| 9/21/2008 6:10:20 PM |
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frznterp
Saint Paul, MN
age: 36
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Absolutely! But remember if you ask, you pay.
And don't try to go cheap on me with "Oh I'll cook you dinner" or "let's meet for drinks", like I do to women. No if you ask me out I want the lobster.
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| 9/21/2008 6:15:28 PM |
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alex423
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 23
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I know usually the men tend to ask women out but it's cool if a woman asks a guy out. Nothing wrong with that.
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| 9/21/2008 8:30:41 PM |
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manykisses
Tonawanda, NY
age: 50
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Thank you eyeonheaven, I am new on the dating scene and am not sure of the rules!! Just trying to learn the new rules of engagement, so to speak!! 
Save me some typing here, darlin' - go to my profile, then to my blog on here, and read the entry about why I hate the dating game.
We're all adults and we should be able to make our own rules. Really we only need two:
1. Man, thou shalt not hurt Woman.
2. Woman, thou shalt not hurt Man.
That's it. Print three copies. Give one to Man, give one to Woman, tack the third one up on the wall, and let the fun begin.
A lot of us in life have been in failed relationships before and have been hurt deeply, we meet another person who has been hurt also, and we're like two ships on Star Trek. Red alert! Shields up! Stare across space at each other. Something really wonderful might happen between two people but one of them has to have the guts to say, shields down, secure from red alert. Doesn't matter which person it is but if neither does it, all you're going to do is look at each other and wonder might happen IF...
Yeah. My hat's off to the woman who isn't afraid to go after it. Antiquated notions of what's "proper" and what isn't be damned - That kind of artificial morality is left over from a different era in history, when the roles of men and women in the home and in society were far different from what they are today. What do you want to do, wear a sharshaf and walk three steps behind your man at all times? Or do you want to be at his side where you belong? My guess is you want to be at his side, as an equal. That being the case, what's wrong with behaving as such? 
John
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| 9/21/2008 8:32:24 PM |
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manykisses
Tonawanda, NY
age: 50
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Ok, and if you want to cook me dinner, that's fine with me. Long as I get to cook you dinner another time.
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| 9/21/2008 8:36:53 PM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
age: 29
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Sure it is OK for a woman to ask a man out, sometimes we even perfer it, a woman knows if a man likes them, but most men have know idea if a woman wants to date them. Because there are many reasons for a woman to be extra nice to a man alot of them have agendas. So us men just have to apporoach most women with extreme caution. lol
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| 9/21/2008 8:43:24 PM |
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got_fever
Dallas, TX
age: 29
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op...
are we (women) not in control of our own feelings today? who cares if it's wrong/right? or who cares who thinks what about it. free world, anything goes (almost) 
live long, die happy!
Cary 
[Edited 9/21/2008 8:44:27 PM]
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| 9/21/2008 9:08:42 PM |
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timetestedtuff
Lexington, MO
age: 62
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I think its a great idea, men have been doing it for years and its time to let someone else take the lead.
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| 9/21/2008 11:36:32 PM |
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tarotdream
Ventura, CA
age: 53
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I think it's great. I'm always flattered, even if I have to say no. I try to be encouraging to her.
I think this has become more common because of feminism. On one side, it encourages women to do so which, besides flattering men, gives insight into what men feel.
But one thing I *perceive* is that women have become more assertive in saying no. Politely done, this is an improvement over vague, uncertain refusals. But I believe the rude refusal has become more common. Rude beyond necessary. Plus the ugly specter of sexual harassment. Most women show good judgment about this but often you are speaking to someone you don't know very much about. The accusation is a nightmare. Is it worth it?
As for not looking desperate or cheap. Staying calm helps. Keeping your voice light, too. Most importantly, resist characterizing a response as pointing out you're desperate or cheap.
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| 9/21/2008 11:56:45 PM |
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dawgs832
Mount Juliet, TN
age: 38 online now!
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i think its ok,,,i like it when a female hints around that she wants to go out,,,i believe that many people have passed up the love of there life by not asking some out because they r scared,,,,,,,,
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| 9/22/2008 3:25:35 AM |
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jbj85
Fremont, OH
age: 23
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of course it's ok. I've had around 12 women ask me out first. Heck nowdays women come up and just flat out tell me that they are horny. So I think in today's society that the woman taking the lead is widely accepted.
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| 9/22/2008 3:27:45 AM |
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drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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Is it ok for a lady to ask a guy out? Is this proper? How does it make him feel? Does a man find this to be to forward? 
yes, nowadays, it should be acceptable for women to ask men out on a date. and if a woman ever asks me out on one, i'll get back to you and let you know how it feels. 
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| 9/22/2008 5:05:17 AM |
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spider_man5
Westfield, MA
age: 44
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It will work especially if the guys shy and too afraid to ask yes they still exist
its a chance u take, he either says yes or no just like when men ask women but reversed
and then take him some place to chat dinner and a movie......maybe......and even a walk and talk afterwards........at least he knows your interested and may plan the 2nd date.... and so on.......
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| 9/22/2008 5:29:44 AM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 52
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Of course, it is okay and most men love it!!!!
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| 9/22/2008 5:33:22 AM |
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matt112285
Punta Gorda, FL
age: 23
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YES YES YES... too many women are concerned with proper dating structure and forget that guys are pretty lazy...! 
I think you summed it up right there...... But no really, its nice to get some input. Maybe the guy isnt shure how you feel about him, or is worried you would say no.
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| 9/22/2008 8:54:46 AM |
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rstfleur
Tampa, FL
age: 21
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Of course its ok if a lady ask a man out. Im happy OP brought this thread up because I posted a similar thread like this a week before. I would give a girl more respect if she came and asked me out. It just shows that she had the intestinal fortitude and decided to get out those traditional roles. Many women I've seen are always waiting for the guy to make the move and if he doesn't, they say things like "It's the man's job to come at me, so I'm not gonna go ask him out." Or some of them say that the guy might think they are too forward. You really shouldnt worry how someone will think of you because if they are not interested, it their loss, not yours.
I really think women are more scared of rejection than men, so they decide to stay in that comfort zone of traditional roles, and then they complain because they didnt take the intiative and pass up on the opportunity. Like one of the guys said earlier, it would make dating much easier if many women were to ask a guy on the date instead of the guy trying to find ways to talk to them. What is the most interesting thing I've observed is that majority of the women are looking for a guy with great confidence in himself and he is not afraid to go after it, however, those are the same women that have no confidence to ask a guy out.
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