OMG... This statement just chilled me to the bone. It really did! After the third date.. and she wanted sex... You would lower yourself to "give her what she wants" but then end the relationship??? As an error in character judgement??? After three dates you should have some idea of the "heart" of this woman. And your saying that knowing she had a tender loving heart.. but she wanted physical... you would just dump her??

Lord... I don't want to hurt your feelings.. but stay as far away from me as possible....... PLEASE!!

Wow, I go for a bike ride and upon my return I have a beautiful young woman telling me she wants me and that I’m amazing. At the same time I have a guy who frequently speaks of harming women telling me how charming he is. I’m a popular guy today.

"Lower myself"?

I don't think I'd use that term. Having made the mistake of misjudging her character, combined with being responsive to her affections in a manner disproportionate to the age of the relationship, and finding her in "need" of relief, what should I do? Leave her frustrated? No, I'd accommodate her, as best as possible, but be very disappointed at her lack of restraint and what obviously matters to her in the degree that it does.

No one can know the "heart" of a person after three dates -- they're still a relative stranger. Three months is too short and six months starts to give one an idea.

As for "dumping", I would (and have) reflected on the interaction, and would suggest that she'd be happier with someone who placed more importance on sex.

I will accommodate someone, in time, once their true nature has become apparent to me -- usually after six months or so. It will seem an appropriate extention of an expression of affection by that point. But still, for me to do so, and undertake the risk of disease, or pregnancy (measures to prevent both are not foolproof), represents a significant concession to what I still see as a weakness of character.

NO, you are being one of those 'holier than thou' types who is sooo very judgmental!!!

"Lower myself"?

I don't think I'd use that term. Having made the mistake of misjudging her character, combined with being responsive to her affections in a manner disproportionate to the age of the relationship, and finding her in "need" of relief, what should I do?
You should tell her straight out that you feel uncomfortable with the sexual part at this stage of the relationship

Leave her frustrated? YES!! leave her frustrated. Frustration is better that a broken heart. She has already formed an attachment after the three or so dates and feels you are trustworthy enough to offer herself fully to you

No, I'd accommodate her, as best as possible, but be very disappointed at her lack of restraint and what obviously matters to her in the degree that it does.
this is what I consider "lowering" yourself. Having sex with her through your disappointment is like looking down your nose at her and "giving her what she needs" like she is a child that can not control her desires. After three dates and you have not talked to her about your 3 mos.~rule~ then I'd say it was just as much YOUR lack of restraint and inability to communicate your agenda

No one can know the "heart" of a person after three dates -- they're still a relative stranger. Three months is too short and six months starts to give one an idea.
wrong.. I can tell the basic heart of a person within that time limit. If you can't than maybe you should spend more time in talking and sharing type of dates than movies or concerts..

As for "dumping", I would (and have) reflected on the interaction, and would suggest that she'd be happier with someone who placed more importance on sex.
Which would make the woman feel HURT.. USED (especially after you "lowered" yourself to accomodate her "needs") and remorsefull (especially if she had been a fool and begun to trust you.)

I will accommodate someone, in time, once their true nature has become apparent to me -- usually after six months or so. It will seem an appropriate extention of an expression of affection by that point.
accomodate? This tells me alot about your nature. If sharing physical love is only an "accomodation" then most women will run like hell! At this stage in our lives we have been "accomodated" enough to know what we are looking for. It is a big issue for most. If its not to you then thats YOUR issue NOT hers.

But still, for me to do so, and undertake the risk of disease, or pregnancy (measures to prevent both are not foolproof), represents a significant concession to what I still see as a weakness of character.
This is the only thing we MIGHT agree on. I have never had a STD or disease.. or gotten pregnant outside of a marriage.... but for the weakness of character? Good GOD man??? We are ALL weak of character at times. We are HUMAN! If you are looking for a woman of strong character who has minimal sexual needs and can play with your 6 month rule I wish you all the luck in the world. I really do. But MOST women and men need and desire human touch. It is a BASIC need of all humans. To say this woman has "weakness of character" because she wanted to feel your touch... then "dump" her because of HER "lack of restraint" is INHUMAN behavior in my book sir! Now, if you had sat down... let her cool down her hormones abit... asked her if she could wait and give it a little more time. .. explain that you liked her tremendously and didn't want to spoil it with moving too fast... then let her decide.. THAT would be basic HUMAN compassion! Not just f**k her then throw it in her face later that if she would have "restrained" herself she MIGHT still have you!! Talk about severely hurting someone with action and words!! It sounds like to me that she got you all hot and hard and you "accomodated" her out of YOUR need and then turned it around, blaming the interaction on HER weakness instead of taking part of the responsibility yourself.

Like I said.... I'm glad your far away... and I know what you look like..!!