10/11/2008 7:38:20 AM |
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matt112285
Punta Gorda, FL
age: 23
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Ok, so I flopped last night or so I think..... I went out, had a good time with the girl (3rd date) BUT, didnt end up kissing her.... again. She seems into me, I just am SO shy and nervous that I cant get up the nerve to kiss this girl, or to make "a move". Just worried about offending her or screwing things up, but I am afrade I am making a bigger mistake by not trying to kiss her. I think things are still good cause I was able to set up a 4th and a 5th date last night, So    
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10/11/2008 7:40:08 AM |
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007shark
Crystal River, FL
age: 31
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If she agrees to a fourth date then she is expecting a kiss so there will be no more pressure.
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10/11/2008 7:48:23 AM |
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be4eyedie
Janesville, WI
age: 44
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If you get a fourth date you are still in the game...but I wouldn't wait much longer to make a move however small it is.
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10/11/2008 7:49:35 AM |
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tryagaindj68
Evansville, IN
age: 40
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You're fine. But make sure she knows she's on your mind, or she might start to think you only want to be friends. (Sad news for us, too, believe it or not.)
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10/11/2008 7:57:36 AM |
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sedonaphotofan
Sedona, AZ
age: 44
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Asked her out again, if she agrees then you are still there. I always error on the side of caution, it's safer.
Karl
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10/11/2008 8:03:46 AM |
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muskrat_love42
Camilla, GA
age: 43
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That is so unusual because most guys would have already tryed. I would not fault you for it, but not all women are like me.
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10/11/2008 8:22:03 AM |
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angelleyess
Middleboro, MA
age: 35 online now!
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shes definitely waiting for you to kiss her...
KISS THE GIRL ALREADY
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10/11/2008 8:33:07 AM |
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lobo_corazon
Kingston, ON
age: 39
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Two things - If you don't move forward, forward, forward... You'll almost certainly get stuck in the friend zone. I'll be honest, you may be done already with this gal. Shift it!
The solution to shyness is simply practice. You want to practice on women who you aren't so in to that it's going to be the "end of the world" if she says no. That's best in a couple of ways - It's less pressure so it makes it easier for you to work your way up slowly, and hey, let's face it, until you get some practice, you're probably going to get rejected a lot, because you suck at dating. 
Then when Ms. Smokey McHeartwrencher comes along, you'll be more confident and skilled from your practice in casual dating and flirting.
One more thing - Should it happen that the current girl gives you the "let's just be friends" speech - Do yourself a favor and move on! Don't moon around hoping she's change her mind, because it isn't going to happen. Get busy with the practicing instead!

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10/11/2008 11:40:58 AM |
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tarotdream
Ventura, CA
age: 53
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I guar-an-tee that if she was disappointed you did kiss her she's not thinking, "he's so lame" but more likely, "Was my breath bad? Did I have a pimple? Did I have a dumb look on my face?"
She's as nervous as you are. Guar-an-tee.
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10/11/2008 11:41:46 AM |
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indoubt
Beaumont, CA
age: 33 online now!
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Maybe your batting with the wrong "penis" put the wood down and go for the metal
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10/11/2008 11:42:36 AM |
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drummaster777
Auburn, WA
age: 33 online now!
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Just forget the kissing and go straight for the sex! 
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10/11/2008 11:43:28 AM |
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raydawg300
Bedford, OH
age: 27
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3rd date huh. 3rd date I believe would be OK to catch a buzz might help open up (not too much I hope lol) shit, worked 4 me 
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10/11/2008 11:43:37 AM |
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metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 47
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Simply have her read this thread...
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10/11/2008 11:46:35 AM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
age: 49
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signs that your not an aggressive guy,dont forget sometimes women like the take charge kind of guy,sounds like you might be leaning toward the nice guy image too much
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10/11/2008 11:48:21 AM |
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rusty_shorts
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35
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Kiss the chic......
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