| 10/1/2008 12:54:55 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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lauras2
Bronx, NY
age: 24
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I'm constantly reading posts from "nice guys" who complain that most women overlook them for the "bad boy". These nice guys say how great they are yet they never win.
I'm sorry but for the most part women LOVE nice guys. What they don't love are the many nice guys out there who show no confidence, dominance, or mind of their own. Just like men, women like a challenge. Women also like men who are confident, know how and when to take charge, and how to say no. Many so called nice guys lack this. Women don't want a doormat. They want a partner. Many nice guys are so desperate for love and companionship that they will do whatever the woman says. Many will give up their lives and interests to be with the woman. Many are very clingy and needy and jealous, even in the beginning before they even really know the woman.
Just think about it in the opposite way. Most men also want a confident woman who has her own life. Who's not afraid to say what is on her mind and who doesn't feel the need to be clingy or insecure.
Nice guys: Don't be afraid to be a man! Stand up for yourself, make sure you have a fulfilling and interesting life, be confident, and don't be needy. Most women really do love nice guys.
[Edited 10/1/2008 12:58:41 PM]
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| 10/1/2008 12:55:53 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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Show me your boobs.
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| 10/1/2008 12:58:41 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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irishboi
Dowagiac, MI
age: 39
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very well said Laura  I couldnt agree more
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| 10/1/2008 12:59:57 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 38
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Nice guys F*#k Last.sloppy seconds
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| 10/1/2008 1:03:39 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
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I don't know when this happened but being a "Nice Guy" or a "Good Guy" carries the stigma of being a Wussy or emasculated in some way.
A guy still can be a nice guy and still be confident and a leader. They just don't have to express or "sell" you that they are nice.
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| 10/1/2008 1:07:09 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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It's all moot really what the young women think of their man.. it's more important what OTHER people think of their man to them... imho
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| 10/1/2008 1:07:17 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48 online now!
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disagree with op.. and of course the ilk of eddie...
op.. what you described was not nice guys, but men who have psychological identity issues, lack of confidence, is just a symptom..
nice guys as a whole... are confident in themselves that they do not have to run around with a banner yelling to every one that they are "It" and look at me... , that they take pride in their accomplishments, but do not proclaim to the world all that they have done, and women should worship them for it...
nice guys can be every thing good in a man..
a bad guy.. is just that bad,, bad for the self confidence of the women he goes out with,
bad for him self...
take a good guy any day...
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| 10/1/2008 1:07:49 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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crabberman
Wilmington, DE
age: 51
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I think you have your head to far up your azz...wouldnt know a nice guy from a whimpy guy...nice guys dont have to be a whimp....or a bad ass.....but someplace in between...just because a guy dont have a Harley or dont have 30 girlfreinds and cheats on every relationship he has ever been in means he is a whimpy dude...and only will kiss your a** to get what he wants...maybe the guy is just a caring type man who respects women and everyone....I consider myself a nice guy but i aint gonna kiss no womans ass,....maybe her feet....
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| 10/1/2008 1:21:19 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 43
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OP... the "nice" guy you're describing sounds more like a "dead" guy to me.... Nice guys are out there in abundance. And they aren't doormats.
crabber... how bout you start at my feet .... 
[Edited 10/1/2008 1:26:17 PM]
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| 10/1/2008 1:24:57 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 38
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Nice guys don't have it in them to be mean.You cant be the leader of the pack with a mushy heart.
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| 10/1/2008 1:31:14 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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justl00k1n
Latta, SC
age: 37
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| 10/1/2008 1:50:09 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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xanaxx
Schenectady, NY
age: 21
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OP... the "nice" guy you're describing sounds more like a "dead" guy to me.... Nice guys are out there in abundance. And they aren't doormats.
sounds like a "submissive" guy to me...
OP- I totally agree with you, everything accept the "nice guy" part
A guy -
who show no confidence, dominance, or mind of their own
He isn’t going to attract a girl whether he is a nice guy or not.
I understand your post is just a rant about redundant “nice guy” threads, and it looks like you're only trying to help. I just don't want you to think all nice guys are like that. I’m a nice guy myself, don’t want that stereotype hanging over me.
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| 10/1/2008 1:58:25 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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chicaboom58
North Bergen, NJ
age: 59
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OP I agree and disagree with you. I have met here many nice guys and if it were not for the distance between us I would scoop them up in a heartbeat. I disagree with you as far as them not having self confidence, or standing up for themselves. The men I have met are very intelligent, and have their life in order and know what they want. I call them gentlemen and if women would allow them to shower us with their gentlemen ways they would be amazed. It is unfortunate that most women consider this a fault in men. I consider it an asset. When I meet a man and he is bright, courteous, assertive and respectful well all I can say is that is a turn on.
So to all the nice guys out there, keep being nice. Sooner or later we women will get the idea and then watch out. JMO
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| 10/1/2008 2:04:27 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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mike22304
Alexandria, VA
age: 62
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OP - Thanks for posting a full length picture of yourself in your profile. It is much appreciated. Guys are looking for inner beauty and personality mostly, but what to see the packaging. Thanks again,
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| 10/1/2008 2:11:08 PM |
Let's clear up the "nice guys finish last" thing. |
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crabberman
Wilmington, DE
age: 51
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Nice guys don't have it in them to be mean.You cant be the leader of the pack with a mushy heart.
you dont know what your talking about lust...
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