| 9/22/2008 5:46:16 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 45
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I was just reading the "Why are you on DH" thread and noticed that some people had indicated that DH seemed to be the only way to meet someone of the opposite sex.
Do people really think that?
It's a pretty big world out there.
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| 9/22/2008 5:50:16 AM |
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alliejess
Queensland
Australia
age: 50 online now!
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hey i reckon every-one should get out there and live it up
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| 9/22/2008 5:57:03 AM |
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aka_neo
Marathon, FL
age: 51
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People can be met anywhere .
The gals I've been meeting here in the Keys are
on drugs ,medication ,alcoholics ,prissy rich ,
nice and pleasant,sad and depressed ,fun and delightful
or just down right mean and nasty and some are normal ,I guess .
But ,the ones I've been with intimately ,four in nine years ,
haven't been the ones that I wish to be with ,for ever.
So ,here I am on DH introducing myself ,chatting ,reading and
meeting others from different places ,two so far ,and they weren't
for me, either .
Another, might very well be, meant for me ,
so I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing .
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| 9/22/2008 6:04:13 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 45
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DH seems to be a good way to meet people.....nothing wrong with that.
But I would argue that it's the only way.
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| 9/22/2008 6:05:37 AM |
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sandandsea
Stanfield, NC
age: 48
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Like I always say: Mr. Right is NOT going to show up at your house uninvited!
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| 9/22/2008 6:06:38 AM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 41
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You are so right - now to figure out where to meet them out in the world. I have to say one thing I am leary about is knowing if they REALLY are available or just forgot to put the ring on that day. I don't have any single girlfriends to go out with either. I recently heard that the library or a book store may not be a bad idea. Where can I meet a man in uniform (besides speeding down the road) Firemen and military guys interest me. 
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| 9/22/2008 6:13:33 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 45
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There are pancake breakfasts for our fire departments locally several times a year.
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| 9/22/2008 6:14:44 AM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 40
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Of course the internet is not the only place to meet people, but not everyone has the freedom to be out and about meeting people all the time. I am lucky because my kids are older and, I work for the government, lol so I have a life, but not everyone has the same freedom I do.
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| 9/22/2008 6:22:10 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
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There are pancake breakfasts for our fire departments locally several times a year.[/quote
Oh crap, OP, I just divorced a retired FDNY. It's hard finding a man who is breathing, let alone vital in this town. Additionally, my job makes me work strange hours (I get home at 11:00 pm every night) and by that time, I am exhausted. Stand 10 men next to each other here and you'll find 12 teeth. Got the picture? My computer, phone and tv are my new best friends because I just divorced a man who put alcohol before me and I won't go to bars to find the next one.
So...I am screwed without the romance 
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| 9/22/2008 8:03:02 AM |
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lilmissala
Hartselle, AL
age: 51
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Yep you are right might not meet him on here. I don't do clubs and bars and around here that's about all there is to do. Nobody at church that's single in my age group. They do have a Christian single's group that meets a couple of times a month over in the next city...only a few guys to 50 women! They weren't in my age group either. Friends have tried to set me up...that's exactly what it was a set up for him and me both. We had absolutely nothing in common. I even went to the bingo night at the Lodge only to find it was mostly a bunch of women and very few men. The ones that were in my age group were working the bingo and definitely married or spoke for. Went to a few senior citizen dances (they are popular here) again more women than men and most of the mens dance cards were filled up. Those old women would scratch your eyes out if you tried to cut in on their dance! LOL There was one sweet man that always danced with me somehow he managed to be at every dance I went to he was 75 never been married and although he tried his best to get a date with me the age difference was definitely a factor. I met a few guys at the Al-anon meetings I use to attend but alas they weren't my type. So any more bright ideas? Meanwhile I will sit at my computer,check out the forums and occassionally glance through a few profiles. Who knows Mr. Right could be just a click away!
Sorry if I sound sarcastic don't mean to be honestly I am just out of ideas.
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| 9/22/2008 8:19:04 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 45
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I don't think you were being sarcastic at all.
I posted this thread because I read several replies that indicated this was the only avenue available to date.
You showed several in your post.
Thank you.............
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| 9/22/2008 8:20:36 AM |
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tarotdream
Ventura, CA
age: 53
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I was just reading the "Why are you on DH" thread and noticed that some people had indicated that DH seemed to be the only way to meet someone of the opposite sex.
Do people really think that?
It's a pretty big world out there.
A man/woman on your arm is bait for other fish.
Recently a woman wrote a book about her decision to accept every offer of a date. She claimed it was less scary than expected. And she met a guy she married who was someone she wouldn't have gone out with otherwise.
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| 9/22/2008 8:36:14 AM |
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binderdundat
Metairie, LA
age: 46
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I'm so grateful for internet dating sites it isn't even funny. When I lived in WI, I used to play pool competitively. I could walk into any establishment and know somebody to hang with. Had a HUGE circle of friends, and we were always doing something.
I moved here two years ago, and though I absolutely love it, my small circle of friends I've established are either married, or lead a different lifestyle than I do. I kind of have a catch 22 going on because though I've put my name into a poolhall looking to get on a team (so I can get out and enlarge my circle) nobody wants to signup a nobody and with having to rely on my friends to go out with me, I'm not getting "known". I've never been approached in the gym... nor do I want to be! The "I met him in the supermarket" stories are urban legends... and I'm not about to mix business with pleasure.
So... I internet date, and I take the good with the bad, and I look at it as even if I don't make a "love" match, you never know who you're going to meet through somebody else.
I'm extremely grateful for these dating sites... otherwise I'd just be "wandering around my house"
(maybe I'll copy & paste this in the "Why are you on DH?" thread )
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| 9/22/2008 9:05:00 AM |
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tarotdream
Ventura, CA
age: 53
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Quote from binderdundat: with having to rely on my friends to go out with me . . . . I've never been approached in the gym... nor do I want to be! . . . . and I'm not about to mix business with pleasure.
When we're younger we take more chances. We'd go alone, we cared less about the setting and cared much less about the future.
It seems to me your discussing possibilities with a negative perspective (yeah, it's me again). What WILL you do? What chances WILL you take? No matter what we tell ourselves, we are not thru making mistakes and embarrassing ourselves. So give up on dignity, just keep the integrity.
Build your own freakin' group. Me the dog (now dogs) would go to the beach and I was too shy (oh, yes I am) to speak to anyone. So I made up flyers for a dog hike and handed them out. Some showed up, we made the hike, some people met some people and drove off together as I sat there alone and went "Hmmmmmmmm".
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| 9/22/2008 9:08:32 AM |
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indoubt
Beaumont, CA
age: 33
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Its obviously not the only way but it is convenient
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