sneakyweasel
Lakeview, OH
age: 23
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Ok long thread sorry, and probably more than one question. A little background, my girlfriend and I live about 100 miles from each other. We believe we are sole mates, were gonna be together forever. We just fit. Well, living so far apart for the time being we decided awhile back to have an open relationship, because we couldn't be there to satisfy each others needs. Not just physically but mentally too. Well I met a girl about a week ago, we talked for a few days and I gave her my number. She texted me so I would have hers. Well we texted and talked on the phone for a few more days. The other night she sent me a text that said she tought I was really good looking, she was drunk. So I waited till morning and asked her if it was just the alcohol talking and she said no it wasn't. I figured before it went any further I should tell her that I'm involved with someone, because i wasn't raised to lie to people or lead them on. Well it didn't seem to bother her that i said so until I told her we had an open relationship. Now she hasn't contacted me for two days. A lot of people I tell I'm in an open relationship, male and female, btw I'm not gay, stop talking to me. Like it scares them or something. And I don't just go around advertising it either. So should I try to call the girl or what, and would people rather you lie to them about stuff like that. I really was looking forward to being friends with this girl not just get in her pants but it wouldn't be right to lead her on.
It's not really fun on the side for me, like I said not just physically but some one to talk to, be friends with, not just an f*buddy. Like really good friends with benifits.
I know I'm not right, but at least I admit it.
[Edited 9/9/2008 6:02:46 AM]
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chellenc2008
Clayton, NC
age: 40
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I don't know about her...but I know what would scare me about meeting someone involved in an open relationship - if a guy tells me that, then the first thing I think is he's already somewhat committed to someone else and he only wants me for fun on the side.
Yes, you should be honest about it. That way someone looking for an exclusive relationship won't be hurt. You can probably find someone that won't mind it.
[Edited 9/9/2008 5:59:50 AM]
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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doesnt sound like soul mates to me
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mrwally2007
Fort Smith, AR
age: 45 online now!
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Never been in an "open" relationship, so I can't speak from experience.
IMO, as long as you and your GF are open and agree, to each their own.
Now the new girl not having a problem until...........Well some tolerate open relationships, some don't.
If you're gonna lie just to get some action, that's your choice, but, will it come back to haunt you later?
I'd say, keep being honest with the new girls, you'll feel better about yourself in the long run.
I'd give her a call, She'll either tell you how she feels, or you'll get hung up on. Either way, you'll have your answer.
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
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The problem with being honest is that other people do not believe you're really being honest. To me, if a gal tells me she has an open relationship, I'm going to doubt it no matter how truthful she is about it. Just a human nature thing. If it's too good to be true, chances are...
And this is beside other factors and stigmas associated with open relationships.
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