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I have to go 20 miles to use a library computer to use email. I would rather give out my phone number & have someone call than use email. I can learn more about a person in a phone call, & they can learn more about me. If they want to block their number until they are more comfortable with me that is ok. I am willing to call them.
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| 9/2/2008 3:59:45 PM |
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washingtonbound
Suffern, NY
age: 21
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I just feel more comfortable talking thru email for a bit..then after I get to know a person better we can move to the phone..JMO  .if a guy is gonnna email saying hi then his next question being can I call you?...sorry not gonna happen for me..
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| 9/2/2008 4:02:09 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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I love getting email and text messages they can be so personal and intimate so romantic and say lots especially for a shy person who finds it easier to put it in words..You can learn lots about a person by how they text and how they write... 
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| 9/2/2008 4:04:52 PM |
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goddess4no1
Belleville, NJ
age: 41
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Most people need to remain in their "comfort zone" before taking the next step. For some Email/chat is common ground where they can feel safe, until they move into the phone stage. Email/chat is a way to get to know someone through written conversation which enables people a bit of insight into who they may potentially want to get to know.
If you have to travel 20 miles to use a computer....maybe its time to invest!
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| 9/2/2008 4:05:10 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43 online now!
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L A Z Y S E L F - A B S O R B E D B R O K E M A R R I E D G A M E P L A Y E R pick one??
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| 9/2/2008 4:06:07 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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Before the internet came along, people had no choice but to call. Either you are into the person or not. Now, people get comfortable with cyberspace and play email and or chat ping pong. I don't. With a few exceptions with circumstances, I prefer to have live conversation. This is a dating site. Now some cases people are just friends and that's cool, but if ya here to date, then send a couple of emails or chat, get to calling, and get to meeting. JMO
Not all, but some people such as the one's with fake profiles or ones that have something to hide, use the excuse let's email for a while etc... Some people end up weeks emailing instead of talking and meeting. Other times, people miss out on some potential good mates. Not everyone wants to hang out in cyberspace regarding email. There are many situations when one thinks they are playing it safe by playing email/chat ping pong only to be disappointed because the person isn't quite the one they projected him/herself in those email/chat sessions. So those 1,2, and even 3+ weeks in some cases hanging out in cyberspace becomes a major disappointment. Yes, it happens often.
Besides, you still don't really get to know the person cause they can type anything to make things sound good. It's harder to fake ya personality and demeanor over the phone. There's nothing like hearing A LIVE VOICE. Hell, in some cases, the person behind the profile isn't the person who's actually sending ya the messages  Yes, it does happen.
Life is a risk. There's *67 if ya comfortable, you can block a person you feel is no good. IMO, there's really no excuse if you get a good vibe from a couple of emails and or chat.
For one, emailing is not instantaneous. You might not respond until a day or two later. Two, ya not going to be online the same time all the time so there's a big turnaround time in many cases which takes away from the conversation. How ya going to get a good feel if it's not instant live conversation? lol... Anywho, if you get a good vibe, the sooner ya talk, and the sooner ya meet, the better.
[Edited 9/2/2008 4:13:09 PM]
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| 9/2/2008 4:06:21 PM |
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blkbagger
McHenry, IL
age: 47
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I have to go 20 miles to use a library computer to use email. I would rather give out my phone number & have someone call than use email. I can learn more about a person in a phone call, & they can learn more about me. If they want to block their number until they are more comfortable with me that is ok. I am willing to call them.
If you have to go 20 miles to use email, I got to wonder how do you expect to have success at online dating??? Without ready access to a working internet connection how can you expect to communicate online??? Once a week, when you visit the library???
Just curious... Ken
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| 9/2/2008 4:08:17 PM |
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katsclown
Palm City, FL
age: 46
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I simply prefer to walk around the house when i talk..Not sit in a chair. also I can clean while I am talking on the phone...
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| 9/2/2008 4:21:09 PM |
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forumfun
Bellevue, WA
age: 47
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Because it's safer to keep your phone number to yourself until you have a good feeling about the person at the other end of the communication. Have you read some of the posts on this site? Do you want those people drunk-dialing you at 4:00 AM?
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| 9/2/2008 4:30:55 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43 online now!
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I am not a phone person but Ive adapted. Of course one friend telling me my voice could melt butter helped alot.
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| 9/2/2008 4:38:52 PM |
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magtag
East York, ON
age: 41
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Personally, I really don't enjoy talking on the phone with anyone. My friends and family all know this about me and rarely call unless there is a purpose (there has been the odd occasion that I will actually gab on the phone, but that's maybe once a year).
Although I am using this site as one avenue to possibly meet someone, I tend to enjoy the old fashioned way of meeting someone in person and developing a little something in real life. At that point, sure I'd talk to them on the phone, but more likely to arrange meeting them than to just chit chat. I also don't like to email endlessly if there is any kind of interest when meeting someone online. Let's meet as soon as possible and take it from there.
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| 9/2/2008 4:50:29 PM |
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suffolk
Cortez, CO
age: 56
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Most people need to remain in their "comfort zone" before taking the next step. For some Email/chat is common ground where they can feel safe, until they move into the phone stage. Email/chat is a way to get to know someone through written conversation which enables people a bit of insight into who they may potentially want to get to know.
If you have to travel 20 miles to use a computer....maybe its time to invest!
I am off the grid, so would also have to invest in a new, expensive inverter as well as add a package for cell phone use. Don't really like computers. To impersonal.
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| 9/2/2008 4:52:34 PM |
why don't people want to use the phone to say hi instead of email |
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suffolk
Cortez, CO
age: 56
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Most people need to remain in their "comfort zone" before taking the next step. For some Email/chat is common ground where they can feel safe, until they move into the phone stage. Email/chat is a way to get to know someone through written conversation which enables people a bit of insight into who they may potentially want to get to know.
If you have to travel 20 miles to use a computer....maybe its time to invest!
I am off the grid, so would also have to invest in a new, expensive inverter as well as add a package for cell phone use. Don't really like computers. To impersonal. I do use email , prefer phone.
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| 9/2/2008 4:56:37 PM |
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ricksp65
Hopewell, NJ
age: 43
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Hers some tidbits that might help I know dating has become more complex these days especially with the Internet in the mix. So here is what I have learned so far.
1, I constantly here people say they turned to the internet because they don’t like to meet people in the real world bad move, It should only be used to supplement to your dating life
Not as your sole way to reach out lets face the facts the odes are not in you favor you need to level the playing field by having more cards on the table so turn off the PC and get your But out.
2, don’t west time on endless emails and chat on someone you will never meet there is a great number of people that seem to have an internet life going and could not be turn away from there PC if the house was on fire. A good rule is if you don’t get a phone number in a reasonable time move on.
3,Wen you do get to the phone (LISTEN CLOSY) you can learn a lot not be what they say but how is stated. Make you intentions clear and understand there’s.
4, look out for the pro dates theses people will rock you wallet and spin your head but there easy to spot if you know what your looking for if you subject simple fist dates you can usually fend them off.
Well good Luck and happy hunting.
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| 9/2/2008 6:37:34 PM |
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lovelyrider
Pelham, NH
age: 47
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Thebestman said it all. I feel the exact same way as he does. You don't know who you are talking to through email. God! You could be talking to a 16 year old kid. I get a kick out of these guys that ask you out through email "Hey do you want to meet for coffee?. You don't look at your messages for 2 days and the weekends gone by. Than when you give them your telephone number, they call when they know your at work or just never hear from them. These are adults? Let's stop playing games on this site. If your IM'ing someone and your hitting it off than move to the next step.
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