| 9/12/2008 2:49:19 PM |
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phoenix63
Irvine, CA
age: 44
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At one time my financial resources were booming and I had a super nice job to boot. I still live pretty good, but due to a back injury some years ago, I started receiving disability. The amount I receive is not shabby but I don't have money to throw away. I was receiving disability payments when I met my second wife. Before our final split we had split up and reconciled on a few occasions. On one of those occasions, and after I had begun dating someone, my ex made the comment, "No woman in their right mind is going to want a man that is not employed. I don't care if they make minimum wage a woman is going to want a man that is has a job."
I reminded her that when we met I was receiving the disability payments. Her response was, "That just shows you that I'm crazy too."
So, my question to the women: Is actual employment a must with most women? Is it a turn off if a man is not actually employed?
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| 9/12/2008 2:54:14 PM |
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yeahthisisme
Clearfield, UT
age: 55
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Employment NO, your own funds YES. I do not want to support anyone because they are lazy. In your case you can't work but you still are ok as far as taking care of yourself. I am sure you wouldn't want to support anyone either. But it shouldn't matter as far as a relationship goes (I am talking your situation here).
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| 9/12/2008 3:05:47 PM |
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g_d77
Watertown, NY
age: 30
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What if someone won the lottery? They would be rich, and most likely wouldn't work. And at least your ex wife admitted she was crazy! Most don't even though they are.
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| 9/12/2008 3:30:22 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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Sounds like your ex was not genuine...It doesnt matter if you are not bringing in big wealth it matters that you are alive and as healthy as can be given the circumstances...If a woman truly loves you she will accept you as you are with or without employment....Its not the job that makes the person......
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| 9/12/2008 4:28:10 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
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A dude can have a job and still not be financially sound enough to be relationship worthy. I feel it all depends on how financially stable you are in your current status. And to always strive for financial freedom.
[Edited 9/12/2008 4:28:27 PM]
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| 9/12/2008 4:33:00 PM |
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powerfemme
Ansonia, CT
age: 42
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A dude can have a job and still not be financially sound enough to be relationship worthy. I feel it all depends on how financially stable you are in your current status. And to always strive for financial freedom.
Very well put... 
Peace
PF
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| 9/12/2008 4:53:24 PM |
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responsible1
Ashford, WA
age: 59
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no one owes anyone else a free ride, If you come into a relationship with bill to pay you should be the one paying them. Just dont live beyond your means and expect the other person to pick up the slack unless thats what you both agree on.---LUCAS
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| 9/12/2008 5:12:34 PM |
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hun_rock
Preston, ID
age: 46
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I pay my own bills and own my own home...
never ask any one to help me out....
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| 9/12/2008 5:17:25 PM |
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steelhorsehd
Lufkin, TX
age: 56
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I pay my own bills and own my own home...
never ask any one to help me out....
I like independent women
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| 9/12/2008 5:42:09 PM |
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phoenix63
Irvine, CA
age: 44
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I was doing well enough that when we met she was working two jobs and couldn't make ends meet. After we were together, she was able to quit one job and eventually both jobs. She then never worked for at least another year...unless you count working a job for a day or two and quitting it. She must have gone through at least ten jobs...always saying she couldn't take it. She finally landed one and it was literally a job that she could sit on where she could set on her a** before she could hold down one.
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| 9/12/2008 5:58:02 PM |
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frznupnth
Stratton, ME
age: 39
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I pay my own bills but rent a decent 2 bedroom apt instead of owning a home. In a relationship both people need to work to pay for their own personal stuff and food/ bills should be worked out in whatever way feels reciprocal to both of you. As long as neither person feels like they're supporting the other-- no problem. Going out for a nice dinner or a movie-- the man should pay-- just seems appropriate.  
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| 9/12/2008 7:17:13 PM |
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vespertinesun
Chicago, IL
age: 50
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The job market is volatile and anyone, I mean ANYONE can lose their job at any time through no fault of their own, so I would have to look at it situation by situation. BUT, I would think finding a job would be more of an immediate concern over finding a partner. Just sayin'.
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| 9/12/2008 7:20:53 PM |
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texas_okie
Laverne, OK
age: 42
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The job market is volatile and anyone, I mean ANYONE can lose their job at any time through no fault of their own, so I would have to look at it situation by situation. BUT, I would think finding a job would be more of an immediate concern over finding a partner. Just sayin'.
You hit the nail on the head!
Dont be looking for a partner if you cant take care of yourself!
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| 9/12/2008 9:27:58 PM |
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sunfreak
Harwich, MA
age: 37
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I think it's good to have a job you love.
If u are gonna b*tch about work after hours, thats a drag.
If u get a check s.s. or disability thats fine as long as u can support yourself and are content with the situation
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| 9/12/2008 9:53:54 PM |
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satinsky2
Charlotte, NC
age: 59
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I agree that a person doesn't have to have a Job, and if they bring in money legally then they are also doing their part. What does get to me however, is when the other person says, " I have a Job and you don't do anything" But, you take care of all the housework and you also pay bills, go figure
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